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This week we talk to Emily White about making connections in the real world

Emily White is a former lawyer turned writer. She is the author of Lonely, Learning to Live With Solitude. She has written for  the Daily Mail,  the New York Post, the Huffington Post, and The Guardian. Her latest book which will be released in January is called Count Me In: How I Stepped Off the Sidelines, Created Connection, and Built a Fuller, Richer, More Lived-in Life.

 In This Interview Emily and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Understanding loneliness.
  • The difference between loneliness and depression.
  • Social Depression.
  • The exhaustion of being lonely around other people.
  • The definition of loneliness.
  • How it's becoming harder to make ties in our culture.
  • Why loneliness is increasing across the society.
  • How finding belonging takes effort.
  • That belonging doesn't come right away.
  • How much belonging is available if we look for it.
  • How caring isn't cool in our culture.
  • The difference between public and private belonging.
  • The main objections he hears to mindfulness practice.
  • How this is the first generation in American history that has a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

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This week we talk to Tim Ryan about mindfulness in everyday life

 In This Interview Tim and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How we can't know what wolf we are feeding without awareness.
  • The importance of time for contemplation.
  • How meditation can increase the space between stimulus and response.
  • His path to mindfulness.
  • What mindfulness means to him.
  • The regret of missing our lives by being distracted.
  • Trying to remain mindful in Congress.
  • Bringing mindfulness education to the Youngstown School System.
  • Teaching kids to pay attention.
  • Mindfulness doesn't make you soft, it makes you tough.
  • Mindfulness = mental toughness.
  • Mindfulness gives us the ability to get back up when we have been knocked down.
  • How Mindfulness has been shown to accelerate the healing process.
  • The main objections he hears to mindfulness practice.
  • How this is the first generation in American history that has a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

Tim Ryan Links

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Tim Ryan Congressional Home 

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Often it is resisting what is happening to us that causes more pain than the thing itself. Eric talks about another approach.

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 Todd Henry describes himself as “an arms dealer for the creative revolution”

Todd is the founder of Accidental Creative, a company that helps creative people and teams generate brilliant ideas.  He regularly speaks and consults with companies, both large and small, about how to develop practices and systems that lead to everyday brilliance. Todd’s work has been featured by Fast CompanyFortuneForbes,HBR.orgUS News & World Report, and many other major media outlets.

His latest book, Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, unlocks the forces that cause even the brightest, most skilled people to become stagnant in their life and career, and introduces practices that help them build a body of work they can be proud of.

It’s been called “A simple, elegant and masterful manual for leading a fulfilled life” by David Allen, author of Getting Things Done, and Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art says “If you can read this book and not be inspired, you need a 100% full-body-and-soul transplant.”

In This Interview Todd and I discuss…Edit Post ‹ The One You Feed — WordPress

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What mediocrity means.
  • The Seven Deadly Sins of Mediocrity.
  • How little choices become a big choice.
  • How to pick your battles.
  • Why the phrase “no one on their deathbed ever wished for another day at the office” is wrong.
  • What the west coast should have to match the Statue of Liberty.
  • How no one loves every part of their job and that’s ok.
  • That a little of something is better than a lot nothing.
  • What are Mapping, Making and Meshing?
  • The difference between Drivers, Drifters and Developers.
  • What is the Project Plateau?
  • What is the core practice to transform your work?
  • Common Sense is not Common Practice.
  • What is the Bliss Station?
  • Where is the most valuable land in the world?

Todd Henry Links

Todd Henry homepage

Todd’s latest book: Die Empty

The Accidental Creative homepage

Todd Henry author page on Amazon

 

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Therese Borchard- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Therese Borchard about handling depression.

Therese Borchard is the author of Beyond Blue and The Pocket Therapist. She blogs for Everyday Health and is an Associate Editor and a regular contributor to Psych Central. She writes about her own struggles with depression.

 In This Interview Therese and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Battling treatment resistant depression.
  • Turning struggle into service.
  • Her long battles with depression.
  • Treating depression holistically.
  • Combining traditional medicine with alternative medicine.
  • How positive thinking is of no use during extreme depression.
  • How there are no easy answers to depression.
  • Not having important conversations when we are hungry, angry, lonely and tired.
  • How it is possible to be depressed and grateful at the same time.
  • How diet is important but is not enough to solve depression.
  • How there is rarely a simple fix for depression.
  • How tiring faking that we are happy can be.
  • The importance of connecting with others who share the same challenges.
  • Why there are not more depression support groups?
  • The difference between mental health and 12 step culture.
  • Learning to accept our limitations.

