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Michelle Segar Full- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Michelle Segar about making lasting change

Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.

Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.

In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness
  • How considering a different "why" for starting to be more physically active can be helpful
  • That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it
  • How too many "whys" dilute their positive effect on us
  • Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals
  • How answering the question, "What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?" can be important
  • That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity
  • That any physical movement is better than none at all - Everything counts!

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Direct download: Michelle_Seager_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:31pm EST

James R Doty - The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to James R Doty about the power of compassion

James R Doty, MD, is a Clinical Professor in the Department of Neurosurgery at Stanford University and the Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University School of Medicine. He completed his undergraduate education at the University of CA, Irvine and medical school at Tulane University. He trained in neurosurgery at Walter Reed Army Medical Center and completed fellowships in pediatric neurosurgery at Children’s Hospital in Philadelphia.

As Director of CCARE, Dr. Doty has collaborated on a number of research projects focused on compassion and altruism including the use of neuro-economic models to assess altruism, use of the CCARE developed compassion cultivation training in individuals and its effect, assessment of compassionate and altruistic judgment utilizing implanted brain electrodes and the use of optogenetic techniques to assess nurturing pathways in rodents.

Dr. Doty is also an inventor, entrepreneur and philanthropist having given support to a number of charitable organizations including Children as the Peacemakers, Global Healing, the Pachamama Alliance and Family & Children Services of Silicon Valley. Additionally, he has endowed chairs at major universities including Stanford University and his alma mater, Tulane University. He is on the Board of Directors of a number of non-profit foundations including the Dalai Lama Foundation, of which he is chairman and the Charter for Compassion International of which he is vice-chair. He is also on the International Advisory Board of the Council for the Parliament of the World’s Religions.

He is the author of Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart 

In This Interview, James R Doty and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His book,  Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart 
  • The impact of compassionate acts on our brain, health and well-being
  • How early in his childhood he felt like a leaf being blown around by an ill wind
  • The four key lessons that, when learned, changed the trajectory of his life
  • The difference between you and your inner voice
  • That when you create the internal circumstances for reaching your goal, that allows for the possibility of the outward circumstances to align themselves for your own success
  • A scientific perspective on the connection between the brain and the heart and the rest of the body

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Direct download: James_R._Doty_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:08pm EST

Parker J Palmer- The One You Feed
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This week we talk to Parker J Palmer about finding wholeness

Parker J. Palmer, is the founder and Senior Partner of the Center for Courage & Renewal. He is a world-renowned writer, speaker and activist who focuses on issues in education, community, leadership, spirituality and social change. He has reached millions worldwide through his nine books, including Let Your Life Speak, The Courage to Teach, A Hidden Wholeness, and Healing the Heart of Democracy.

Parker holds a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of California at Berkeley, as well as eleven honorary doctorates, two Distinguished Achievement Awards from the National Educational Press Association, and an Award of Excellence from the Associated Church Press. In 2010, Palmer was given the William Rainey Harper Award whose previous recipients include Margaret Mead, Elie Wiesel, and Paolo Freire. In 2011, he was named an Utne Reader Visionary, one of “25 people who are changing your world.”

 

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In This Interview, Parker J Palmer and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • That wholeness is not about perfection but it's about embracing all that we are
  • His book, Hidden Wholeness: A Journey Towards an Undivided Life
  • What the idea of "the Soul" means to him
  • His experiences with clinical depression and the lesson he's learned, a.k.a. "the pearl of great price"
  • What "the divided life" is
  • That we need BOTH community and solitude
  • The voice of depression
  • The important concept of, "If you can't be in community, watch out for being alone and if you can't be alone, watch out for being in community."
  • The idea of "The Circle of Trust"
  • That sometimes giving advice to someone is like giving CPR to people who can breathe for themselves & when we give them CPR, we're actually inhibiting their own capacity to breathe
  • The importance of letting another person work their way to the answer themselves
  • His book, Healing the Heart of Democracy
  • What he has to say about the current state of politics
  • That rather than looking at the right vs left division in politics, another view is to look at the people who think they can't do anything politically and have given up vs the activists
  • That our founding fathers really got it wrong when defining who "we the people" are
  • The important role that conflict brings to our form of government
  • The Five Habits of the Heart that are important to healing the heart of democracy

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A.H. Almaas- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to A.H. Almaas about spiritual awakening

A. H. Almaas is the pen name of A. Hameed Ali, creator of the Diamond Approach to Self-Realization. The Diamond Approach is a contemporary teaching that developed within the context of both ancient spiritual teachings and modern depth psychology theories.

