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This week we talk to Benjamin Shalva

Benjamin Shalva is the nationally renowned author of Ambition Addiction: How to Go Slow, Give Thanks, and Discover Joy Within and Spiritual Cross-Training: Searching through Silence, Stretch, and Song and has been published in the Washington Post, Elephant Journal, and Spirituality & Health magazine. A rabbi, writer, meditation teacher, and yoga instructor, he leads spiritual seminars and workshops around the world.

 In This Interview, Benjamin Shalva and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, Ambition Addiction: How to go slow, give thanks and discover the Joy Within
  • That ambition can be healthy and it can also cross the line to being destructive
  • The casualties ambition can leave behind
  • The mirage of "any day now"
  • The signs and symptoms of ambition addiction
  • That addictive behavior is something we do often and it's counterproductive
  • The helpfulness of the question: Is my goal an all or nothing goal?
  • That the road to hell is not paved with good intentions, it's paved with unexamined intentions
  • Recovering from ambition addiction
  • The technique of breath, word and deed
  • The key step of slowing down


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Michelle Gielan Full- The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Michelle Gielan

Michelle Gielan, national CBS News anchor turned positive psychology researcher, is the bestselling author of Broadcasting Happiness.

Michelle is the Founder of the Institute for Applied Positive Research and is partnered with Arianna Huffington to study how transformative stories fuel success. She is an Executive Producer of “The Happiness Advantage” Special on PBS and a featured professor in Oprah’s Happiness course.

Michelle holds a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, and her research and advice have received attention from The New York Times, Washington Post, FORBES, CNN, FOX, and Harvard Business Review.

 In This Interview, Michelle Gielan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her new book, Broadcasting Happiness: The Science of Igniting and Sustaining Positive Change
  • The role that watching the news has in causing us to feel depressed
  • How three minutes of negative news can lead to a 27% lower mood all day long
  • How believing we are helpless can be one of the leading causes of depression
  • The importance of believing that our behavior matters
  • The three greatest predictors of success
  • Stress isn't necessarily bad, it's the perception that matters
  • Feeding the good wolf in others
  • The myth that we can't change other people
  • Is this positive thinking?
  • Focusing on the good
  • The power lead



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Category:general -- posted at: 9:43pm EDT

Roger Housden Full- The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Roger Housden about dropping the struggle

Roger Housden founded and ran The Open Gate, a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass, Thich Nath Hanh, and many others into Europe.

His work has been featured many times in The Oprah MagazineThe New York Times, and the Los Angeles Times.

His first book was published in the U.K. in 1990, and as of 2014, he has published twenty two books, including four travel books, a novella, Chasing Love and Revelation, and the best-selling Ten Poems series, which began in 2001 with Ten Poems to Change Your Life and ended with the publication in 2012 of Ten Poems to Say Goodbye.

His latest book is called Dropping the Struggle: Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have

 In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, Dropping the Struggle: Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have
  • The power of poetry to reach deeper than the rational mind
  • That struggle is not the same thing as effort
  • That struggle is not the same thing as work
  • That struggle is an extra push that really originates in fear, adding a note of desperation, that rarely ever works

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:35pm EDT

This is a very brief summary of my thinking today post-election.



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Mike McHargue


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This week we talk to Mike McHargue about beliefs

Mike McHargue (better known as Science Mike) is the best-selling author of Finding God in the Waves, host of Ask Science Mike and co-host of The Liturgists Podcast. He's a leading voice on matters of science and religion with a monthly reach in the hundreds of thousands. Among other outlets, Mike has written for RELEVANT, Don Miller's Storyline, BioLogos, and The Washington Post.

 In This Interview, Mike McHargue and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, Finding God in the Waves
  • His analogy of our brains being like the government
  • Where God is found in our brains
  • That if you continually analyze your relationship with a person, eventually that relationship will be less emotionally based and more intellectually based
  • That the arts as well as anything looked at or experienced as a whole rather than reductively will help feed your "romantic" wolf in a relationship
  • His journey from the Southern Baptist Church to losing his faith to where he is today
  • His faith today is a posture of gratitude, surrender, an awareness that life is just something that we have that we didn't do anything to receive and it is a rare and precious gift and that he extends that gratitude to God (which is found in our unique human capacity to love)

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Category:general -- posted at: 6:21pm EDT

Shinzen Young Full- The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Shinzen Young about the science of enlightenment

Shinzen Young is an American mindfulness teacher and neuroscience research consultant.

His systematic approach to categorizing, adapting and teaching meditation has resulted in collaborations with Harvard Medical School, Carnegie-Mellon University and the University of Vermont in the burgeoning field of contemplative neuroscience.

He is the author of The Science of Enlightenment, Natural Pain Relief  and numerous audio offerings.


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 In This Interview, Shinzen Young and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, The Science of Enlightenment
  • The five fundamental good wolves
  • The skill set of mindful awareness
  • How meditation helps you concentrate
  • How the ability to concentrate is at the base of the pyramid of anything you want to do
  • That mindful awareness is the ability to focus on anything you want, whenever you want for as long as you want
  • Untangle and be free
  • How to break down our inner space
  • How to track your sense of self
  • Breaking the self down into these three things: Mental images, mental talk and body emotions
  • That when you have a strong emotion you almost always will have a change in body sensation
  • How to parcel body sensation into emotional and non-emotional
  • The experiment you can do when you move into a situation that is emotionally intense but that is not currently intense
  • How to suffer less in life and be 10x happier
  • The difference between pain and suffering
  • The habit of equanimity
  • That one of the goals of meditations is to achieve happiness regardless of conditions
  • The periodic table of meditation techniques
  • The unified mindfulness system
  • A "name and claim" meditation



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Category:general -- posted at: 9:30pm EDT

Michael Bungay Stanier- The One You Feed- Full


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This week we talk to Michael Bungay Stanier about habits

Michael Bungay Stanier is the founder of Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do less Good Work and more Great Work. He’s the author of several books, including The Coaching Habit and Do More Great Work. Michael has written for or been featured in numerous publications including Business Insider, Fast Company, Forbes, The Globe & Mail and The Huffington Post.