Therese Borchard Links

Therese Borchard Blog

Therese Borchard on Pysch Central

Therese Borchard on Twitter

Therese Borchard on Facebook

 

 

 

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James Clear- The One You Feed

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James Clear is an entrepreneur, weightlifter, and travel photographer. He writes at JamesClear.com, where he talks about scientific research and real-world experiences that help you rethink your health and improve your life. His blog gets millions of visitors per year.

 In This Interview James and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How money can be an addiction that society rewards.
  • How much we over estimate one defining moment versus steady day to day behavior.
  • The aggregation of marginal gains- improve by 1% in everything you do.
  • Small changes can lead to big results.
  • Reduce the Scope, Stick to The Schedule.
  • Not letting your emotions drive your behavior.
  • The difference between professionals and amateurs.
  • It's not the result that matters but the action and habit.
  • The 2 Minute Rule.
  • How willpower often comes after we start, not before.
  • "Start with something so easy you can't say no to it"- Leo Babuta
  • You don't have to be great at the start, you just need to be there.
  • Learning from our failures and seeing it as a data point.
  • Seeing failure as an event, not as part of us.
  • How mentally tough people define themselves by their persistence, not failure.
  • Acquiring more mental toughness or grit.
  • How 21 days to create a habit is a myth.
  • Missing a habit once in awhile is not a big deal.
  • Never missing twice.
  • Fixed Mindset versus Growth Mindset.
  • How your job is to live out your unique path.
  • The difference between competitiveness and comparison.
  • How the performance matters, not the judgement of it.
  • Ambition and contentment are not opposites.

James Clear Links

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James Clear Twitter

James Clear Facebook

 

 

 

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Michael Galinksy- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Michael Galinsky about the role of emotions in physical pain 

Michael Galinsky is an American filmmaker, cinematographer, photographer, and musician who has produced and directed a number of documentaries, including Battle from Brooklyn and Who Took Johnny. He also runs a production and distribution company called Rumur. He is currently running a Kickstarter campaign to fund his new film, All The Rage which is based on the pioneering work of Dr John Sarno. Dr Sarno is a leading figure in understanding the role of emotions in physical pain.

 In This Interview Michael and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The history of Dr John Sarno.
  • How being a "goodist" can create strong repression and anger.
  • How repressed emotions can cause physical pain.
  • His family history with Dr. Sarno.
  • His personal battles with pain.
  • How Howard Stern, Larry David and John Stossel are fans of Dr. Sarno.
  • How pain is a normal problem but chronic pain is a failure of the body to heal itself.
  • The challenges in healing the emotional issues that can cause physical pain.
  • The role of fear in causing physical complaints.
  • Meditation practice as a way to manage challenging emotions.
  • How pain can be a barometer of how we are doing emotionally.
  • Knowing is not the same as doing.
  • The difference between acceptance and repression.

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Eric discusses how tiring avoidance can be and proposes some solutions.

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This week we talk to Robert Biswas-Diener about the upside of your dark side.

Robert Biswas-Diener  is a psychologist, author and instructor at Portland State University. Biswas-Diener's research focuses on income and happiness, culture and happiness, and positive psychology.  Robert has written a number of books including Happiness: Unlocking The mysteries of Psychological Wealth and The Courage Quotientand his latest book is called The Upside of Your Darkside:Why Being Your Whole Self, Not Just Your "good"Self -Drives Success and Fulfilment which was co-written with Todd Kashdan.

 In This Interview Robert and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Embracing both sides of our nature.
  • The benefits of anger, guilt and other "negative" emotions.
  • Thinking of emotions as a thermometer.
  • How only having positive emotions is like breaking a thermometer.
  • How we may not get as stuck in negative emotions as we think we do.
  • The benefits of being emotionally agile or flexible.
  • How avoidance and suppression is a bad approach.
  • That suppression is a very blunt tool and you can't selectively suppress certain emotions.
  • How avoidance is "the tectonic issue of our times"
  • Comfort addiction- we have the ability to be more comfortable than any time in history.
  • How comfort is not the same as happiness.
  • Finding the middle ground between comfort and effort.
  • Knowing is not the same as doing.
  • "Avoiding problems also means avoiding finding the solution to them".
  • Emotional Time Travel Errors.
  • Allowing ourselves to experience disappointment.
  • How the ability to tolerate some degree of psychological discomfort is one of the key attributes to successful living.