Almaas has authored seventeen books about spiritual realization, including the Diamond Heart seriesThe Pearl Beyond PriceThe VoidThe Unfolding Now, and The Point of Existence.

He founded the Ridhwan School, an inner work school devoted to the realization of True Nature. The orientation of the school is directed toward helping students become aware of and embody their “essence” or essential nature.

His latest book is Runaway Realization: Living a Life of Ceaseless Discovery.

In This Interview, A.H. Almaas and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The different layers of consciousness
  • The angelic and animal nature
  • How the animal side is focused on our survival- the drive to survive
  • Being is our fundamental essence
  • Self Realization- when our Being and our identity becomes the same thing
  • The primary method of The Diamond Approach- direct experience of being
  • The process of inquiry
  • Engaging in some practice that questions what we assume to know about ourselves
  • How taking things at face value shortchanges ourselves of deeper knowledge
  • How the separate sense of self is not an illusion, but it is only one of the ways to view reality

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Direct download: Hameed_Ali_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:13pm EST

Norman Rosenthal The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Norman Rosenthal about transcendental meditation

Dr. Norman Rosenthal is a world-renowned psychiatrist, public speaker and best-selling author who is known for his innovative research and inspirational writings. He is currently clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University School of Medicine. He is most known for his discovery of Seasonal Affective Disorder.

He is currently clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University School of Medicine. His new book is Supermind: How to Boost Performance and Live a Richer and Happier Life Through Transcendental Meditation

 

In This Interview,Norman Rosenthal and I Discuss...

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A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

This parable goes by many names including:

The Tale of Two Wolves

The Parable of the Two Wolves

Two Wolves

Which Wolf Do You Feed

Which Wolf are You Feeding

Which Wolf Will You Feed

It also often features different animals, mainly two dogs.

Direct download: Norman_Rosenthal_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:59pm EST

kira asatryan- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Kira Astrayan about overcoming loneliness

Kira Asatryan is certified relationship coach, author, blogger, loneliness expert, and speaker. She loves to speak publicly on the topic of loneliness, as it's a problem of epidemic proportions in our modern times. She maintains a private coaching practice in San Francisco where she helps couples, and individuals develop closeness - the antidote to loneliness - in their relationships.

She has struggled with loneliness her whole life and has come to find that there are many others out there like her.

She has spent her coaching career researching, pondering, and reflecting upon what specifically makes relationships feel good or bad.

 

In This Interview, Kira Asatryan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her book, Stop Being Lonely; Three simple steps to developing close friendships and deep relationships
  • The new type of loneliness in modern society
  • How closeness means direct access to another person's inner world
  • How knowing and caring are the two things that create closeness
  • The importance of seeing others from their perspective and letting them see you from your perspective
  • The role of being interested in and invested in another's well-being
  • That instead of fostering closeness, that worrying about someone can sometimes push them away
  • What it is about technology that can cause distance even when we're around other people
  • That love is not a reliable solution to loneliness

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Direct download: Kira_Asatryan_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:32pm EST

John Prendergast The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to John Prendergast about tuning into our body

John J. Prendergast, PhD, is a psychotherapist, retired professor of psychology, spiritual teacher, and founder and editor-in-chief of Undivided: The Online Journal of Nonduality and Psychology.

 He received my undergraduate degree from UC Santa Cruz and my M.A. and Ph.D. from the California Institute of Integral Studies.  He is licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist.
 
