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Rick Heller- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Rick Heller about secular meditation

Rick Heller is the author of the new book, Secular Meditation: 32 Practices for Cultivating Inner Peace, Compassion, and Joy — A Guide from the Humanist Community at Harvard.

Rick leads weekly meditations at the Humanist Community at Harvard.

Rick received a master’s degree in journalism from Boston University. He also holds a master’s degree in public policy from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government and a bachelor’s degree in electrical engineering from MIT

In This Interview, Rick Heller and I Discuss:

    • The One You Feed parable
    • His new book, Secular Meditation: 32 practices for cultivating inner peace, compassion & Joy (A guide from the Humanist Community at Harvard)
    • How in the brain, two negatives do not equal a positive
    • What a "Humanist" is
    • A secular view of meditation & mindfulness
    • Other types of meditation other than breath focused meditation
    • How there's no such thing as an inherently negative stimulus
    • What face meditation is
    • How the muscles in your face can affect your inner speech
    • How to relate to emotions with mindfulness
    • That recognizing an emotion actually brings it's feeling back toward neutral
    • What "positive equanimity" is
    • The difference between cognitive reappraisal and positive thinking
    • Different approaches to help us achieve "mindfulness of life"
    • When you're more "in your head" about something than you are collecting sensory information about something, you're really just dealing with abstractions
    • Skepticism surrounding the concept of "no self" as a goal to pursue
    • His working definition of enlightenment
    • A secular version of the serenity prayer

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Rebecca Newberger Goldstein- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Rebecca Newberger Goldstein about the relevance of philosophy in today's world

Rebecca Newberger Goldstein is an American philosopher who is also a novelist and public intellectual. She is the author of ten books, many of which cross the divide between fiction and non-fiction. She holds a Ph.D. from Princeton.

Her latest book is called Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won't Go Away, an exploration of the historical roots and contemporary relevance of philosophy. In the book Plato is brought to life in the 21st century and demonstrates the relevance of philosophy by arguing with contemporary figures such as a software engineer at Google headquarters, a right-wing talk show host, an affective neuroscientist, and others.

Goldstein is a MacArthur Fellow, has won the National Jewish Book Award, and numerous other honors. In September of 2015  she was awarded the National Humanities Medal by President Obama in a ceremony at the White House.

 

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In This Interview, Rebecca Newberger Goldstein and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Winning a National Humanities Medal and meeting President Obama
  • Cultivating the positive emotions
  • Her latest book Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won't Go Away
  • What Plato would say about the Parable of the Two Wolves
  • Plato's Parable of Two Horses
  • Why virtue is good for us
  • The story of Socrates death
  • The most famous sound bite in the last 2500 years

 

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tara mohr- the one you feed

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This week we talk to Tara Mohr about playing big

Tara Mohr is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She helps women play bigger in sharing their voices and bringing forward their ideas in work and in life. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks and now in paperback. In the book, she shares her pioneering model for making the journey from playing small–being held back by fear and self-doubt–to playing big, taking bold action to pursue what you see as your callings.

Tara is the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women, which now has more than 1,000 graduates from around the world, and creator of the global Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, therapists, leadership development professionals and other practitioners supporting women in their personal and professional growth. A Coaches Training Institute-certified coach with an MBA from Stanford University and an undergraduate degree in English literature from Yale,

Tara takes a unique approach that blends inner work and practical skills training. Her work has been featured on national media from theNew York Times to Today Show to Harvard Business Review, and has captivated women from all walks of life including Maria Shriver, Jillian Michaels and Elizabeth Gilbert.


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In This Interview, Tara Mohr and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The immense flexibility we have in who we become
  • Feeding the good wolf in others
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  • The Inner Mentor and the Inner Critic
  • The qualities of the Inner Critic
  • Why you shouldn't argue with the Inner Critic
  • How the Inner Critic also sounds like the voice of reason
  • Finding our Inner Mentor
  • Don't ask what you are ready for but instead ask what is life asking of me right now?
  • Imposter Syndrome
  • The Objection Rolodex
  • Making "The Leap"
  • The 6 criteria of the "The Leap"
  • How to keep change going
  • Giving up sugar 

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Category:general -- posted at: 2:45pm EST

keep trying- the one you feed

 

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Real change is possible but it takes time- Keep Trying!

