183: Heather Havrilesky

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This week we talk to Heather Havrilesky

Heather Havrilesky writes the popular advice column Ask Polly for New York Magazine’s The Cut. She is the author of the memoir Disaster Preparedness and the new advice book How to Be a Person in the World. She writes The Best Seller List column for Book Forum and has written for The New Yorker, The New York Times Magazine, The Atlantic, Esquire, The Los Angeles Times, NPR's All Things Considered, and many other publications.

In This Interview, Heather Havrilesky and I Discuss...

• The Wolf Parable
• Her book, How to Be a Person in the World
• Coming to peace with your flaws
• Finding a place within yourself where who you are is enough
• What a beautiful life is to her
• How she is constantly checking and rebalancing areas of her life
• The serenity prayer
• "Is the juice worth the squeeze?"
• That touching the same flame can be dangerous to some people
• Seeing your life as a series of problems instead of a patchwork of things to savor
• That there isn't an objectively "good way to be"
• How people are far more complex than we give them credit for
• The question of "does it serve you" is a good one to ask yourself in relationships
• Not knowing how to get below the surface with people
• How she has finally learned to relax around other people
• That people are trapped in their head
• To not beat yourself up for falling into the same "pot holes" over and over

 

 

 

 

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