• The Wolf Parable
• His book, A Fierce Heart: Finding Strength, Courage, and Wisdom in Any Moment
• How she became a meditation teacher
• How self-compassion is at the heart of Buddhist teachings
• How being with ourselves in difficult times is an act of mercy
• How a synonym for mindfulness is remembering
• How we are always trying to change consciousness
• Her controversial Peru ayahuasca retreats
• How meditation and mindfulness was not enough to deal with her trauma
• Her first ayahuasca ceremony
• What ayahuasca is
• The risks of using entheogens
• The debate in the Buddhist community about this approach
• Whether you need to go to the jungle for this
• How we often need multiple approaches to healing ourselves
• How feeling like you are innately good changes the whole path
   

• The Wolf Parable
• His book, Fearvana: The revolutionary science of how to turn fear into health, wealth, and happiness
• How he got the Dali Lama to write the forward for his book
• That we don't control what first shows up in our brain
• How if you feel fear and stress is not your fault
• The second dart/arrow parable
• Acting your way into right thinking literally restructures the pathways in your brain
• The ability to develop a positive relationship to suffering
• Committing yourself to the worthy struggle
• Reducing life to the simplest next step
• Dealing with fear - it's ok to be scared
• Bringing the rational mind into fearful situations
• The challenge response
• Fear is a gift if you believe it to be
• The growth mindset vs The fixed mindset
• If you want to be great you have to believe that you are
• How ego can be both helpful and unhelpful
• The worthy struggle
• Keeping things automated in your day so that you can save self-discipline or willpower for the times you need it
  
   
   

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• His book, Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong
• How he defines success
• Achievement, Happiness, Significance, Legacy
• The dangers of only using one metric for happiness
• How money is a lever to something else that makes you happy rather than the thing that makes you happy in and of itself
• There's no finish line in the quest of what makes me feel good
• We must decide what is "enough"
• New and novel make our brains happy
• We must decide what really is going to make us happy in the long run
• Turning what we do in our lives into games can be helpful in increasing our persistence and grit
• Games have these attributes: Winnable, Novelty, Goals, Instantaneous Feedback
• A feeling of progress and meaningful work keeps us engaged
• Challenging yourself in a familiar task
• True burnout is when you start to feel pessimistic about your job so you withdraw and then you get poor feedback so you finally disengage
• Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose
• A change is as good as a rest
• That we are telling ourselves stories about what's has meaning and what doesn't
• How telling your children about their lineage will increase the likelihood they stay away from drugs, stay in school etc
• Therapy as editing the story we're telling about our lives
• Cognitive reappraisal
• The role of positive self-talk
• I can do it vs I can't take this anymore
• If you break your arm you wouldn't say "I am broken" you'd say "My arm is broken"
• Listening to our thoughts from a distance and asking "is this useful?" to be more mindful about what thoughts we identify with
• We don't choose what makes us happy, we choose what's easy
• The role of a plan
• How anticipation is happiness
  
   
   

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• The Wolf Parable
• His book, The Art of Taking Actions: Lessons from Japanese Psychology
• How Eastern wisdom is directed towards taking action, as well as contemplation
• Taking your practice off your cushion
• The misguided premise that we have to figure things out in our life before we can act
• The power of momentum in action when small steps are taken
• Cultivating gratitude
• Avoidance, resignation, complaining
• How accepting things as they are isn't necessarily passive
• That complaining keeps us stuck in focusing on the trouble in our lives
• The overlap between ACT and Japenese Therapy
• Feelings and thoughts are uncontrollable by our will
• Allowing feelings to be what they are but not letting them inhibit our ability to move forward and take action
• Taking action based on the needs of the situation rather than just on the feelings we have
•  How essential it is to step back from our lives and reflect and then make choices on how you need to move forward
• How most of the time we do not feel like doing the things that need to be done
• Exercise being an example!
• The maxim: Lead with the body
• How if you don't feel like something now, you're probably never really going to want to do it so get it done now
• That the anticipation is often worse than the consummation
• His next book that focuses on self-reflection

• The Wolf Parable
• His new book, The Reason You're Alive
• ICATS - what it means and why limiting it in your life is helpful to anxiety
• How public speaking causes him to have anxiety
• His calming practices to manage his anxiety
• Why dismissing whole groups of people is a mistake
• The importance and benefit of meeting people who are different than you
• Comfort the Disturbed and Disturb the Comforted
• Generational tendencies in worldviews
• The damage that's done when we shame others about their thoughts
• The relationship between anger and fear
• How silencing people is un-American and frustrating
• The transparency of the main character in his new book
• Humor is experiencing the unexpected
• Laughing and Crying give relief to tension
• The major life changes he has made over the past 3 years and their impact
• Believing he couldn't function without alcohol and Rxs
• The long-term benefit of passing on some forms of short term relief
• The power of the past to continue to live on
• Every experience leaves an impact on you and affects the rest of your life
• The power of focusing on process and not result

• The Wolf Parable
• The principle of connection in ACT
• Practicing attention in the shower
• The exercise of "notice 5 things"
• How to notice the person you come home to in a new way
• The physical practices of yoga and tai chi
• The observing self vs the thinking self
• The scientific study of spirituality
• Living a spiritual life even if it's not a religious life
• Values = desired qualities of action
• The difference between goals and values
• Examples of how you can live your values on your way to your goals
• Committed Action
• Examining your life to identify areas where your behavior is not reflecting your values
• The basic ACT formula of "Be Present, Open Up, Do What Matters"

• The Wolf Parable
• Getting the wolves to cooperate and not battle
• Embracing even our most difficult feelings
• The Reality Slap and the Reality Gap
• An overview of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• The Serenity Challenge
• How we always have a chance to improve our situation 
• Taking the action that is needed regardless of what we feel
• What "psychological flexibility" is
• Cognitive defusion techniques
• Recognizing that are thoughts are not facts
• Asking the question "Is this thought useful"?
• Noticing and Naming our thoughts and feelings
• "The Greatest Hits" approach
• The "I'm not good enough" story"
• "I'm having the thought that" de-fusion method
• The artificial distinction between thoughts and emotions
• The Struggle Switch

• The Wolf Parable
• His podcast, The Elite Man
• Taking control of the thoughts in your head
• Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)
• Hypnosis
• How he has battled anxiety, panic attacks, and depression in his life
• The powerful, subconscious mind vs the conscious mind
• The role of positive affirmations and suggestions
• Reprogramming the subconscious mind to be happier
• What a successful hypnotic session feels like
• How some people can be hypnotized and others cannot
• The key learnings from his podcast
• The guests from his podcast who stick out to him
• The power of failure or rejection to propel people forward in their lives and/or careers
• The supplements that he recommends for depression
• Fish Oil with DHA and EPA
• Omega 6 and Omega 3 ratio
• Vitamin D
• B complex
• Magnesium Citrate

• The Wolf Parable
• Her book, How to Be a Person in the World
• Coming to peace with your flaws
• Finding a place within yourself where who you are is enough
• What a beautiful life is to her
• How she is constantly checking and rebalancing areas of her life
• The serenity prayer
• "Is the juice worth the squeeze?"
• That touching the same flame can be dangerous to some people
• Seeing your life as a series of problems instead of a patchwork of things to savor
• That there isn't an objectively "good way to be"
• How people are far more complex than we give them credit for
• The question of "does it serve you" is a good one to ask yourself in relationships
• Not knowing how to get below the surface with people
• How she has finally learned to relax around other people
• That people are trapped in their head
• To not beat yourself up for falling into the same "pot holes" over and over