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This week we talk to Tara Mohr about playing big

Tara Mohr is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She helps women play bigger in sharing their voices and bringing forward their ideas in work and in life. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks and now in paperback. In the book, she shares her pioneering model for making the journey from playing small–being held back by fear and self-doubt–to playing big, taking bold action to pursue what you see as your callings.

Tara is the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women, which now has more than 1,000 graduates from around the world, and creator of the global Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, therapists, leadership development professionals and other practitioners supporting women in their personal and professional growth. A Coaches Training Institute-certified coach with an MBA from Stanford University and an undergraduate degree in English literature from Yale,

Tara takes a unique approach that blends inner work and practical skills training. Her work has been featured on national media from theNew York Times to Today Show to Harvard Business Review, and has captivated women from all walks of life including Maria Shriver, Jillian Michaels and Elizabeth Gilbert.


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In This Interview, Tara Mohr and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The immense flexibility we have in who we become
  • Feeding the good wolf in others
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  • The Inner Mentor and the Inner Critic
  • The qualities of the Inner Critic
  • Why you shouldn't argue with the Inner Critic
  • How the Inner Critic also sounds like the voice of reason
  • Finding our Inner Mentor
  • Don't ask what you are ready for but instead ask what is life asking of me right now?
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • The Objection Rolodex
  • Making "The Leap"
  • The 6 criteria of the "The Leap"
  • How to keep change going
  • Giving up sugar 

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Real change is possible but it takes time- Keep Trying!

 

JK Rowling was broke and depressed and her book had been rejected by 12 different publishers. This was right before Harry Potter was finally accepted and hit the big time.
 
It took me three different attempts to finally achieve sobriety.
 
Gone with the wind was rejected 38 times. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance was rejected 121 times
 
Edison famously tried 1000 different approaches before getting the light bulb right.
 
We often cite these examples as encouragement to keep trying at things like business or success. What if we applied the same principles and tenacity to our internal development? What if we kept trying at emotional and mental change?
 
We have to do this stuff over and over again, change takes time. There are no easy answers or shortcuts to a life worth living.

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The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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Dr. Gabor Mate´- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addiction

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A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.


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In This Interview, Gabor Mate´ and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The degree of choice we have in life
  • What is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?
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  • What is addiction?
  • The characteristics of addiction
  • Recognizing what addicts get out of their addiction
  • The fundamental question is not "Why the Addiction" but "Why the Pain"
  • How all addiction comes out of some hurt or trauma
  • The different types of trauma
  • The role of neurotransmitters in addiction
  • How drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisions
  • Whether or not genetics play a significant role in addiction
  • Whether our culture breeds addiction
  • How our children get most of their leadership from other children
  • How the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addiction
  • The critical role of the culture in our the development of our brains
  • Recognizing our inherent value
  • To what degree we have freedom over our choices
  • Without consciousness, there is no freedom
  • Paths to recovery
  • How compassion can help with recovery
  • Developing compassionate curiosity towards ourselves

 

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Make Better Decisions using Solomon's Paradox

King Solomon was said to be wiser than anyone in Egypt.

What we don't hear, is that while Solomon was great at giving advice to others, he was notoriously bad at dealing with his own life issues, ultimately bringing ruin upon the kingdom.

If look closely at ourselves, we’ll see that we all have this same flaw. This behavior is so common  it has been given a name — “The Solomon Paradox”.

Igor Grossman's research that founds the basis for this mini episode.

 

 

 

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The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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Barry Mangione- The One You Feed

 

 

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This week we talk to Barry Mangione about how there are no easy answers

Barry Mangione is an author, musician, podcaster, life coach, and pediatric physical therapist.

Barry was once a struggling alcoholic suffering from depression, failed relationships, and bankruptcy. He even came close to suicide, but he now enjoys a life filled with creativity, service to others, and abundant possibilities.

In his Self-Help Rockstar Show podcast, he features music, interviews, and his own brand of self-help advice in order to raise self-awareness and to inspire people to go out and live their best lives every day.

In his self-help book No Easy Answers: A Book of Life-Changing Questions, Barry shares his personal success story with readers so that they, too, can achieve personal transformation.

Barry is also currently in the studio recording an album of rock songs to carry his message of hope and healing to music lovers everywhere.

Barry lives in New York with his wife and their family, who are all firm believers in the paleo diet and lifestyle, for both physical and mental health.

 

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In This Interview, Barry Mangione and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Simple practices to feed your good wolf
  • Journaling as a practice
  • Guilt doesn't help but accepting responsibility
  • Learning to see our role in things
  • Asking ourselves "Maybe it's me"
  • The questions to ask ourselves when making a decision:
    • How do I feel about myself now?
    • How will I feel about myself after I've done this?
    • How will I feel about myself if I don't do this?
    • How will I feel in 10 days/10 months/10 Years
  • Trying to avoid black and white thinking when making decisions
  • How perspective is intellectual while gratitude is emotional
  • The 2nd Arrow
  • Responsibility without creativity is lifeless and boring
  • Creativity without responsibility is dangerous and misleading
  • Finding creativity again after getting sober
  • Learning to do things sober as a challenge
  • How would I talk to my best friend if he was in my shoes?

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Mark Nepo- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Mark Nepo about the mysteries of life

Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for forty years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published numerous books and audio projects. Mark has appeared with Oprah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday program on OWN TV, and has also been interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America.

His book The Book of Awakening is considered a modern spiritual classic. His latest book is called Inside the Miracle: Enduring Suffering, Approaching Wholeness

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 In This Interview Mark Nepo and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Thinking of things as life affirming or life draining versus good and bad
  • How none of us really understands the mystery of life
  • How controlling and counting cuts off our access to the present moment
  • Resisting inflating or deflating ourselves
  • The real meaning of humility
  • How only the heart can synthesize our experience
  • The role and definition of paradox
  • Substituting what is familiar for what is true
  • The critical role of dialog and relation in a spiritual practice

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Mirabai Starr- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Mirabai Starr about grief and healing

Mirabai Starr writes, speaks and leads retreats on the inter-spiritual teachings of the mystics.

Known for her revolutionary translations of John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, and Julian of Norwich, Mirabai renders mystical masterpieces accessible, beautiful, and relevant to a contemporary circle of seekers. Her commentaries on the interconnected wisdom of all traditions are lyrical and evocative.

Mirabai builds bridges not only between religious traditions, but also between contemplative life and compassionate service, between cultivating an inner relationship with the Beloved and expressing that intimacy in community, between the transformational power of loss and longing for the sacred.

Her latest book is called Caravan of No Despair

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In This Interview, Mirabai Starr and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Walking the landscape of loss in a genuine way
  • Learning to be present even when things are really hard
  • The death of her 14 year old daughter
  • How sometimes spiritual teachings fail us and are of no use
  • Realizing that we share our suffering with so many other people
  • The Stages of Grief
  • Returning to joy after great loss, it eventually happens
  • How tragedy and trauma are not guarantees to transformation
  • The states of mind that allow us to turn our pain into treasure
  • Cultivating curiosity about our experiences, even when painful
  • The Dark Night of the Soul
  • The transforming power of love
  • How vast we are as beings
  • Telling the truth about grief
  • The holiness of being broken open
  • What mysticism is
  • Mystical poetry
  • The desire to experience union
  • The four arms of yoga in Hinduism
  • Approaching the divine in the way that is best for each of us
  • What interspirituality is
  • The difference between interspiritual and interfaith

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Chris Grosso- The One You Feed

 

 

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This week we talk to Chris Grosso about Everything Mind

Only the third repeat guest on the The One You Feed, Chris Grosso is a public speaker, writer, and author of Indie Spiritualist: A No Bullshit Exploration of Spirituality and Everything Mind: What I’ve Learned About Hard Knocks, Spiritual Awakening and the Mind-Blowing Truth of it All.

He writes for ORIGIN Magazine, Huffington Post, and Mantra Yoga + Health Magazine, and has spoken and performed at Wanderlust Festival, Celebrate Your Life, Yoga Journal Conference, Sedona World Wisdom Days, Kripalu, and more.
He is a member of the advisory board for Drugs over Dinner and hosts The Indie Spiritualist Podcast on The Mindpod Network.

 

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In This Interview Chris Grosso and I Discuss...

  • wisdom-publicationsThe One You Feed parable
  • Welcoming Mara in
  • How there is no end point in life
  • His new book
  • How spirit surrounds us in all aspects of life
  • How spirituality includes the dark sides of ourselves
  • Finding spirituality everywhere, including Megadeath and Motorhead
  • The relative and absolute truth
  • The journey from the head to the heart
  • That there are different approaches to awakening
  • Art as a path to spirituality
  • Meditation versus mindfulness
  • Everything Mind
  • Discovering interdependence at a Motorhead show
  • Positive concentration practices

 


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The second arrow

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The Second Arrow

 “The Buddha once asked a student, “If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?” The student replied, “It is."The Buddha then asked, "If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?” The student replied again, “It is.” The Buddha then explained, “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”

Eric describes the parable of the Second Arrow and how it to makes things worse.


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The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

 

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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Rainn Wilson The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Rainn Wilson about the courage to be hopeful

Rainn Wilson is best known for his Emmy-nominated role as Dwight Schrute on NBC’s The Office. Wilson also voiced the alien villain Gallaxhar in Monsters vs. Aliens (2009) and starred in the police procedural Backstrom

Today he’s equally well-known for his millions of Twitter followers and the philosophy website he founded, SoulPancake, which creates media about life's big questions. and wrote a New York Times bestselling book of the same name.

 

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 In This Interview Rainn Wilson and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book The Bassoon King
  • How spirituality got a bad name
  • How spirituality is everything that we don't have in common with the monkeys
  • How happiness is not an if then proposition
  • The difference between happiness and joy
  • The balance between ambition and acceptance
  • How cynicism robs us of the gift of joy
  • How much easier it is to be cynical than to be hopeful
  • Bombing on Broadway
  • How success doesn't mean the end of the difficulties of life
  • The Baha'i faith
  • How the Baha'i faith encourages equality between women and men
  • Thomas Merton
  • Reconciling a loving God with the terrible things that happen in the world

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Manoush Zomorodi- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Manoush Zomorodi about remaining human in a digital age

This interview was recorded live in the WNYC studios in New York city, home of other popular podcasts like RadioLab, The New Yorker Radio Hour and Freakonomics.

Manoush Zomorodi is the host and managing editor of Note to Self, “the tech show about being human,” from WNYC Studios.

Every week on her podcast, Manoush searches for answers to life’s digital quandaries, through experiments and conversations with listeners and experts. Topics include information overload, digital clutter, sexting “scandals," and the eavesdropping capabilities of our gadgets.