 

JK Rowling was broke and depressed and her book had been rejected by 12 different publishers. This was right before Harry Potter was finally accepted and hit the big time.
 
It took me three different attempts to finally achieve sobriety.
 
Gone with the wind was rejected 38 times. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance was rejected 121 times
 
Edison famously tried 1000 different approaches before getting the light bulb right.
 
We often cite these examples as encouragement to keep trying at things like business or success. What if we applied the same principles and tenacity to our internal development? What if we kept trying at emotional and mental change?
 
We have to do this stuff over and over again, change takes time. There are no easy answers or shortcuts to a life worth living.

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The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:09pm EST

Dr. Gabor Mate´- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addiction

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A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.

For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.

As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.

Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.

Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.


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In This Interview, Gabor Mate´ and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The degree of choice we have in life
  • What is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?
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  • What is addiction?
  • The characteristics of addiction
  • Recognizing what addicts get out of their addiction
  • The fundamental question is not "Why the Addiction" but "Why the Pain"
  • How all addiction comes out of some hurt or trauma
  • The different types of trauma
  • The role of neurotransmitters in addiction
  • How drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisions
  • Whether or not genetics play a significant role in addiction
  • Whether our culture breeds addiction
  • How our children get most of their leadership from other children
  • How the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addiction
  • The critical role of the culture in our the development of our brains
  • Recognizing our inherent value
  • To what degree we have freedom over our choices
  • Without consciousness, there is no freedom
  • Paths to recovery
  • How compassion can help with recovery
  • Developing compassionate curiosity towards ourselves

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 4:59pm EST

solomon's paradox


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Make Better Decisions using Solomon's Paradox

King Solomon was said to be wiser than anyone in Egypt.

What we don't hear, is that while Solomon was great at giving advice to others, he was notoriously bad at dealing with his own life issues, ultimately bringing ruin upon the kingdom.

If look closely at ourselves, we’ll see that we all have this same flaw. This behavior is so common  it has been given a name — “The Solomon Paradox”.

Igor Grossman's research that founds the basis for this mini episode.

 

 

 

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The Tale of Two Wolves

A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. 

One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.

The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”

The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed

The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.

 

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Category:general -- posted at: 3:12pm EST

Barry Mangione- The One You Feed

 

 

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This week we talk to Barry Mangione about how there are no easy answers

Barry Mangione is an author, musician, podcaster, life coach, and pediatric physical therapist.

Barry was once a struggling alcoholic suffering from depression, failed relationships, and bankruptcy. He even came close to suicide, but he now enjoys a life filled with creativity, service to others, and abundant possibilities.

In his Self-Help Rockstar Show podcast, he features music, interviews, and his own brand of self-help advice in order to raise self-awareness and to inspire people to go out and live their best lives every day.

In his self-help book No Easy Answers: A Book of Life-Changing Questions, Barry shares his personal success story with readers so that they, too, can achieve personal transformation.

Barry is also currently in the studio recording an album of rock songs to carry his message of hope and healing to music lovers everywhere.

Barry lives in New York with his wife and their family, who are all firm believers in the paleo diet and lifestyle, for both physical and mental health.

 

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In This Interview, Barry Mangione and I Discuss:

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Simple practices to feed your good wolf
  • Journaling as a practice
  • Guilt doesn't help but accepting responsibility
  • Learning to see our role in things
  • Asking ourselves "Maybe it's me"
  • The questions to ask ourselves when making a decision:
    • How do I feel about myself now?
    • How will I feel about myself after I've done this?
    • How will I feel about myself if I don't do this?
    • How will I feel in 10 days/10 months/10 Years
  • Trying to avoid black and white thinking when making decisions
  • How perspective is intellectual while gratitude is emotional
  • The 2nd Arrow
  • Responsibility without creativity is lifeless and boring
  • Creativity without responsibility is dangerous and misleading
  • Finding creativity again after getting sober
  • Learning to do things sober as a challenge
  • How would I talk to my best friend if he was in my shoes?

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Category:general -- posted at: 5:29pm EST

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