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Jeffrey Rubin The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Jeffrey Rubin about the art of flourishing

Dr. Jeffrey Rubin is widely regarded as one of the leading authorities on the integration of meditation and psychotherapy. In his ground-breaking and critically acclaimed Psychotherapy & Buddhism: Towards an Integration, Dr. Rubin forged his own unique synthesis of Eastern and Western thought. He illuminated each discipline’s strengths and weaknesses and the ways in which they could enrich each other. Dr. Rubin deepens and broadens his exploration of how a judicious blending of the best of the Eastern meditative and Western psychotherapeutic traditions offers us unmatched tools for living with greater awareness and freedom, wisdom and compassion. He is also the author of The Good Life: Psychoanalytic Reflections on Love, Ethics, Creativity, and Spirituality

In his recent writing and workshops on The Art of Flourishing, Dr. Rubin is especially interested in illuminating both those forces in the world that are driving us crazy and those personal and collective resources we can draw on to not only stay sane, but to flourish in challenging times.

 In This Interview Jeffrey and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How our character is built by our habits.
  • How what we focus on grows.
  • How outrage and anger can be useful.
  • The danger of demonizing negative emotions.
  • How western psychology and eastern meditative complement each other.
  • The blind spots of western psychology and meditation.
  • The three steps of meditative psychotherapy.
  • A great story with the legendary yoga teacher TKV Desikachar.
  • The different ways to meditate and how one size doesn't fit all.
  • The importance of appreciating beauty.
  • The three types of beauty.
  • Broadening our conceptions of beauty.
  • Learning to appreciate the world around us.
  • Expanding inner space.
  • How self care is the foundation for intimacy.
  • "Cotton candy self care"

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Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.

Solomon’s newest book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identitypublished on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.”

Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages.  The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”

In addition he recently conducted an exclusive interview with Peter Lanza, father of Adam Lanza, perpetrator of the Sandy Hook School shooting. It was published in The New Yorker and received an enermous amount of media coverage.

 In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss…

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Using work to make the world a better place.
  • The urgent business of living a moral life.
  • How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.
  • How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.
  • The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.
  • The perfectionism of privilege.
  • The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.
  • How we can grow through difficult circumstances.
  • The poison of comparison.
  • The idea of the “psychological supermodel”.
  • Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.
  • Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.
  • A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.
  • How critical humor is in dealing with depression
  • New approaches to treating depression.
  • His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.
  • The shame of mental illness.
  • If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.
  • A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.
  • How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.
  • The choices we face.
  • How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.

 

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Dan Wilson- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Dan Wilson

This is another interview that has great personal significance to us. Dan was part of Trip Shakespeare which is one of Eric's all-time favorite bands. He also went on to form Semisonic another band that we loved.

Dan Wilson is a Grammy Award-winning singer, songwriter, musician, producer, and visual artist. He is known as the leader of the band Semisonic, for which he wrote the Grammy-nominated "Closing Time" and the international hit "Secret Smile." Wilson has also released several solo recordings, including the 2014 release Love Without Fear. He was also a member of the Minneapolis psychedelic rock band Trip Shakespeare.

Wilson is also an acclaimed and highly successful co-writer and producer, who has collaborated with a diverse array of artists including: Adele, Pink,Keith Urban, Weezer, Dierks Bentley, John Legend, Taylor Swift, Nas, Spoon, Alex Clare, Birdy, and Preservation Hall Jazz Band.

His collaborations have earned him two Grammy Awards. His first was the 2007 Song of the Year Grammy for "Not Ready to Make Nice," one of the six songs he co-wrote with the Dixie Chicks for their Album of the Year winning Taking the Long Way. Wilson also shared in the 2012 Grammy for Album of the year for his work as a producer of the hit "Someone Like You," one of the three songs he co-wrote with Adele for her album 21.

 In This Interview Dan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Neither wolf wins permanently, the battle always goes on.
  • How what we focus on grows.
  • How a good plan and acting is better than waiting on a great plan.
  • Nurturing our gifts to the world.
  • How malleable our lives and character really are.
  • The meaning between Love Without Fear.
  • What stands out to him from the Trip Shakespeare time.
  • How Trip Shakespeare wrote songs.
  • The Trip Shakespeare re-release project.
  • The art of reinterpretation.
  • Dealing with comparison and envy.
  • Life changing advice from Frank Stella

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Alex Lickerman- The One You Feed

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Alex Lickerman is a physician, former assistant professor of medicine and director of primary care, and current assistant vice president for Student Health and Counseling Services at the University of Chicago. He’s also been a secular Buddhist since 1989. His first book is The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self.