 

In This Interview, John Prendergast and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How important our body is
  • What "knowing" is
  • Learning to trust our deeper knowledge
  • The difference between inner knowing and hunches based on fear
  • Finding true knowing from ego desires
  • The static in our system
  • Observing thoughts as just thoughts

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Direct download: John_Prendergast_Final.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 8:52pm EST

Russell Simmons Full- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Russell Simmons about being a giver

 

Russell Simmons is an American entrepreneur and author. He began his entrepreneurial career in his youth, but on the wrong side of the law, selling marijuana to make money while an active member of a local gang.

He then partnered with Rick Rubin to create Def Jam Records, and signed artists like the Beastie Boys, LL Cool J, Public Enemy and Run-D.M.C. He is also The Chairman and CEO of Rush Communications, he cofounded the hip-hop music label Def Jam Recordings and created the clothing fashion lines Phat Farm, Argyleculture, and Tantris.

He is also a vocal proponent of meditation and veganism.

In This Interview, Russell Simmons and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How good givers are great getters
  • Giving before you get
  • Dissociating ourselves from the results of our labors
  • How success and fame don't necessarily make us happy
  • Improving our health through veganism
  • Improving the health of the planet through veganism
  • Corporate greed
  • The horrors of factory farming
  • His experience with Occupy Wall Street
  • The corruption in politics
  • His daily yoga practice
  • Combining yoga, meditation, and veganism
  • Remaining useful and active as we age

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Category:general -- posted at: 9:57pm EST

Benjamin Shalva- The One You Feed 1

 

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This week we talk to Benjamin Shalva about spiritual cross training

Benjamin Shalva is a rabbi, writer, and yoga instructor, he leads spiritual cross-training seminars and workshops around the world. He received his rabbinical ordination from the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York City and his yoga teacher certification from the Yogic Physical Culture Academy in Los Cabos, Mexico. Shalva serves on the faculty of the Jewish Mindfulness Center of Washington and the 6th & I Historic Synagogue in Washington, DC, leads musical prayer services for Bet Mishpachah in Washington, DC, and spends his summers as the camp rabbi of Tamarack Camps in Michigan. His writings have been published in the Washington Post, Elephant Journal, and Spirituality & Health magazine. Born in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, he lives in Reston, Virginia, with his wife and their children.

 

In This Interview, Benjamin Shalva and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His book, Spiritual Cross-Training: Searching through Silence, Stretch & Song
  • How he has been searching all of his life
  • That spiritual work produces nothing tangible
  • That spiritual growth is slow yet real & discernable in our lives
  • Spiritual connection & growth, like friendship, is built through time, energy & attention
  • What "spiritual cross-training" is
  • His spiritual experience with the 3 modalities of silence, stretch & song
  • How sticking to just one spiritual practice, over time becomes hobby
  • The importance of "diving deep" into your chosen 2-3 spiritual practices
  • How to deal with ego & ambition when it shows up in your spiritual practice
  • How inviting the ego voice in his head to join him in his spiritual practice has been a useful tool in his life
  • How what you resist, persists
  • That, in the spiritual journey "...when we've exhausted all other options, we always have one weapon left in our arsenal....laughter"
 

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Category:general -- posted at: 6:39pm EST

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The #2 Mistake Most People Make When Trying to Change Behavior:

Dropping Old Behaviors Without Putting Something In Their Place

Nature abhors a vacuum. Behaviors that have been done frequently enough that they have become habits are things that are now done mindlessly or effortlessly during our day. If at a certain time of day you do something and then all of the sudden you stop doing that thing, you are now left with a slice of time that was filled and is now empty. When faced with that empty space of time, it’s going to be really hard to resist doing the thing you’ve become habituated to do. So, put some other behavior in it’s place.

In addition, a lot of our “negative” behavior patterns happen for a reason. There is something that they are doing for us (or did at one time). Removing them without some sort of substitute leaves a need unmet.

For example, let’s say that everyday when you get home from work you have a snack. You’d like to stop having that snack because it’s close to dinner time and you don’t want the extra calories. Instead of coming home from work, sitting on the couch and doing nothing, resisting the urge to have something to eat, maybe you go for a 15 minute walk around your neighborhood instead.

 

 

 

The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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