He was the 2006 Canadian Coach of the Year. He was a Rhodes Scholar at Oxford University and holds a Masters of Philosophy from Oxford, and law and arts degrees with highest honors from the Australian National University.

 In This Interview, Michael Bungay Stanier and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More and Change the Way You Lead Forever
  • The way that the question, How do you stay curious for just a little bit longer? Can transform the way you show up in your life
  • How feeling safe can help us access our highest selves
  • The power of sitting in the ambiguity of asking a question rather than jumping to the feeling of certainty of telling someone an answer
  • The Karpman Drama Triangle: the victim, the persecutor & the rescuer
  • The heart of the Victim role: There's only one way to do this, but you don't like the way it's being done.
  • The best coaching question in the world: And what else?
  • That the first answer someone gives you isn't their only answer and it's rarely their best answer.
  • It's a great self-management tool for rescuers because it keeps you from jumping in, it allows you to stay curious a little bit longer
  • It's a great question for the victim role because it helps give them other options
  • Most people only consider two options before making a decision: should I stay or should I go? Asking this question can give you a third option
  • The five essential components to building an effective new habit
  • That 45% of our waking behavior is habitual
  • The 95% of our brain activity happens in the unconscious brain
  • Since it's inevitable that when building a new habit you will "fall off the bus" or fail, it's important that you have a plan for what you'll do at that point
  • How do you hold yourself firmly but compassionately accountable when it comes to changing your behavior?
  • The kickstart question - a good way to start conversation with anybody: What's on your mind


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Category:general -- posted at: 11:05pm EDT

Eric Kaufmann- The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Eric Kaufmann about leadership

Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders, including executives and teams at Sony, T-Mobile, Genentech, Alcon Labs, and Teradata. He is the founder and president of Sagatica, Inc. and serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center.

His new book is called the Four Virtues of a Leader and shares practical ideas and tools that deepen a leader’s ability to be efficient, effective and deliberate.

 In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, The Four Virtues of a Leader
  • How leadership is like The Hero's Journey
  • How he used the spiritual bypass
  • His definition of leadership
  • Leadership in day to day life
  • His four questions surrounding leadership
  • The three hurdles we have to overcome to be effective
  • His definition of courage
  • Ways you can build courage
  • The important difference between fear and anxiety
  • The lifelong process of discipline
  • The three gems of Buddhism
  • Procrastination
  • How spiritual surrender plays into leadership

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Category:general -- posted at: 10:25pm EDT

Jonathan Fields- The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Jonathan Fields about living a good life

Jonathan Fields is a New York City dad, husband, and he currently runs a mission-driven media and education venture, Good Life Project, where he and his team lead a global community in the quest to live more meaningful, connected and vital lives. He produces a top-rated podcast and video-series with millions of listens and views, where he hosts in-depth conversations with leading voices from Sir Ken Robinson to Brene Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert and hundreds more.

Jonathan has also been featured widely in the media, including everything from The New York Times, Wall Street Journal and FastCompany to Real Simple, O Magazine, Self, People, Vogue, Elle, Allure, and many others.

His latest book is called How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science, and Practical Wisdom

 In This Interview, Jonathan Fields and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book, How to Live a Good Life: Soulful stories, surprising science and practical wisdom
  • The three good life buckets: Connection, Vitality, Contribution
  • Improving your experience in your "day job"
  • The mistake in his business manifesto: Thou shalt do epic shit
  • The role that money plays in living a good life
  • That the way that you spend your money plays a big role in a satisfying life
  • What gives you a sense of purpose? What in your life do you do passionately?
  • Sparks
  • The middle way
  • Three ways to deal with the energy vampires in your life: self-care, compassion & find your beacon
  • That your life can only be as good as the level of your lowest bucket
  • How to improve your life by assessing the levels of your buckets and what actions to then take

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:18pm EDT

Barbara Karnes Full The One You Feed


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This week we talk to Barbara Karnes about living and dying well

Barbara Karnes, RN, is an internationally respected speaker, educator, author and thought leader on matters of death and dying. She is a renowned authority to explain the dying process to families, healthcare professionals and the community at large.

Barbara has held both clinical and leadership positions, including staff nurse, clinical supervisor and executive director. She has won numerous awards including THE INTERNATIONAL HUMANITARIAN WOMAN OF THE YEAR 2015 from the World Humanitarian Awards.

 In This Interview, Barbara Karnes and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • That knowledge reduces fear
  • How her work with & knowledge of the dying process influences how she lives
  • That as long as we're breathing it is an act of living
  • What to do when one receives a terminal diagnosis
  • The labor of dying
  • The process of gradual death
  • The significant changes that happen 1-3 weeks before death
  • How to know if someone is minutes to hours away from their death
  • That dying is not painful; disease causes pain
  • The spiritual driver releasing its hold on the physical body
  • The importance of telling the dying person that you understand that they 

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:58pm EDT