Manoush’s goal, as the New York Times wrote, is to “embrace the ridiculousness” of modern life, even when that means downloading dozens of apps to fight the feeling of digital overload.  She often speaks on creativity in the digital age, kids and technology, and non-fiction storytelling.

Manoush has won numerous awards including 4 from the New York Press Club. In 2014, the Alliance for Women in Media named her Outstanding Host. Prior to New York Public Radio, Manoush reported and produced around the world for BBC News and Thomson Reuters. In 2012, she published Camera Ready, a guide to multimedia journalism.

The Note to Self podcast is starting a new challenge called Infomagical to help cope with information overload.. You will hear more about during the episode. If you want to sign up to participate at go to  wnyc.org/infomagical. Challenge week starts February 1 and runs through February 5.

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In This Interview, Manoush and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How the good and bad wolf help each other to find the middle ground
  • Which "technology" wolf are you feeding?
  • Keeping our humanity in a digital age
  • Trying to understand the effects our technologies have on us
  • Having to make too many small decisions all day long
  • Information overload
  • How the average American takes in over 12 hours of information per day
  • The Note to Self Infomagical challenge
  • The consumption to creation ratio
  • Taking in too much information but not remembering or applying any of it
  • How a theme is important for memory and learning
  • The myth of multi-tasking
  • How not being perfect is the point of being human
  • The new digital literacy
  • Information filter failure
  • Asking "What's the Point" when consuming digital content
  • Eric's Three Questions:
    • What am I doing?
    • Why am I doing?
    • Is it what I should be doing?
  • Pulsing- working in small bursts
  • Getting everything out of your mind and written down somewhere and then prioritize it

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Belinda Gore The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Belinda Gore about The Enneagram

This episode was recorded outdoors, live before an audience

Belinda Gore is a psychologist, coach and experienced seminar leader who is skilled in supporting high-level learning and personal development.  She holds a Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Counseling Psychology, from The Ohio State University. Using the Enneagram system along with thirty years’ experience in facilitating change, she helps leaders identify their natural talents and deliver results by engaging the best in themselves and their organizations.

She founded The Enneagram Institute of Central Ohio, is the former president of The Cuyamungue Institute, a non-profit organization with international membership, and is a founder and former managing partner of Wilbridge Consultation Center, a multidisciplinary group using a holistic approach in working with individuals and groups.

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In This Interview, Belinda and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Understanding our filters and patterns
  • The Enneagram
  • Choosing what to focus on
  • The great Lou Dewein
  • How we need nature in our life- echo philosophy
  • What the Enneagram is
  • The 9 Enneagram Personality Types

 

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Toni Bernhard The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Toni Bernhard about not getting what we want

Toni Bernhard was a law professor at the University of California—Davis when she became very ill. Since then she had dealt with, and helped teach the world about how to deal with chronic conditions.

She is the author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and their Caregivers. Her second book is titled How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Her latest book is How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness.

 

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In This Interview, Toni and I Discuss

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How we are forming our personality as we go
  • The malleability of the mind
  • Our inability to be nice ourselves
  • How it feels good to be nice, kind and compassionate
  • Her journey through illness
  • Learning to handle not getting our way
  • How hard dealing with chronic illness is
  • How most of our suffering comes from our reaction to events, not the events themselves.
  • Building a life within our limitations
  • Dealing with things that are out of our control
  • How pain and sorrow are inevitable but suffering is optional

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john lee dumas the one you feed

 

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This week we talk to John Lee Dumas

John Lee Dumas is the Founder and Host of EntrepreneurOnFire, awarded 'Best of iTunes 2013'. John interviews today's most inspiring and successful Entrepreneurs 7-days a week and has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, Success, INC, & TIME Magazine.

John also founded the #1 Podcasting community in the world; Podcasters' Paradise; a community where over 1500 Podcasters learn how to create, grow, and monetize their podcast in a supportive environment.
 
He just completed the book The Freedom Journal. It is designed to help you create and complete a major goal in 100 days.

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In This Interview, John and I Discuss Accomplishing Your Goals

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Controlling our outlook  on life
  • Being grateful for today
  • The three things he does when he feels down
  • The value of exercise and fresh air
  • Surrounding ourselves with positive people
  • The legacy of Scott Dinsmore
  • John's time in the army

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Megan Feldman Bettencourt
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This week we talk to Megan Feldman Bettencourt about forgiveness

Megan Feldman Bettencourt is an award-winning writer and journalist. She has reported from many countries, and her journalism has appeared in publications including The San Francisco Chronicle, Psychology Today, Salon, The Daily Beast, GlamourNewsday and many others. Megan is the author of the internationally-acclaimed book, TRIUMPH OF THE HEART: FORGIVENESS IN AN UNFORGIVING WORLD, which explores forgiveness through science, stories and memoir. She holds a master's degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism.

In This Interview, Megan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die
  • The story that got her interested in researching forgiveness
  • Her definition of forgiveness- giving up resentment
  • How forgiveness is not about enabling someone to avoid accountability
  • How Forgiveness and justice are not mutually exclusive
  • Forgiving because it benefits us
  • The toxic effects of resentment on our body
  • The process of learning to forgive
  • Grieving and feeling the emotions are part of the forgiveness practice
  • Engaging the part of the brain that is more able to become forgiving

 

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This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassion

Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.

While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.

In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.

She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy.

In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The difference between self-esteem and self-compassion
  • What self compassion is
  • The research on self-compassion and its benefits
  • How self-compassion increases motivation
  • The more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you are
  • How self-compassion reduces performance anxiety
  • The three pillars of self-compassion
  • Learning to soothe and comfort ourselves
  • Remembering that all people struggle and suffer
  • The damaging psychological effects of isolation
  • Learning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with it
  • How to practice self-compassion
  • Learning to talk to ourselves like we would a friend

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Monk Yunrou- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Monk Yunrou about modern Taoism

Taoist Monk Yunrou in as author, activist, and tai chi master, Yunrou (formerly known as Arthur Rosenfeld) has a lifelong relationship with Taoism. A 35-year master of Taoist arts, he was born in America and ordained a monk, by official leave, at the Pure Yang Temple in Guangzhou, China. Combining his overarching spiritual focus with a Yale literary education, the pursuit of natural history at the University of California and Cornell, he is an authority on the cultural, social, and spiritual dimensions of Eastern thinking for the Western world.

Yunrou contributes to such publications as VogueVanity Fair, and Parade, and has been profiled and cited in Newsweek, and other national magazinesHis blog on The Huffington Post is frequently cited by other websites, including The Wall Street JournalFox Business News, and Reuters. He has appeared on national TV networks including Fox News, and interviewed on various podcasts and radio shows. From 2010 – 2013, Yunrou hosted the hit (56MM households tuned in) national public television show Longevity Tai Chi with Arthur Rosenfeld.

His latest book is called Yin: A Love Story

In This Interview, Yunrou and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The Tao Te Ching- Eric's favorite translation
  • How the Tao that can be spoken is not the real Tao
  • Seeing things in terms of binary opposites working harmoniously together.
  • What Taoism is
  • The differences between Taoist meditation and Buddhist meditation
  • Tai Chi and the deep integration to Taoism
  • The culture which the Tao Te Ching was written
  • Some of Eric's favorite sections from the Tao Te Ching
  • How there is no connection between money and happiness
  • The lack of connection we have to the modern world
  • History of Lao Tzu
  • The concept of stewardship

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This week we talk to Guy Winch about emotional first aid

Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts .

The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem  was published in January 2011. His TED Talk, Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid, has been viewed over 2.5 million times and is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks on TED.com.

Dr. Winch received his doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University in 1991 and completed a postdoctoral fellowship in family and couples therapy at NYU Medical Center. He has been working with individuals, couples and families in his private practice in Manhattan, since 1992. He is a member of the American Psychological Association.

Dr. Winch also writes the popular Squeaky Wheel Blog on Psychology Today.com, and blogs for Huffington Post.

In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Emotional First Aid: What it is & how to apply it in your life
  • How to triage small emotional wounds
  • Building emotional resiliency
  • That treating emotional wounds when they are small can prevent them from escalating into larger ones later
  • How to treat the emotional wound of rejection
  • How to improve low self esteem
  • The dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doing
  • What to do when caught in a place of rumination
  • The difference between rumination and trying to figure something out
  • Building self compassion
  • The detective mindset vs. a harmful, self critical mindset
  • The research Guy Winch is currently working on that's got him really excited

 

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This week we talk to Loch Kelly about awake awareness

Loch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a teacher, consultant, and leader in the field of meditation and psychotherapy who was asked to teach by Mingyur Rinpoche and Adyashanti. The founder of the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute, he is an emerging voice in modernizing meditation, social engagement, and collaborating with neuroscientists to study how awareness training can enhance compassion and well-being.

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In This Interview Loch Kelly and I Discuss...wisdom-publications

  • The 4 types of parable interpretations
  • His new book
  • The idea of awareness
  • How to feel, know, be & live from our awareness
  • The "pointing out instructions" can enable us to access our true nature at any time
  • Glimpse practices that we can use to discover & experience our true nature
  • The difference between a glimpse practice & a meditative state
  • That the Tibetan word for meditation is literally translated as "familiarize"
  • What "awake awareness" means
  • How to experience the bliss & joy of thought-free awareness
  • How to function as "continuous intuition"
  • That our thoughts & feelings are not the center of who we are
  • How to keep difficult emotions from overwhelming you
  • What "local awareness" is

 

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This week we talk to Deborah Schoeberlein David about integrating mindfulness into daily life

Deborah Schoeberlein David is a teacher, education consultant and curriculum developer. Deborah's most recent book is Living Mindfully: At Home, At Work and in the World . An earlier book, Mindful Teaching and Teaching Mindfulness: A Guide for Anyone Who Teaches Anything, is now in its fourth reprint and has been translated into Spanish and Korean. Deborah's other publications include multiple articles in professional journals and trade magazines; and online postings, including more than 60 blogs for the Huffington Post.

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 In This Interview Deborah and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her new book
  • How the mind naturally wanders
  • How mindfulness is not a panacea
  • Bringing mindfulness into all aspects of our lives
  • Exploring different styles of meditation
  • The practice of adding in instead of adding on
  • Integrating mindfulness into activites that we are already doing
  • Focus, Observe, Refocus
  • Learning to break our habitual reaction patterns
  • Increasing the space between stimulus and response
 
 
  

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This week we talk to Mark Manson about making sacrifices

Mark Manson is an author and personal development consultant.  His writing is a different take on the self help genre. He calls it self help from a first-person perspective.

He’s been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC.
 
His blog is read over 2 million times a month.

