The One You Feed

 

Megan Feldman Bettencourt
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This week we talk to Megan Feldman Bettencourt about forgiveness

Megan Feldman Bettencourt is an award-winning writer and journalist. She has reported from many countries, and her journalism has appeared in publications including The San Francisco Chronicle, Psychology Today, Salon, The Daily Beast, GlamourNewsday and many others. Megan is the author of the internationally-acclaimed book, TRIUMPH OF THE HEART: FORGIVENESS IN AN UNFORGIVING WORLD, which explores forgiveness through science, stories and memoir. She holds a master's degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism.

In This Interview, Megan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die
  • The story that got her interested in researching forgiveness
  • Her definition of forgiveness- giving up resentment
  • How forgiveness is not about enabling someone to avoid accountability
  • How Forgiveness and justice are not mutually exclusive
  • Forgiving because it benefits us
  • The toxic effects of resentment on our body
  • The process of learning to forgive
  • Grieving and feeling the emotions are part of the forgiveness practice
  • Engaging the part of the brain that is more able to become forgiving

 

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kristin neff- the one you feed

 

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This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassion

Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.

While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.

In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.

She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy.

In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The difference between self-esteem and self-compassion
  • What self compassion is
  • The research on self-compassion and its benefits
  • How self-compassion increases motivation
  • The more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you are
  • How self-compassion reduces performance anxiety
  • The three pillars of self-compassion
  • Learning to soothe and comfort ourselves
  • Remembering that all people struggle and suffer
  • The damaging psychological effects of isolation
  • Learning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with it
  • How to practice self-compassion
  • Learning to talk to ourselves like we would a friend

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Monk Yunrou- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Monk Yunrou about modern Taoism

Taoist Monk Yunrou in as author, activist, and tai chi master, Yunrou (formerly known as Arthur Rosenfeld) has a lifelong relationship with Taoism. A 35-year master of Taoist arts, he was born in America and ordained a monk, by official leave, at the Pure Yang Temple in Guangzhou, China. Combining his overarching spiritual focus with a Yale literary education, the pursuit of natural history at the University of California and Cornell, he is an authority on the cultural, social, and spiritual dimensions of Eastern thinking for the Western world.

Yunrou contributes to such publications as VogueVanity Fair, and Parade, and has been profiled and cited in Newsweek, and other national magazinesHis blog on The Huffington Post is frequently cited by other websites, including The Wall Street JournalFox Business News, and Reuters. He has appeared on national TV networks including Fox News, and interviewed on various podcasts and radio shows. From 2010 – 2013, Yunrou hosted the hit (56MM households tuned in) national public television show Longevity Tai Chi with Arthur Rosenfeld.

His latest book is called Yin: A Love Story

In This Interview, Yunrou and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • The Tao Te Ching- Eric's favorite translation
  • How the Tao that can be spoken is not the real Tao
  • Seeing things in terms of binary opposites working harmoniously together.
  • What Taoism is
  • The differences between Taoist meditation and Buddhist meditation
  • Tai Chi and the deep integration to Taoism
  • The culture which the Tao Te Ching was written
  • Some of Eric's favorite sections from the Tao Te Ching
  • How there is no connection between money and happiness
  • The lack of connection we have to the modern world
  • History of Lao Tzu
  • The concept of stewardship

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guy winch the one you feed

 

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This week we talk to Guy Winch about emotional first aid

Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts .

The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem  was published in January 2011. His TED Talk, Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid, has been viewed over 2.5 million times and is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks on TED.com.

Dr. Winch received his doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University in 1991 and completed a postdoctoral fellowship in family and couples therapy at NYU Medical Center. He has been working with individuals, couples and families in his private practice in Manhattan, since 1992. He is a member of the American Psychological Association.

Dr. Winch also writes the popular Squeaky Wheel Blog on Psychology Today.com, and blogs for Huffington Post.

In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable
  • Emotional First Aid: What it is & how to apply it in your life
  • How to triage small emotional wounds
  • Building emotional resiliency
  • That treating emotional wounds when they are small can prevent them from escalating into larger ones later
  • How to treat the emotional wound of rejection
  • How to improve low self esteem
  • The dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doing
  • What to do when caught in a place of rumination
  • The difference between rumination and trying to figure something out
  • Building self compassion
  • The detective mindset vs. a harmful, self critical mindset
  • The research Guy Winch is currently working on that's got him really excited

 

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loch kelly- the one you feed

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This week we talk to Loch Kelly about awake awareness

Loch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a teacher, consultant, and leader in the field of meditation and psychotherapy who was asked to teach by Mingyur Rinpoche and Adyashanti. The founder of the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute, he is an emerging voice in modernizing meditation, social engagement, and collaborating with neuroscientists to study how awareness training can enhance compassion and well-being.

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In This Interview Loch Kelly and I Discuss...wisdom-publications

  • The 4 types of parable interpretations
  • His new book
  • The idea of awareness
  • How to feel, know, be & live from our awareness
  • The "pointing out instructions" can enable us to access our true nature at any time
  • Glimpse practices that we can use to discover & experience our true nature
  • The difference between a glimpse practice & a meditative state
  • That the Tibetan word for meditation is literally translated as "familiarize"
  • What "awake awareness" means
  • How to experience the bliss & joy of thought-free awareness
  • How to function as "continuous intuition"
  • That our thoughts & feelings are not the center of who we are
  • How to keep difficult emotions from overwhelming you
  • What "local awareness" is

 

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