 In This Interview Alex and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Neither wolf wins permanently, the battle always goes on.
  • How things that don't kill us can make us stronger but it doesn't happen automatically.
  • Building an indestructible self.
  • How our inner life state has much more to do with how we cope with adversity than the nature of that adversity.
  • Suffering doesn't automatically cause us to grow.
  • Learning to accept unpleasant feelings.
  • How our strategies to avoid pain usually make it worse.
  • Non judgmental awareness of our feelings is often better than resistance.
  • The secret to success is not avoiding pain but carrying on in spite of it.
  • That our internal pep talks have to be believable.
  • The difference between optimistic and pessimistic explanatory styles.
  • How obstacles always arrive on our path.
  • That the last thing we do is look internally to see what we need to change in order to achieve a goal.
  • Sometimes the way to solve a problem is not to fix it but to change how much we allow it to suffer.
  • How suffering ceases to be suffering when it acquires meaning.
  • Using comparison to be a positive force versus a destructive force.
  • The difference between determination and willpower.

Alex Lickerman Links

Happiness In This World- Alex Lickerman run site

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This week we talk to Jordan Harbinger about the power of awareness and intention

Jordan Harbinger is the founder of The Art of Charm. The Art of Charm helps men to improve their social skills so that they can succeed in business and life. The truth is that I originally turned Jordan down twice to be on the show because I thought he was a "pick-up" artist. I clearly didn't think that was a good fit for our show. But as I learned more about him and what he does I realized that his focus is to help men become better people. The success follows from that. One of his core principles that he teaches is to leave everything and everyone better than before he was there. That's a pretty good way to feed the good wolf.
 
In addition his podcast has really excellent guests and he is a great interviewer.
 
I'm glad we had him on because it was a really good conversation.
 
 

 In This Interview Jordan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Being intentional in all aspects of life.
  • How if your not feeding the good wolf you might be feeding the bad wolf.
  • Not making a decision is a decision in itself.
  • How good our brains are at rationalizing things.
  • How systems can help in all aspects of our lives.
  • Being excellent is a matter of habit.
  • Being more aware of our choices.
  • How being too busy is the best excuse we have.
  • Try replacing "I don't have time" with "I'm not prioritizing that right now"
  • Feeding the good wolf is about being intentional.
  • How feeding the good wolf takes time and consistency.
  • Discipline is doing the right thing when it is hard.
  • Changing perspective.
  • How bad our mood is as a decision tool.
  • Doing what we planned, not what we feel like.
  • The pitfalls of comparing ourselves to others.
  • Comparing our insides to other peoples outsides.

Jordan Harbinger Links

The Art of Charm-Jordan Harbinger

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Art of Charm on Facebook

 

 

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"A setback is not permission to abandon your plans" - Chris Brogan

 

Eric talks about handling setbacks and disappointments 

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Joel Zaslofsky- The One You Feed
 
 
Joel Zaslofsky is the founder of The Value of Simple website and podcast. He is an author, speaker, and curator. He the author of Experiencing Curating: How to Gain Focus, Increase Influence and Simplify You Life. He is the creator of The Continuos Creation Challenge and The Digital Launch Playbook.
 
 

 In This Interview Joel and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Doing something selfless.
  • How we are all the same under it all.
  • The sacrifices of starting your own business.
  • Keeping your head up during hard times.
  • The value of rituals.
  • The power of gratitude.
  • Setting up systems to deal with a bad memory.
  • "Chaos was the law of nature, order is the dream of man".
  • The value of curation.
  • The Continuous Creation Challenge.
  • How the bad wolf feeds on passivity.
  • The power of momentum.
  • Focusing on the goals instead of the tools.
  • Doing what we planned, not what we feel like.

 

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This week we talk to Kristoffer Carter about building an Epic Life

Kristoffer Carter ("kc") is a meditation expert for rapid growth start-ups, facilitator, & experience designer for Good Life Project, created by Jonathan Fields. By day, KC helps lead education & development for Centro's 90-person sales force, having built the company from $65MM & 50 employees to over $300MM & 550 in the last 7 years. Centro has been named the #1 Best Place to Work in Chicago by Crains Business for the last 4 consecutive years.
 
KC is also a Kriyaban yogi (Self Realization Fellowship), husband & Father of 3, marathoner, and multi-instrumentalist since childhood.