 
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 In This Interview Mark and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Being aware of what we think is important
  • Opportunity Cost
  • The fallacy of being able to do everything
  • The sacrifice inherent in doing anything great
  • The subtle art of not giving a F*!%
  • The best friend test for relationships, its not what you think
  • Mark's issue with The Secret
  • The dangers of positive thinking
  • How action can be the cause of motivation

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This week Eric and Chris get interviewed

It has been 100 episodes of The One You Feed and as a way to makr the occasion we asked our friend Greg from the Life on Purpose podcast to interview Chris and I together. We talk about why we started the show, what it's like making it and what we've learned from it. We also feature a song that each of us has written.

Thanks to each and every one of you for listening to the show.

You can hear the full version of Chris' song My Body Betrays Me here

You can hear the full version of Eric's song Grass is Greener here

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This week we talk to Steve Almond about the good and bad in all of us

Steve Almond spent seven years as a newspaper reporter in Texas and Florida before writing his first book, the story collection My Life in Heavy Metal. His books, Candyfreak, and Rock and Roll Will Save Your Life: A Book by and for the Fanatics Among Us were New York Times Bestsellers. His short fiction has been included in The Best American Short Stories and Pushcart Prize anthologies, and his collection, God Bless America, won the Paterson Prize for Fiction. Almond writes commentary and journalism regularly for The New York Times Magazine and The Boston Globe. A former sports reporter and play-by-play man, his latst book is called Against Football: One Fan's Reluctant Manifesto.

He is also the co host of the popular Dear Sugar podcast that he co-hosts with Cheryl Strayed.

 
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 In This Interview Steve and I Discuss...

  • The beginnings of the Dear Sugar column
  • Being funny and poignant at the same time
  • What makes good writing
  • How to make an advice column good
  • The culture of treating everything like a joke or with irony
  • Kurt Vonnegut
  • Language, storytelling and humor as a way to fight of despair
  • The declining American culture
  • The One You Feed parable
  • The two stories that we are constantly telling the world
  • How the two wolves keep fighting all our lives
  • The flattening out of character in American discourse
  • How we all contain great and terrible qualities
  • How our culture makes a god out of convenience

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This week we talk to don Miguel Ruiz about the stories we tell ourselves

Don Miguel Ruiz is a renowned spiritual teacher and internationally bestselling author. He has spent the past three decades guiding students to personal freedom through his profound insights regarding the nature of human reality. His forthcoming book is called THE TOLTEC ART OF LIFE AND DEATH: A Story of Self Discovery written with Barbara Emrys

Combining Toltec mythology and scientific perspectives, don Miguel has been able to merge ancient wisdom with modern physics and practical common-sense, forging a new philosophy for seekers of truth and personal authenticity.  His landmark bestselling book, The Four Agreements, contains practical steps for long-term, personal transformation and has been read by millions around the world.

First published in 1997, The Four Agreements has since sold over five million copies in the United States and seven million worldwide. It has been translated into 38 languages, appeared on the New York Times bestseller for over seven years, and was the 36th bestselling book of the decade. Don Miguel is also the author of The Mastery of LoveThe Voice of Knowledge, and the New York Times bestseller, The Fifth Agreement, a collaboration with his son, don José Ruiz.  Each of his books are international bestsellers.

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 In This Interview Miguel and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • His new book
  • That truth is life engergy, the force that moves matter
  • How we don't need to believe in the truth, it just exists
  • The fact that we are all artists and the greatest creation we have is the story of our lives
  • His near death experience
  • The fifth agreement
  • We learn to love by how others love us - with conditions
  • How we can start to love ourselves and others unconditionally
  • The fact that we are not responsible for other people's minds or other people's actions
  • How suffering is really in the mind and of the mind
  • That if we change our attitude, everything will change
  • The wonderful truth that you have control of your own life
  • The lesson that has taken him the longest to learn
  • Why he likes Popeye the Sailor Man

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This week we talk to Mike Peters

Mike Peters is a Welsh musician, best known as the lead singer of The Alarm. Between 2011 and 2013, Peters was the vocalist for Big Country as well as The Alarm.

A two time cancer survivor he founded the Love Hope Strength Foundation. The Foundation has found close to 1000 potentially life saving bone marrow donor matches; built the first ever children’s cancer center in Tanzania; supported the Bhaktapur Cancer Center in Nepal with life saving equipment and registered over 60,000 donors through it’s ‘Get On the List’ program.

Eric caught up with Mike in Akron on his tour supporting the 30th anniversary of the classic Strength album.

 

 
 
 
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In This Interview Mike and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Feeding the positive side of our personality
  • Treating people the way we want to be treated
  • Seeing both sides of the story
  • Seeing The Clash and The Sex Pistols in 1977
  • Meeting Johnny Rotten and Joe Strummer
  • Joe Strummer teaching Mike to be positive
  • Creating an empowering message for the audience
  • What the song Strength means to him 30 years later
  • His 20 year battle with cancer
  • The Love Hope Strength Foundation
  • His approach to handling cancer
  • The power of music
  • Where he turns when he is struggling internally
  • The meaning of the song Blaze of Glory 

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This week we talk to Michael Taft about better mediation

Michael W. Taft is an author, editor, meditation teacher, and neuroscience junkie. He is currently a meditation coach specializing in secular, science-based meditation training in corporate settings and one-on-one sessions. Michael is the author of several books, including  The Mindful Geekand Nondualism: A Brief History of a Timeless ConceptEgo (which he co-authored), as well as the editor of such books as Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson and the upcoming The Science of Enlightenment by Shinzen Young.

He has taught at Google and worked on curriculum development for SIYLI. Michael is also an official advisor to the Therapeutic Neuroscience Lab. He was previously editor-in-chief of Being Human, a site for exploring what evolution, neuroscience, biology, psychology, archeology, and technology can tell us about the human condition, and was editorial director of Sounds True.

 

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 In This Interview Michael and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How it takes awareness to know what wolf we are feeding
  • Learning to meditate on emotional states
  • Defining meditation
  • The difference between meditation and mindfulness
  • Making the unconscious conscious
  • The misconceptions of meditation
  • How meditation does not mean having no thoughts
  • The Teletubbies
  • That meditation is not always supposed to be blissful
  • How there are more ways to meditate than just following the breath
  • His teacher Shinzen Young
  • The pillars of concentration, acceptance and sensory clarity
  • Meditation and the Flow state

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This week we talk to Casey Schwartz about the science of neuropsychoanalysis

CASEY SCHWARTZ is a graduate of Brown University and has a Masters Degree in psychodynamic neuroscience from University College London. She has worked as a staff writer at Newsweek/The Daily Beast, where she covered neuroscience, psychology, and psychiatry. Her writing has also appeared in The New York Times and The New York Sun. She lives in New York City.

 
 

 
 
 
 
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In This Interview Casey and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • What neuropsychanalysis is
  • Battling self doubt
  • The importance of asking others for help
  • The Don Draper approach to creativity
  • Taking a "mind bath"
  • The divide between neuroscience and psychoanalysis
  • Freud's Boldest Idea: Transference
  • Mapping transference in the brain
  • The resurgence of the unconscious in current neuroscience research
  • Avoiding the temptation to boil us down to chemicals
  • Honoring the mystery of human life and behavior
  • Reductionism vs holism in science
  • The fantasy of the easy answer
  • The oversimplification of the role of the amygdala
  • The dangers of extrapolating animal studies to humans
  • Psychoanalysis on patients who have had brain damage
  • The uneven pathway of recovery
  • Starving neural pathways that separate thought from feeling

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Amy Banks, M.D., has devoted her career to understanding the neurobiology of relationships. In addition to her work at the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute (JBMTI), she was an instructor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She is the first person to bring relational-cultural theory together with neuroscience and is the foremost expert in the combined field.

Amy is the creator of the C.A.R.E. Program, an easy to use, practical guide that helps clinicians and laypeople assess the quality of their relationships and strengthen their neural pathways for connection. Amy also has a private practice in Lexington, MA, that specializes in relational psychopharmacology and therapy for people who suffer from chronic disconnection. Most recently, Amy has joined the core group of Harville Hendrix’s Relationships First, a small group of prestigious scientists and cultural leaders who promote the idea that “healthy relationships are non-negotiable in a healthy society.”

Her latest book is: Four Ways to Click: Rewire Your Brain for Stronger, More Rewarding Relationships

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In This Interview Amy and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How feeding neurons means stimulating them
  • How culture can feed our bad wolf
  • The power of isolation & how it can lead to more sickness
  • How humans work best in healthy connection & interdependence with one another
  • The importance of identifying and building healthy relationships
  • The "5 good things" that exist in a healthy relationship
  • How boundaries in relationships are overrated
  • The 1 sign that you are at a 340% higher risk of premature death
  • The 4 neural pathways that function in the relationship realm

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Kevin Breel is a 21-year-old writer, comedian, and activist for mental health. His work has been featured by NBCCBS, The Huffington Post, MTV, CNN, The Today Show, Mashable and The Wall Street Journal.  His passionate TEDx talk entitled "Confessions of a Depressed Comic" went instantly viral online- amassing millions of viewers and being featured on more than 200+ media outlets. Mashable called it "one of the moments that brought the world together" and the Huffington Post said the talk was "simply amazing."

As a comedian, heā€™s performed in venues all across the globe; including the House of Blues, Rogers Arena and the historic Colosseum.  As a mental health activist, he's a National Spokesperson for the Bell LET'S TALK Campaign and has been a guest speaker at Ivy League schools and billion dollar companies.

His first book, available now, is called Boy Meets Depression: Or Life Sucks and Then You Live

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 In This Interview Kevin and I Discuss...

  • Still wrestling with depression
  • His viral Ted talk
  • Learning to build the skill set to handle depression
  • Defining our emotional landscape
  • The benefits of waking up early
  • The power and stabilizing force of a routine
  • The importance of honest conversations with others
  • Taking care of the physical body to help with depression
  • Learning to recognize when were taking a turn for the worse and knowing how to respond

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This week we talk to Tony Horton about the law of consistency

Tony Horton is the master behind the best-selling fitness series: P90X®, P90X2®10-Minute Trainer®, his latest 30-minute dynamo P90X3® and the brand new “X” series prequel; P90. Tony is a world-class motivational speaker and author of the top selling books “Bring It,” “Crush It,” and the incredibly motivating “The Big Picture.” He has appeared on countless television and radio programs as a fitness and lifestyle expert and is sought after to appear at Fortune 500 corporate events, health and wellness expos, universities and over 40 military bases throughout the world.

For the past 25 years, Tony has used his unique brand of humor to change the lives of over 8 million people through his powerful fusion of motivation, physical exercise, nutrition and discipline. From world class athletes, pro sports teams, congressmen, celebrities and the U.S Military, to corporate executives, couch potatoes and busy moms and dads alike, Tony has what it takes to reach and teach them all.

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 In This Interview Tony and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • How Tony used to feed his bad wolf
  • How we all need different approaches to changing our lives
  • The importance of the right teacher
  • Starting with the physical aspect of change
  • Working on the things we can control
  • The mental benefits of physical action
  • The downside of shortcuts to feeling better
  • Doing your best and forgetting the rest

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This week we talk to Sharon Salzberg about the essential question

Sharon Salzberg is one of the worlds best know Buddhist teachers and has been leading meditation retreats worldwide since 1974. She teaches both intensive awareness practice (vipassana or insight meditation) and the profound cultivation of lovingkindness and compassion (the Brahma Viharas). She is a co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts and The Barre Center for Buddhist Studies.

She is the author of many books including the New York Times Best Seller, Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation: A 28-Day ProgramLove Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier with Robert ThurmanFaith: Trusting Your Own Deepest Experience and Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. Sharon's latest book is Real Happiness At Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement, and Peace.

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 In This Interview Sharon and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her view on Lovingkindness after teaching about it f0r 20 years
  • Understanding the ways that we are all connected to each other
  • The difference between lovingkindness and compassion
  • Idiot Compassion
  • That lovingkindness and compassion don't equate to weakness
  • The fundamental teaching "Everyone wants to be happy"
  • How it's never to late to make a change
  • Life lessons manifesting during meditation
  • Avoiding the all or nothing mindset
  • How nothing stays the same, especially our mindset
  • How the mind is naturally radiant and pure
  • The "visitors" that obscure our mind
  • How what we resist persists
  • The essential question to ask ourselves
  • Balancing repression and indulgence in our emotions
  • How mindfulness is sometimes called "The Place In The Middle" 

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This week we talk to BJ Fogg about changing our behavior

Dr. BJ Fogg directs the Persuasive Tech Lab at Stanford University. A psychologist and innovator, he devotes half of his time to industry projects. His work empowers people to think clearly about the psychology of persuasion ā€” and then to convert those insights into real-world outcomes.

BJ is the creator of the Fogg Behavioral Model, a new model of human behavior change, which guides research and design. Drawing on these principles, his students created Facebook Apps that motivated over 16 million user installations in 10 weeks.

He is the author of Persuasive Technology: Using Computers to Change What We Think and Do, a book that explains how computers can motivate and influence people.  BJ is also the co-editor of Mobile Persuasion, as well as Texting 4 Health.

Fortune Magazine selected BJ Fogg as one of the  ā€œ10 New Gurus You Should Knowā€.

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 In This Interview BJ and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The wolf you pay attention to is the one you feed
  • The two main limits in life: time and attention
  • The Fogg Behavioral Model- Motivation, Ability and Triggers
  • How behavior change is about more than motivation
  • Designing effective behavior change
  • Managing the Ability part of the behavioral model
  • Designing behavior to fit into our every day routines 

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This week we talk to Jeff Goins about The Art of Work

Jeff Goins is a full-time writer who lives just outside of Nashville, Tennessee, with his wife, son, and border collie. He has authored four books and frequently speaks on writing, creativity, and making a difference. His website, Goinswriter.com, has been visited by more than four million people from all over the world.

His latest book is called The Art of Work

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In This Interview Jeff and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The fixed and growth mindsets
  • Choosing between being a victim and a victor
  • The secret to an extraordinary life
  • Finding your calling
  • How for most people finding their calling is a roundabout process
  • How hidden in our obstacles and challenges often lie our purpose
  • Learning to take the next step
  • Using the surprises and setbacks we encounter for the good
  • Walking the path of your life
  • That difficulties are a prerequisite to a meaningful life
  • How mentors come in many forms and multiple people
  • Accidental apprenticeships
  • How no one gets changed by an idea, it takes action along with the idea
  • Not dreaming but doing
  • How the work always comes before we feel ready

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This week we talk to Todd Henry about developing your authentic voice

Todd Henry teaches leaders and organizations how to establish practices that lead to everyday brilliance. He is the author of three books (The Accidental CreativeDie Empty, and Louder Than Words) which have been translated into more than a dozen languages, and he speaks and consults across dozens of industries on creativity, leadership, and passion for work.

His book Die Empty was named by Amazon.com as one of the best books of 2013.

His latest book, Louder Than Wordsis about how to develop an authentic voice that resonates and creates impact. Bestselling author Tom Rath called it “…one of the best guides to living a meaningful life I have ever read

 

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Mini Episode: Consistency

The importance of consistency in behavior change. Consistency of action is critical. It's amazing what a series of small steps taken day after day can do.

 
"What you do every day matters than what you do once in awhile"- Gretchen Rubin
 
"A jug fills drop by drop"- The Buddha

"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative" -Oscar Wilde

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This week we talk to Rabbi Rami Shapiro about perennial wisdom

Rabbi Rami Shapiro is an award-winning author, poet, essayist, and educator whose poems have been anthologized in over a dozen volumes, and whose prayers are used in prayer books around the world. Rami received rabbinical ordination from the Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion and holds both Ph.d. and D.D. degrees. He has created a synagogue, worked as a management consultant for Fortune 500 companies, and got initiated into the Ramakrishna Order of Vedanta.

In addition to writing over 30 books, Rami writes a regular column for Spirituality and Health magazine called “Roadside Assistance for the Spiritual Traveler” He also host his own podcast Essential Conversations with Rabbi Rama.

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In This Interview Rabbi Rami and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How the good wolf can teach the bad wolf
  • Why Rabbi Rami is a Jew
  • How wisdom comes out of dialogue
  • The importance of thinking critically & paradoxically
  • The four components of perennial wisdom
  • The idea of spiritual maturity
  • The role of Believing in Something vs. Experiencing Something

 

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This week we talk to Johnette Napolitano of Concrete Blonde

Johnette Napolitano is an American singer, songwriter and bassist best known as the lead vocalist/songwriter and bassist for the alternative rock group Concrete Blonde.

Johnette is currently a resident of Joshua Tree, California. She composes music for films and works as a gallery artist, specializing in working with discarded and reclaimed materials. She also takes care of rescue horses.

Her latest record is called Naked and her book is called Rough Mix.

Chris and I have been huge fans of her work for over 25 years.

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In This Interview Johnette and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Channeling negative emotions into art.
  • The role of our environment on our moods.
  • Finding the right balance between repressing and indulging our moods.
  • Flamenco dancing.
  • The danger of denying the spiritual side of ourselves.
  • How relevant "God is a Bullet" is today.
  • Willing her property to The Desert Land Trust.
  • Being rejected early in their career.
  • The song "True"
  • Paradox and Contradiction.
  • How cliches are cliches for a reason.
  • Fear of missing out.
  • Working with Harold Budd.
  • Using social media in a positive way.
  • The mystery of life.
  • Her new three song EP.
  • Moving out of Hollywood.
  • Her new song "Here"
  • The things she does to comfort herself.
  • Who "Joey" is about.
  • The lesson that has taken her the longest to learn.
  • How life can end at any minute and learning to appreciate it while we are here.
  • How every moment is precious.
  • That sleep is the sex of the new millennium: you'll be lucky if you get any.

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This week we talk to Kerry Patterson

Kerry Patterson is the four-time New York Times best-selling co-author of Crucial ConversationsCrucial Accountability, Influencer, and Change Anything.

He received his doctorate from Stanford. He has been featured in more than 150 print and radio programs, including MSN Career Builder, and CNN. He is also the co-founder of VitalSmarts, an innovator in corporate training and leadership development. He is a recipient of the Mentor of the Year Award and the 2004 William G. Dyer Distinguished Alumni Award from Brigham Young University.
 
His latest book is called The Grey Fedora.

In This Interview Kerry and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What a crucial conversation is: stakes are high and emotions are strong.
  • What is happening in the brain during conversations that are emotional.
  • The role of the amygdala.
  • How moving from anger to curiosity helps defuse tense conversations.
  • The one question we should ask ourselves before entering any disagreement.

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This week we talk to Justin Sullivan from New Model Army

Justin Sullivan is an English singer and songwriter. He is the frontman and lyricist of the British rock band New Model Army, which he formed in 1980 together with drummer Robert Heaton and bassist Stuart Morrow in their hometown of Bradford, Yorkshire. In the early 1980s he performed under the stage name of "Slade the Leveller". Their latest record is called Between Dog and Wold released in 2013.

The New Model Army record, Thunder and Consolation, is one of our favorite records ever. Eric says it is in his top 5 of all time.

In This Interview Justin and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Whether we really live by our values.
  • How money doesn't make us happy but we still chase it
  • That human systems mimic nature.
  • New Model Army songs about the weather.
  • Nature vs. Nurture
  • How much people can actually change.
  • How education helps make the world more interesting and enjoyable.
  • The inevitability of change.
  • How it's always the ones that want to be saved that do all of the saving.

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This week we talk to Scott Gornto about the stories we tell ourselves

R. Scott Gornto, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist and Expert on Relationships and Personal Development. Scott works with Individuals, Couples, Families, Groups and Businesses. His recent book is called: The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships

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Brigid Schulte is an award-winning journalist for the Washington Post and Washington Post magazine. She was part of a team that won the Pulitzer Prize. She is also a fellow at the New America Foundation. She is a regular contributor to the She The People blog and has written for Style, Outlook, and other outlets.

She writes about work-life issues and poverty, seeking to understand what it takes to live The Good Life across race, class and gender.

Her recent book is called Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time

In This Interview Brigid and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How being overwhelmed never goes away.
  • What "The Overwhelm" is.
  • How it's not the amount of stress but how we feel about it.
  • Busyness as a badge of honor.

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This week we talk to Bob Proctor about thought and action

Bob Proctor is an author, lecturer, counselor, business consultant, entrepreneur, and teacher  of positive thinking, self-motivation and maximizing human potential. In that endeavor, he follows in the footsteps of such motivational giants as Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Wallace D. Wattles.

He is the author on numerous book including the international best-seller You Were Born Rich, his latest book is called The ABC's of Success.

He was prominently featured in the book and movie, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

In This Interview Bob and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The paradigm that feeds the bad wolf.
  • His feeling on the movie The Secret.
  • The Law of Vibration is the primary law over the Law of Attraction.
  • That positive thinking alone does not deliver.
  • The belief that we get what we think about it is a myth.
  • How a little bit of knowledge is dangerous.
  • How whatever we impress on our mind, we express outwardly.
  • That we must have discipline as our most basic attribute.
  • Being able to give ourselves a command and then following it.
  • That the real problem is that we do not understand ourselves.
  • Changing the core paradigm.
  • His view on psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.
  • How we never learn about who we are in the formal education system.
  • Whether there is more to a spiritual life than desire and wanting.
  • That humans are creative beings.
  • The two good reasons to want money.
  • The devil's best tool.
  • The damaging power of discouragement.
  • Rising Above our circumstances.
  • How we either react to life or respond.
  • The space between stimulus and response.
  • That when we re-act, the other person is in charge.
  • Dealing with our emotions in a conscious fashion.
  • The value of reading biographies of famous people.
  • The room of windows versus the room of mirrors.
  • Avoiding the obligation mindset.
  • Dissatisfaction as a creative state.
  • That grandma was wrong.
  • The power of persistence.

 

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This week we talk to Dr. Rick Hanson about hardwiring happiness into our brain

Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a neuropsychologist and author of Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence as well as Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love  and Wisdom and Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time.

He is the Founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an Affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, he's been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide.

An authority on self-directed neuroplasticity, Dr. Hanson's work has been featured on the BBC, NPR, CBC, Fox Business, Consumer Reports Health, U.S. News and World Report, and O Magazine, and his articles have appeared in Tricycle Magazine, Insight Journal, and Inquiring Mind.

In This Interview Rick and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • His latest book: Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence.
  • That feeding the good wolf is a daily habit.
  • How it's our responsibility to feed our good wolf- no one can do it for us.
  • How frequently our brain changes.
  • Experience-dependent neuroplasticity.
  • That our brains are like velcro for the bad and Teflon for the good.
  • Deciding what we cultivate and what do you restrain.

 

 

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This week we talk to Jackie Warner about using exercise and food to improve low mood

Jackie Warner is best known as the star of Bravo’s “Work Out” and “Thintervention”

Jackie is one of the world’s most sought-after fitness experts. She wrote two New York Times Bestsellers, This is Why You’re Fat (and How to Get Thin Forever), and 10 Pounds in 10 Days. Her new is book This is Why You’re Sick and Tired. Jackie has contributed to over thousands of articles, making her the among the most quoted fitness authorities globally. She also stars in several best-selling DVDs.

 

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In This Interview Jackie and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Her new book: This is Why You Are Sick and Tired
  • Monitoring whether our energy brings happiness or sadness to others.
  • Using food and exercise to improve depression.
  • The prevalence of toxicity in our cells.

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Mini Episode: The Elephant and The Rider

One of my favorite books is The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt.

In it, Haidt poses several "Great Ideas" on happiness espoused by thinkers of the past - Plato, Buddha, Jesus and others - and examines them in the light of contemporary psychological research, extracting from them any lessons that still apply to our modern lives. Central to the book are the concepts of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, and meaning.

He uses a metaphor of a rider on the back of an elephant in which the conscious mind is the rider and the unconscious mind is the elephant. The rider is unable to control the elephant by force: this explains many puzzles about our mental life, particularly why we have such trouble with weakness of will. Learning how to train the elephant is the secret of self-improvement.

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This week we talk to Karen Valencic about using movement to get unstuck

Karen Valencic is the founder of Spiral Impact, an Indianapolis-based speaking, training and development company, which she founded in 1992. Valencic leverages her expertise in communication, science and martial arts to provide a distinct perspective on performance improvement. Karen is the author of the book Spiral Impact: The Power to Get It Done with Grace, and the handbook Giving Deliberate Feedback for Leaders.

As a black belt in Aikido, the Japanese art of reconciliation, Karen weaves examples from the martial art practice mat into her writing and speaking. Aikido is a martial art based on position rather than force. Prior to establishing Spiral Impact, Karen utilized her degree in Mechanical Engineering as a project engineer in the automobile industry.

 

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This week we talk to Akshay Nanavati about learning to use our fear

Akshay Nanavati is an explorer, volunteer firefighter, former U.S. Marine, and masters graduate in journalism from the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications. He has been mountaineering all over the world, glacier caving in Nepal, skydiving, ice diving, cave diving, scuba diving, and spent one month dragging a 190 pound sled 350 miles across the second largest icecap in the world.

His current project is to run across every country in the world. His website is called Existing to Living and uses the principles of human psychology, neuroscience and a greater understanding of how we function as human beings, to help you master your mind, body, heart, spirit and business.

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 In This Interview Akshay and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The difference between the human brain and the animal brain.
  • His goal of running across every country in the world.
  • Breaking things down into smaller steps and taking them one at a time.
  • Learning to control how we respond to our environments.
  • His forthcoming book: The Other Side of Fear.
  • How fear and nirvana work together.

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We have gotten so many questions about habits lately that we thought we would re-release one of our most popular episodes of 2014 with James Clear. With classic pieces of advice like "Never Miss Twice" and "reduce the scope, stick to the schedule" this episode is a worth hearing again or for the first time if you are newer to the show. 

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James Clear is an entrepreneur, weightlifter, and travel photographer. He writes at JamesClear.com, where he talks about scientific research and real-world experiences that help you rethink your health and improve your life. His blog gets millions of visitors per year.

 In This Interview James and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How money can be an addiction that society rewards.
  • How much we over estimate one defining moment versus steady day to day behavior.
  • The aggregation of marginal gains- improve by 1% in everything you do.
  • Small changes can lead to big results.
  • Reduce the Scope, Stick to The Schedule.
  • Not letting your emotions drive your behavior.
  • The difference between professionals and amateurs.
  • It's not the result that matters but the action and habit.
  • The 2 Minute Rule.
  • How willpower often comes after we start, not before.
  • "Start with something so easy you can't say no to it"- Leo Babuta
  • You don't have to be great at the start, you just need to be there.
  • Learning from our failures and seeing it as a data point.
  • Seeing failure as an event, not as part of us.
  • How mentally tough people define themselves by their persistence, not failure.
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This week we talk to Simon Sinek about leadership

Simon Sinek is an author best known for popularizing the concept of "the golden circle" and to "Start With Why", described by TED as "a simple but powerful model for inspirational leadership all starting with a golden circle and the question "Why?"'. He joined the RAND Corporation in 2010 as an adjunct staff member, where he advises on matters of military innovation and planning.

His first TEDx Talk on "How Great Leaders Inspire Action" is the 3rd most viewed video on TED.com. His 2009 book on the same subject, Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action (2009) delves into what he says is a naturally occurring pattern, grounded in the biology of human decision-making, that explains why we are inspired by some people, leaders, messages and organizations over others.

His latest book is called Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t

 In This Interview Simon and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How good leadership is feeding the good wolf.
  • How good leadership fills the environment with love, empathy and kindness.
  • The four main neurotransmitters that regulate human emotion.
  • How oxytocin inhibits addiction.
  • The Rat Park experiments.
  • The Cost of Leadership is self-interest.
  • How leadership does not come with rank.

 

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This week we talk to Lama Surya Das about looking beyond ourselves

Lama Surya Das is one of the foremost Western Buddhist meditation teachers and scholars, one of the main interpreters of Tibetan Buddhism in the West, and a leading spokesperson for the emerging American Buddhism. The Dalai Lama affectionately calls him “The Western Lama.”

Surya has spent over forty five years studying Zen, vipassana, yoga, and Tibetan Buddhism with the great masters of Asia, including the Dalai Lama’s own teachers, and has twice completed the traditional three-year meditation cloistered retreat at his teacher’s Tibetan monastery.

Surya Das has been featured in numerous publications and major media, including ABC, CNN, MSNBC, NPR, The Washington Post, One segment of the ABC-TV sitcom Dharma & Greg was based on his life (“Leonard’s Return”). Surya has appeared on Politically Correct with Bill Maher, and twice on The Colbert Report.

Surya is the author of thirteen books, his latest is called Make Me One With Everything: Buddhist Meditations to Awaken from the Illusion of Separation.

 In This Interview Surya and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The Concept of Inter-Meditation.
  • The Us vs.Them problem.
  • Furthering a collective awakening versus only individual awakening.
  • The process of gazing meditation.

 

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Life will always take effort

Most of us have a fantasy that we will hit some point where life won't take effort. We will read the right book, learn the right meditation, rub the right crystal and our troubles will vanish.

I think this is a fallacy. Life always take effort, and I think this is good news. It's our unrealistic expectations that cause us problems and cause us pass over what works and chase more snake oil.

Make the effort, life is worth it.

 

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This week we talk to Johann Hari about battling our demons

Johann Hari is a British journalist. He has written for many of the world’s leading newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Le Monde, the Guardian, the Los Angeles Times, the New Republic, the Nation, Slate, El Mundo, and the Sydney Morning Herald. He was a lead op-ed columnist for the Independent, one of Britain’s leading newspapers, for nine years.

Johann was named ‘National Newspaper Journalist of the Year’ by Amnesty International twice. He was named ‘Environmental Commentator of the Year’ at the Editorial Intelligence awards, and ‘Gay Journalist of the Year’ at the Stonewall awards. He has also won the Martha Gellhorn Prize for political writing.

His latest book is called Chasing the Scream, The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs

 

In This Interview Johann and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The origins of the war on drugs.
  • Is the war on drugs productive.
  • How every culture in the world has looked for ways to become intoxicated?
  • The % of people who use drugs who ever have a problem with it.

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This week we talk to Edward Slingerland about trying not to try

Edward Slingerland is a Professor of Asian Studies and Canada Research Chair in Chinese Thought and Embodied Cognition at the University of British Columbia, and was educated at Princeton, Stanford and the University of California, Berkeley. His areas of specialty include Chinese thought, comparative religion, cognitive science, and the relationship between the sciences and the humanities. In addition to over twenty academic journal articles in a range of fields, he has written several scholarly books, including What Science Offers the Humanities and a translation of the Analects of Confucius. His first book for a popular audience is called Trying Not to Try: Ancient China, Modern Science, and the Power of Spontaneity

 

In This Interview Ted and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Trying not to try.
  • The tension of trying to relax.
  • The conscious mind vs the unconscious mind.
  • The ancient secrets of Wu Wei.

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Rich Roll- The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Rich Roll.

Rich Roll  is a 47-year old, accomplished vegan ultra-endurance athlete and former entertainment attorney turned full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, motivational speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living.

In 2012, Rich became a #1 bestselling author with the publication of his inspirational memoir Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself.  Taking up where the book leaves off, in 2013 Rich launched the wildly popular Rich Roll Podcast, which persistently sits atop the iTunes top-10 lists.

In May 2010, Rich and his ultra-colleague Jason Lester accomplished an unprecedented feat of staggering endurance many said was not possible. Something they call the EPIC5 CHALLENGE – a odyssey that entailed completing 5 ironman-distance triathlons on 5 islands of Hawaii in under a week. Commencing on Kauai, they travelled to Oahu, Molokai and Maui before finishing on the Big Island, following the course of the Ironman World Championships on the Kona coast.

 In This Interview Rich and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • His experience feeding the bad wolf.
  • His battle with alcoholism.
  • How his sobriety wasn't all he needed for happiness.
  • His moment of clarity at 40 that made him change his life again.
  • The value of a plant based diet.
  • How important it is to be ourselves and be vulnerable in telling our story.
  • How nervous he was about sharing his innermost thoughts in his book.
  • How he followed his heart and it led to a new life for him
  • Why you should stop lifehacking and invest in the journey.
  • How to push through discomfort.
  • The difference between the thinking mind and your higher consciousness.
  • Eric taking on a 30 day plant power challenge.

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Rich Roll and Julie The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Rich Roll and Julie Piatt about the challenges and the joys of transformation.

Rich Roll is a 47-year old, accomplished vegan ultra-endurance athlete and former entertainment attorney turned full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, motivational speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living. He is the author of Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World's Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself.

 Julie Piatt aka "SriMati" is a plant based chef, singer songwriter, spiritual guide, and mother to four. Julie has spent decades finding the divine in all her endeavors. Living from a deep place of devotion she experiences the presence of God: the conscious eternal flame in all life experiences, the seemingly light and dark, joyous and painful.
 
Together they are the authors of the excellent new book The Plantpower Way: Whole Food Plant-Based Recipes and Guidance for The Whole Family

In This Interview Dale and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How what we think about grows.
  • The Plant Power Way.
  • Eric's diet transformation.

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dale partridge- the one you feed

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This week we talk to Dale Partridge about putting people above profit.

Dale Partridge is a serial entrepreneur and CEO/Co-Founder of Sevenly.org and Startupcamp.com. In less than two years, Sevenly has given over $2.7 million in $7 donations to charities across the globe. Dale’s best known for his expertise in branding, marketing, and social media.

Dale started his first company while still a teenager and has partnered and launched a few successful organizations since. His has a mission to lead a generation toward generosity.He has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, INC Magazine Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. His personal mission is to lead a generation toward generosity and empower business leaders through the teaching philosophy that people matter.  His latest book is called People Over Profit: Break the System, Live with Purpose, Be More Successful

 In This Interview Dale and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How love and truth always win

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chris hoke the one you feed

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This week we talk to Chris Hoke about finding spirituality within the darkness

 Chris Hoke is a jail chaplain and minister to Mexican gang and migrant worker communities in Washington’s Skagit Valley. His experiences are recounted in his new book, Wanted: A Spiritual Pursuit Through Jail, Among Outlaws, and Across Borders, which Kirkus calls “a liberating, transformative chronicle of how spirituality can foster inspiration and hope while emboldening the downtrodden through their darkest days.” Through his work with the organization Tierra Nueva, Hoke co-founded a coffee-roasting business, Underground Coffee, which employs men coming out of prison and addiction, and connects them to agricultural partners in Honduras. Hoke’s work has been featured on NPR’s Snap Judgment and in SojournersImage JournalModern Farmer, and Christian Century.

 In This Interview Chris and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Thinking of how we feed others as much as ourselves.
  • The state of our current prison system.
  • Practical Mysticism.

 

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Carol Dweck- The One You Feed 

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This week we talk to Carol Dweck about mindset

Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading researchers in the field of motivation and is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. Her research has focused on why people succeed and how to foster success.

She has held professorships at Columbia and Harvard Universities, has lectured all over the world, and has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. Her work has been featured in such publications as The New Yorker, Time, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Boston Globe, and she has appeared on Today and 20/20. Her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success is considered one of the most influential books in the psychology of success and motivation.

 In This Interview Carol and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The Fixed and Growth Mindset.
  • How in the growth mindset we believe in our ability to grow and change.

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David Redish- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to David Redish about decision making

David Redish is currently a professor in the Department of Neuroscience at the University of Minnesota. He received his undergraduate degree in writing and computer science from Johns Hopkins in 1991 and his PhD in Computer Science from Carnegie Mellon University in 1997, where he was a student member of the Center for the Neural Basis of Cognition under the supervision of Dr. David Touretzky. He was a postdoc with Drs. Bruce McNaughton and Carol Barnes at the University of Arizona from 1997-2000. He has been at the University of Minnesota since 2000, where his lab studies learning, memory, and how animals (including humans) make decisions. His latest book is called The Mind within the Brain: How We Make Decisions and How those Decisions Go Wrong.  

 In This Interview David and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What a decision is.
  • The four decision making systems in humans.

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The One You Feed

 

The confirmation bias, The Einstellung Effect and an old Zen tale.

 

 

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Jake Ducey- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Jake Ducey about our purpose

When Jake Ducey decided to quit and leave behind a college basketball scholarship and business school at 19, he had no idea that he would slowly become a leading voice for his generation. It was only three years ago that Jake sat in Economics 101, totally discontent with the state of his life, the direction his generation was heading, and the poverty of the world. After nearly dying in a car accident while drunk, he decided to take the last of his savings, drop out of school and travel the world.

It wasn’t until Jake fell off a cliff in Indonesia and his life was saved by locals, that he realized all he was looking for was within him. As a result, he came back and wrote a book about his journey—Into the Wind: My Six-Month Journey Wandering the World for Life’s Purpose—which made the Amazon best-selling list, received acclaim from Jack Canfield and is now being turned into a film script for a major motion picture. He even built an orphanage in Guatemala with part of the proceeds from his book.

If you ask Jake today if he ever thought any of this was possible, he would’ve laughed—but now at 22, he has already written another book, The Purpose Principles: How to Draw More Meaning Into Your Life.

 

 In This Interview Jake and I Discuss...

 

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one day at a time- the one you feed

One Day at a Time is a cliche but under the surface there is an enormous amount of wisdom.

 

 

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Byron Katie The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Byron Katie about questioning our thoughts

Byron Kathleen Mitchell, better known as Byron Katie is an American speaker and author who teaches a method of self-inquiry known as "The Work of Byron Katie" or simply as "The Work". She is married to the writer and translator Stephen Mitchell. She is the founder of Byron Katie International (BKI), an organization that includes The School for the Work and Turnaround House in Ojai, California. 
 
 

 In This Interview Katie and I Discuss...

  • The Four Questions of The Work

 

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Getting unstuck, small changes add up over time, a little bit of something is better than a lot of nothing and the power of keystone habits.

 

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This week we talk to Glennon Doyle Melton about staying open to life

 

 In This Interview Glennon and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Having to get through the bad stuff to get to the good stuff.

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Josh Shipp aka “The Teen Whisperer” is a former at-risk foster kid turned teen advocate. His TV series TEEN TROUBLE (A&E / Lifetime) documented his work with teens in crisis. He is the author of “The Teen’s Guide to World Domination“, and was listed on Inc. Magazine’s 30 under 30 list. He helps adults understand teens & teens understand themselves. He’s spoken at universities such as Harvard, Stanford, MIT & UCLA and has contributed to Good Morning America, Oprah, 20/20, MTV, CNN, The New York Times and many other media outlets. Eric and Josh dive into topics that apply to everyone, not just teens and parents.

 

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the fundamental attribution error

We hold ourselves and others to different standards. The Fundamental Attribution Error can wreak havoc in our lives and relationships.

 

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Brain Pickings Maria Popova  The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Maria Popova about Brain Pickings and living a good life. 

Our guest today is Maria Popova: a writer, blogger, and critic living Brooklyn, NY.  She is best known for Brainpickings.org, which features her writing on culture, books, and many other subjects. Brain Pickings is seen by millions of readers every month. Maria’s describes her work as  a human-powered discovery engine for interestingness, a subjective lens on what matters in the world and why, bringing you things you didn’t know you were interested in — until you are….

 For more information, show notes and a free resource guide for staying inspired visit our website.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This week we talk to Dr. David K Reynolds about Constructive Living

Dr. David K Reynolds is the creator of Constructive Living. Constructive Living is a Western approach to mental health education based in large part on adaptations of two Japanese psychotherapies, Morita therapy and Naikan therapy.

He is the author of Constructive LivingThe Constructive Living Handbook and Water, Snow, Water: Constructive Living for Mental Health among many others.

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The persistence of the illusion that people or things will make us happy is astonishing, despite much evidence to the contrary.

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Roland Merullo The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Roland Merullo about focusing on our internal life

Roland Merullo is the author of nine novels, including Breakfast with Buddha and Lunch with BuddhaA Little Love Story and American Savior.

Merullo's nonfiction writing includes Revere Beach Elegy, a memoir that won the 2000 Massachusetts Book Award for Non-Fiction, and the travel book The Italian Summer, His essays have appeared in The New York TimesNewsweek, Readers Digest among many others. 

At various points in his life, he has worked in a parking garage, worked for the United States Information Agency in the former Soviet Union, served in the Peace Corps in Micronesia, worked as a carpenter, and taught creative writing and literature at Bennington and Amherst Colleges.

 In This Interview Roland and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Choosing our own thoughts.
  • How all that we are is a result of our thoughts.
  • Using humor to convey deeper subjects.
  • His definition of spirituality
  • Focusing on our interior life.
  • The relationship between thought, emotion and behavior.
  • Learning to see our conditioned thoughts.
  • How we never catch up to God or the Divine Intelligence.
  • Learning to be less materialistic- focusing on the things we can't touch or define.
  • Is the human race evolving?
  • Not knowing the answer to the big questions.
  • His meditation practice.
  • How meditation has helped him with depression.
  • How he uses his writing as a vehicle of hope.
  • Choosing the positive instead of the negative.
  • Not passing our pain on to others.
  • Worshipping false gods.
  • The spiritual ideas in the Breakfast with Buddha and Lunch with Buddha books.
  • How often spiritual leaders laugh.
  • Did Jesus and Buddha laugh often?

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The Brain- The One You Feed

 

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We are all interested in how we feel but our emotions are one thing we cannot change directly. We can however change our behavior or thoughts and then bring about emotional change.

 

 

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Amy Clover- The One YouFeed

 

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Amy Clover is the founder of StrongInsideOut.com and the driving force behind the 2014 Strong Inside Out Tour. 8 Years ago she was battling depression and OCD and after a near suicide checked herself into the hospital. Now she helps other people take back the power to fight their own demons through fitness and positive action.

 In This Interview Amy and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Taking care of our body is a major component of feeding our good wolf.
  • Listening to both wolves.
  • Her battles with depression and OCD.
  • Seeking love in all the wrong places.
  • Learning to fight for ourselves and our mental health.
  • The role of medication in fighting depression.
  • The importance of trying different types of fitness until you find one you like.
  • The importance of just getting started.
  • Breaking workouts down to 10 minutes to get started.
  • The importance of support and accountability in changing behavior.
  • How she still struggles with depression.
  • Getting moving when you are depressed.
  • How we don't have to be living the perfect life to be happy.
  • How fear is the main motivation behind peoples resistance to change.
  • How we owe it to ourselves to try.
  • That some of us need to grow up.
  • How by choosing not to be the hero in our own lives we are choosing to be a victim.
  • How frequently she uses mantras to help her focus her life.
  • The three mindset changes to make things suck less.
  • How the story doesn't end here...there is always more.
  • Questioning our automatic negative thoughts.
  • Walking the tightrope of repression versus wallowing.
     
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The One You Feed

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An approach to dealing with all the craziness out in the world: tend to you own garden.

 

 

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This week we talk to Tony Stubblebine about the science of behavior design

Tony Stubblebine co-founded Coach.Me (formerly knows as Lift) on the idea that positive reinforcement and community support could be deployed universally to help people achieve their goals. Prior to Coach.Me, he was the founder and CEO of CrowdVine Event Social Networks, which builds simple and powerful social software to help people connect and meet. He was part of the Wesabe launch team, Director of Engineering at Odeo.com and Engineering Lead for O'Reilly Media. He is the author of Regular Expression Pocket Reference (O’Reilly).

 In This Interview Tony and I Discuss...

  • Searching for work that matters.
  • Achievement that is not gratifying.
  • How we all have a mediocre and excellent version of ourselves.
  • The switch from Lift to Coach.me.
  • The science of behavior design.
  • The BMAT model.
  • The three factors of behavior change: Motivation, Ability, Trigger.
  • Designing our space to reinforce behavior change.
  • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset.
  • Changing our belief system about what we can accomplish.
  • How our failures feel more visible.
  • Using tiny habits to build momentum.
  • Giving ourselves permission to start small.
  • An experience is 10x more powerful than an opinion.
  • Making a game out of behavior change.
  • How meditation is not about clearing out our mind.
  • Meditation is not all about being calm.
  • How meditation isn't just for hippies anymore.
  • The biggest benefits of meditation.
  • Using meditation to disrupt your habitual responses.
  • How without awareness we can't do anything about our issues.
  • What cognitive budget is and how to use it in our lives.
  • Majoring in minor things.
     

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We all know that gratitude and appreciation are important but we need to actually do them for the benefit to occur.

 

 

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gabriele oettingen- the one you feed

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This week we talk to Gabriele Oettingen about rethinking positive thinking.

Gabriele Oettingen is a Professor of Psychology at New York University and the University of Hamburg. She is the author of more than a 100 articles and book chapters on thinking about the future and the control of cognition, emotion, and behavior. She received her Ph.D. from the Ludwig Maximilian University in Munich and the Max Planck Institute for Behavioral Physiology in Seewiesen, Germany.

Her major contribution to the field is research on the perils of positive thinking and on Mental Contrasting, a self-regulation technique that is effective for mastering one’s everyday life and long-term development. Gabriele Oettingen’s work is published in social and personality psychology, developmental and educational psychology, in health and clinical psychology, in organizational and consumer psychology, as well as in neuropsychological and medical journals. Her findings contribute to the burgeoning literature on life style change and businesses and institutions have increasingly become interested in the application of her research.

Her first trade book, RETHINKING POSITIVE THINKING: Inside the New Science of Motivation was published in October 2014.

 In This Interview Gabriele and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How positive thinking can lead to worse results.
  • How just fantasizing makes it less likely that those fantasies come true.
  • What mental contrasting is.
  • Using mental contrasting to increase your likelihood of success.
  • How envisioning our obstacles can make us more likely to achieve the goals.
  • What implementation intention is and how to use it in your life.
  • The WOOP method- Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.
  • Using WOOP to bring about success in our lives.
  • How WOOP works on the unconscious mind.
  • Eric gets WOOP'ed.

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Beansie- The One You Feed

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Routines don't drain us, they strengthen us when used correctly. Deciding what to do all the time wears us out and saps out strength.

 

 

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alex cornell the one you feed

 

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This week we talk to Alex Cornell about overcoming creative blocks.

Alex Cornell is an interface designer, filmmaker, and periodic musician. He lives in San Francisco and is currently working at Moonbase. He released a book in 2012 called Breakthrough that is a collection of ideas on how to break through creative block.  He cofounded Firespotter Labs. and one of his creative projects was featured on the front page of the Wall Street journal.

 In This Interview Alex and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Using comparison as a tool.
  • "Getting burnt by other people's work".
  • How his moods are highly correlated to his creative output.
  • Creating instead of consuming.
  • The importance of recharging and taking breaks during the day.
  • Finding multiple outlets for creativity.
  • How to remain motivated over time.
  • Tying your work into a larger purpose.
  • Finding meaning and value in your life where you are.
  • Using other artists "spell books"
  • A lot of the creative process is not visible to the naked eye.
  • There are no easy fixes for creative blocks.

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Today we discuss another parable and talk about learning to live with equanimity.

 

 

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Susan Piver- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Susan Piver

Susan Piver is a Buddhist teacher and the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including The Hard Questions and the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life. Her latest book is entitled The Wisdom of a Broken Heart.
Her eighth book, Start Here Now: A Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation will be published this year.

She is also the creator of the innovative Open Heart project, an online community to help deepen your meditation practice

 In This Interview Susan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How everything is possible.
  • Having an indestructible presence.
  • The positive thinking police.
  • How do you know when you have felt an emotion enough.
  • Her strange friend, depression.
  • The difference between feeling and wallowing.
  • Depression is when nothing means anything, sadness is when everything has meaning.
  • The difference between our feelings and our interpretation of that feeling.
  • Feel the feeling and drop the storyline.
  • Basic Goodness
  • Whether the Universe is a friendly place.
  • Taking responsibility of our own experience.
  • How the moment to moment commitment to watch our thoughts can cut delusion.
  • How wisdom and compassion are inseparable. 
  • Dealing with fear.
  • Not being afraid of ourselves or our feelings.
  • A courageous person is not afraid of their feelings.

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Gregg Swanson The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Gregg Swanson about the warrior mindset

Gregg Swanson is a leading, physical, emotional,  spiritual and mental strength coach and expert. He has authored several books and over 100 articles on these subjects. His life defining moment came in June of 1998 when he survived a horrific avalanche while descending from the top of Mt. Rainier.

 In This Interview Gregg and I Discuss...

  • The OneYou Feed parable.
  • The meaning of a warrior.
  • The warrior mindset.
  • Mental strength versus mental toughness.
  • Mental strength cannot be developed by reading about it.
  • Mental strength is not coming in 1st, it's finishing what you start.
  • Changing course when things are not working.
  • The main blocks to developing mental strength.
  • NLP and Hypnosis.
  • The difference between your conscious and unconscious mind.
  • Surviving an avalanche on Mt. Ranier.
  • Using shamanism to get in contact with your unconscious mind.
  • High Mental Resistance and Low Mental Support.
  • The Complacent Zone.
  • Overcoming mental resistance.
  • How leaders take responsibility for all of their results.
  • The difference between a leader and a victim.

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Emily White- The One You feed

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This week we talk to Emily White about making connections in the real world

Emily White is a former lawyer turned writer. She is the author of Lonely, Learning to Live With Solitude. She has written for  the Daily Mail,  the New York Post, the Huffington Post, and The Guardian. Her latest book which will be released in January is called Count Me In: How I Stepped Off the Sidelines, Created Connection, and Built a Fuller, Richer, More Lived-in Life.

 In This Interview Emily and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Understanding loneliness.
  • The difference between loneliness and depression.
  • Social Depression.
  • The exhaustion of being lonely around other people.
  • The definition of loneliness.
  • How it's becoming harder to make ties in our culture.
  • Why loneliness is increasing across the society.
  • How finding belonging takes effort.
  • That belonging doesn't come right away.
  • How much belonging is available if we look for it.
  • How caring isn't cool in our culture.
  • The difference between public and private belonging.
  • The main objections he hears to mindfulness practice.
  • How this is the first generation in American history that has a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

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This week we talk to Tim Ryan about mindfulness in everyday life

 In This Interview Tim and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How we can't know what wolf we are feeding without awareness.
  • The importance of time for contemplation.
  • How meditation can increase the space between stimulus and response.
  • His path to mindfulness.
  • What mindfulness means to him.
  • The regret of missing our lives by being distracted.
  • Trying to remain mindful in Congress.
  • Bringing mindfulness education to the Youngstown School System.
  • Teaching kids to pay attention.
  • Mindfulness doesn't make you soft, it makes you tough.
  • Mindfulness = mental toughness.
  • Mindfulness gives us the ability to get back up when we have been knocked down.
  • How Mindfulness has been shown to accelerate the healing process.
  • The main objections he hears to mindfulness practice.
  • How this is the first generation in American history that has a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

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Tim Ryan Congressional Home 

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Tim Ryan on Twitter

 

 

 

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Often it is resisting what is happening to us that causes more pain than the thing itself. Eric talks about another approach.

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 Todd Henry describes himself as “an arms dealer for the creative revolution”

Todd is the founder of Accidental Creative, a company that helps creative people and teams generate brilliant ideas.  He regularly speaks and consults with companies, both large and small, about how to develop practices and systems that lead to everyday brilliance. Todd’s work has been featured by Fast CompanyFortuneForbes,HBR.orgUS News & World Report, and many other major media outlets.

His latest book, Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, unlocks the forces that cause even the brightest, most skilled people to become stagnant in their life and career, and introduces practices that help them build a body of work they can be proud of.

It’s been called “A simple, elegant and masterful manual for leading a fulfilled life” by David Allen, author of Getting Things Done, and Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art says “If you can read this book and not be inspired, you need a 100% full-body-and-soul transplant.”

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  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What mediocrity means.
  • The Seven Deadly Sins of Mediocrity.
  • How little choices become a big choice.
  • How to pick your battles.
  • Why the phrase “no one on their deathbed ever wished for another day at the office” is wrong.
  • What the west coast should have to match the Statue of Liberty.
  • How no one loves every part of their job and that’s ok.
  • That a little of something is better than a lot nothing.
  • What are Mapping, Making and Meshing?
  • The difference between Drivers, Drifters and Developers.
  • What is the Project Plateau?
  • What is the core practice to transform your work?
  • Common Sense is not Common Practice.
  • What is the Bliss Station?
  • Where is the most valuable land in the world?

Todd Henry Links

Todd Henry homepage

Todd’s latest book: Die Empty

The Accidental Creative homepage

Todd Henry author page on Amazon

 

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Therese Borchard- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Therese Borchard about handling depression.

Therese Borchard is the author of Beyond Blue and The Pocket Therapist. She blogs for Everyday Health and is an Associate Editor and a regular contributor to Psych Central. She writes about her own struggles with depression.

 In This Interview Therese and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Battling treatment resistant depression.
  • Turning struggle into service.
  • Her long battles with depression.
  • Treating depression holistically.
  • Combining traditional medicine with alternative medicine.
  • How positive thinking is of no use during extreme depression.
  • How there are no easy answers to depression.
  • Not having important conversations when we are hungry, angry, lonely and tired.
  • How it is possible to be depressed and grateful at the same time.
  • How diet is important but is not enough to solve depression.
  • How there is rarely a simple fix for depression.
  • How tiring faking that we are happy can be.
  • The importance of connecting with others who share the same challenges.
  • Why there are not more depression support groups?
  • The difference between mental health and 12 step culture.
  • Learning to accept our limitations.

Therese Borchard Links

Therese Borchard Blog

Therese Borchard on Pysch Central

Therese Borchard on Twitter

Therese Borchard on Facebook

 

 

 

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James Clear- The One You Feed

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James Clear is an entrepreneur, weightlifter, and travel photographer. He writes at JamesClear.com, where he talks about scientific research and real-world experiences that help you rethink your health and improve your life. His blog gets millions of visitors per year.

 In This Interview James and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How money can be an addiction that society rewards.
  • How much we over estimate one defining moment versus steady day to day behavior.
  • The aggregation of marginal gains- improve by 1% in everything you do.
  • Small changes can lead to big results.
  • Reduce the Scope, Stick to The Schedule.
  • Not letting your emotions drive your behavior.
  • The difference between professionals and amateurs.
  • It's not the result that matters but the action and habit.
  • The 2 Minute Rule.
  • How willpower often comes after we start, not before.
  • "Start with something so easy you can't say no to it"- Leo Babuta
  • You don't have to be great at the start, you just need to be there.
  • Learning from our failures and seeing it as a data point.
  • Seeing failure as an event, not as part of us.
  • How mentally tough people define themselves by their persistence, not failure.
  • Acquiring more mental toughness or grit.
  • How 21 days to create a habit is a myth.
  • Missing a habit once in awhile is not a big deal.
  • Never missing twice.
  • Fixed Mindset versus Growth Mindset.
  • How your job is to live out your unique path.
  • The difference between competitiveness and comparison.
  • How the performance matters, not the judgement of it.
  • Ambition and contentment are not opposites.

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James Clear Twitter

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A short mini episode about worrying.

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Michael Galinksy- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Michael Galinsky about the role of emotions in physical pain 

Michael Galinsky is an American filmmaker, cinematographer, photographer, and musician who has produced and directed a number of documentaries, including Battle from Brooklyn and Who Took Johnny. He also runs a production and distribution company called Rumur. He is currently running a Kickstarter campaign to fund his new film, All The Rage which is based on the pioneering work of Dr John Sarno. Dr Sarno is a leading figure in understanding the role of emotions in physical pain.

 In This Interview Michael and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The history of Dr John Sarno.
  • How being a "goodist" can create strong repression and anger.
  • How repressed emotions can cause physical pain.
  • His family history with Dr. Sarno.
  • His personal battles with pain.
  • How Howard Stern, Larry David and John Stossel are fans of Dr. Sarno.
  • How pain is a normal problem but chronic pain is a failure of the body to heal itself.
  • The challenges in healing the emotional issues that can cause physical pain.
  • The role of fear in causing physical complaints.
  • Meditation practice as a way to manage challenging emotions.
  • How pain can be a barometer of how we are doing emotionally.
  • Knowing is not the same as doing.
  • The difference between acceptance and repression.

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Eric discusses how tiring avoidance can be and proposes some solutions.

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This week we talk to Robert Biswas-Diener about the upside of your dark side.

Robert Biswas-Diener  is a psychologist, author and instructor at Portland State University. Biswas-Diener's research focuses on income and happiness, culture and happiness, and positive psychology.  Robert has written a number of books including Happiness: Unlocking The mysteries of Psychological Wealth and The Courage Quotientand his latest book is called The Upside of Your Darkside:Why Being Your Whole Self, Not Just Your "good"Self -Drives Success and Fulfilment which was co-written with Todd Kashdan.

 In This Interview Robert and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Embracing both sides of our nature.
  • The benefits of anger, guilt and other "negative" emotions.
  • Thinking of emotions as a thermometer.
  • How only having positive emotions is like breaking a thermometer.
  • How we may not get as stuck in negative emotions as we think we do.
  • The benefits of being emotionally agile or flexible.
  • How avoidance and suppression is a bad approach.
  • That suppression is a very blunt tool and you can't selectively suppress certain emotions.
  • How avoidance is "the tectonic issue of our times"
  • Comfort addiction- we have the ability to be more comfortable than any time in history.
  • How comfort is not the same as happiness.
  • Finding the middle ground between comfort and effort.
  • Knowing is not the same as doing.
  • "Avoiding problems also means avoiding finding the solution to them".
  • Emotional Time Travel Errors.
  • Allowing ourselves to experience disappointment.
  • How the ability to tolerate some degree of psychological discomfort is one of the key attributes to successful living.

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Jeffrey Rubin The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Jeffrey Rubin about the art of flourishing

Dr. Jeffrey Rubin is widely regarded as one of the leading authorities on the integration of meditation and psychotherapy. In his ground-breaking and critically acclaimed Psychotherapy & Buddhism: Towards an Integration, Dr. Rubin forged his own unique synthesis of Eastern and Western thought. He illuminated each discipline’s strengths and weaknesses and the ways in which they could enrich each other. Dr. Rubin deepens and broadens his exploration of how a judicious blending of the best of the Eastern meditative and Western psychotherapeutic traditions offers us unmatched tools for living with greater awareness and freedom, wisdom and compassion. He is also the author of The Good Life: Psychoanalytic Reflections on Love, Ethics, Creativity, and Spirituality

In his recent writing and workshops on The Art of Flourishing, Dr. Rubin is especially interested in illuminating both those forces in the world that are driving us crazy and those personal and collective resources we can draw on to not only stay sane, but to flourish in challenging times.

 In This Interview Jeffrey and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How our character is built by our habits.
  • How what we focus on grows.
  • How outrage and anger can be useful.
  • The danger of demonizing negative emotions.
  • How western psychology and eastern meditative complement each other.
  • The blind spots of western psychology and meditation.
  • The three steps of meditative psychotherapy.
  • A great story with the legendary yoga teacher TKV Desikachar.
  • The different ways to meditate and how one size doesn't fit all.
  • The importance of appreciating beauty.
  • The three types of beauty.
  • Broadening our conceptions of beauty.
  • Learning to appreciate the world around us.
  • Expanding inner space.
  • How self care is the foundation for intimacy.
  • "Cotton candy self care"

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Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.

Solomon’s newest book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identitypublished on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.”

Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages.  The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”

In addition he recently conducted an exclusive interview with Peter Lanza, father of Adam Lanza, perpetrator of the Sandy Hook School shooting. It was published in The New Yorker and received an enermous amount of media coverage.

 In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Using work to make the world a better place.
  • The urgent business of living a moral life.
  • How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.
  • How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.
  • The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.
  • The perfectionism of privilege.
  • The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.
  • How we can grow through difficult circumstances.
  • The poison of comparison.
  • The idea of the “psychological supermodel”.
  • Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.
  • Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.
  • A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.
  • How critical humor is in dealing with depression
  • New approaches to treating depression.
  • His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.
  • The shame of mental illness.
  • If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.
  • A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.
  • How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.
  • The choices we face.
  • How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.

 

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Dan Wilson- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Dan Wilson

This is another interview that has great personal significance to us. Dan was part of Trip Shakespeare which is one of Eric's all-time favorite bands. He also went on to form Semisonic another band that we loved.

Dan Wilson is a Grammy Award-winning singer, songwriter, musician, producer, and visual artist. He is known as the leader of the band Semisonic, for which he wrote the Grammy-nominated "Closing Time" and the international hit "Secret Smile." Wilson has also released several solo recordings, including the 2014 release Love Without Fear. He was also a member of the Minneapolis psychedelic rock band Trip Shakespeare.

Wilson is also an acclaimed and highly successful co-writer and producer, who has collaborated with a diverse array of artists including: Adele, Pink,Keith Urban, Weezer, Dierks Bentley, John Legend, Taylor Swift, Nas, Spoon, Alex Clare, Birdy, and Preservation Hall Jazz Band.

His collaborations have earned him two Grammy Awards. His first was the 2007 Song of the Year Grammy for "Not Ready to Make Nice," one of the six songs he co-wrote with the Dixie Chicks for their Album of the Year winning Taking the Long Way. Wilson also shared in the 2012 Grammy for Album of the year for his work as a producer of the hit "Someone Like You," one of the three songs he co-wrote with Adele for her album 21.

 In This Interview Dan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Neither wolf wins permanently, the battle always goes on.
  • How what we focus on grows.
  • How a good plan and acting is better than waiting on a great plan.
  • Nurturing our gifts to the world.
  • How malleable our lives and character really are.
  • The meaning between Love Without Fear.
  • What stands out to him from the Trip Shakespeare time.
  • How Trip Shakespeare wrote songs.
  • The Trip Shakespeare re-release project.
  • The art of reinterpretation.
  • Dealing with comparison and envy.
  • Life changing advice from Frank Stella

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Alex Lickerman- The One You Feed

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Alex Lickerman is a physician, former assistant professor of medicine and director of primary care, and current assistant vice president for Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago. He’s also been a secular Buddhist since 1989. His first book is The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self.

 In This Interview Alex and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Neither wolf wins permanently, the battle always goes on.
  • How things that don't kill us can make us stronger but it doesn't happen automatically.
  • Building an indestructible self.
  • How our inner life state has much more to do with how we cope with adversity than the nature of that adversity.
  • Suffering doesn't automatically cause us to grow.
  • Learning to accept unpleasant feelings.
  • How our strategies to avoid pain usually make it worse.
  • Non judgmental awareness of our feelings is often better than resistance.
  • The secret to success is not avoiding pain but carrying on in spite of it.
  • That our internal pep talks have to be believable.
  • The difference between optimistic and pessimistic explanatory styles.
  • How obstacles always arrive on our path.
  • That the last thing we do is look internally to see what we need to change in order to achieve a goal.
  • Sometimes the way to solve a problem is not to fix it but to change how much we allow it to suffer.
  • How suffering ceases to be suffering when it acquires meaning.
  • Using comparison to be a positive force versus a destructive force.
  • The difference between determination and willpower.

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