His manifesto on his framework for "Full Life Integration" can be found at http://www.thisepiclife.com/manifesto KC's free program to create a powerful meditation habit can be found here: http://www.thisepiclife.com/meditation

 In This Interview Kris and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The power of discernment.
  • Right action- not all action is created equal.
  • His journey to becoming a yogi.
  • Kriya Yoga and The Autobiography of a Yogi.
  • Where personal development ends spiritual development begins.
  • His first experiences with meditation.
  • How hard meditation can be for some people.
  • Moving from the lizard brain to the human mind.
  • This Epic Life Manifesto.
  • What Non Negotiable's are and how to integrate them into your life.
  • How full life integration works.
  • How unused creative energy is not benign.
  • Being whoever you are wherever you are.
  • When it comes to your inner alignment there are no shortcuts.
  • Radical Self Inquiry and the value of a variety of personality surveys.
  • Bringing your whole self to your work.
  • Radical Authenticity.
  • Doing things that you are afraid of.
  • Discerning signals from static.

 

Kristoffer Carter Links

Kristoffer Carter- This Epic Life Homepage

Kristoffer Carter Twitter

Kristoffer Carter- This Epic Life- Facebook

Kristoffer Carter- You Tube

 

Personality Tests discussed on the show:

The Enneagram

Strengths Finder

Myers Briggs

 

 

 

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Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about . . . but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guidebook written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.  Her newest book Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love and Life is the guidebook for how to treat disappointment on the emotional, mental, behavioral and spiritual levels.

 In This Interview Christine and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Her favorite books and authors.
  • How we don’t have control but we do have choice.
  • What an expectation hangover is.
  • The three things that cause expectation hangovers.
  • The three types of expectation hangovers.
  • The ways we try and cope with expectation hangovers that don’t work.
  • Learning to feel our emotions instead of trying to talk ourselves out of it.
  • The spiritual bypass.
  • That an untreated expectation hangover can lead to addiction.
  • Our overwhelming fear of emotions.
  • How unexpressed emotions can lead to other problems.
  • Suppression = depression.
  • Pendulum thinking.
  • How we tend to think our emotions instead of feeling them.
  • The difference between releasing and recycling feelings.
  • One of our favorite books-Pema Chodron- When Things Fall Apart.
  • Not indulging or repressing emotions.
  • The stories we tell ourselves about our emotions.
  • How the desire of our ego and the direction of our soul are often headed in different direction.
  • The four components of the Expectation Hangover treatment plan.
  • Role Playing Rx.
  • Her 21 years on anti-depressants.
  • Dealing with depression.
  • Feeling lonely in a group of people.
  • Form versus essence.
  • Thinking about how we want to feel.
  • How looking for things to make us happy is a losing strategy.
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Envy- The One You feed

 

This week Eric discusses Envy and Comparison

In Dante's Inferno the envious had their eyes sewn shut. In our day we have a lot of social media comparison.

We discuss some approaches to handling envy and comparison

 

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Emiliya Zhivotovskaya- The One You Feed

 

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I was lucky enough to catch Emiliya Zhivotovskaya near the end of Camp GLP and we were able to sit down in her small room on the floor, holding microphones and have this conversation. I think we were both very tired after a great weekend at camp. She had delivered numerous workshops, emceed the Talent Show and was feeling under the weather to boot. Nonetheless it was a wonderful and warm conversation. Enjoy!!

At the age of 5, Emiliya and her family fled from Kiev, escaping the fall of Communism and the nuclear disaster at Chernobyl. She found herself in a new land, faced with challenges completely foreign to the average kid growing up in a New York suburb. Then, 9 years later, she faced yet another tragedy, the sudden loss of her brother as he ran to save his fiancé from drowning and lost his life in the process of saving hers. And years later, the loss of her mother.

From this place of deep challenge, she could have turned to the dark side. She could have given up, blamed the world and walked away from joy. From happiness. From possibility. Instead, she found awakening, strength and a renewed sense of gratitude. She discovered within herself a wellspring of resilience and a relentless desire to understand where this came from and how to bring a similar lens to others. She was determined to help others flourish.

Her exploration quickly developed into a lifelong quest, leading her to study psychology at Long Island University, then get her masters degree in applied positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania under the guidance of the legendary founder of the science, professor Martin Seligman. Graduating summa cum laude, she has gone on to found the Certification in Positive Psychology program at the Open Center and head up her own endeavor, The Flourishing Center. Emiliya is also currently pursuing her Ph.D. in Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University, where she is also on the graduate faculty. (Curriculum Vitae)

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya is widely acclaimed for her striking ability to share the transformative power of positive psychology, deliver actionable and specific strategies that yield tangible, measurable results. And share these ideas in a wonderfully engaging and entertaining way.

 In This Interview Emiliya and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How both wolves are part of the human condition.
  • How to feed both wolves and integrate them.
  • Courage is not a lack of fear but having the ability to move through it.
  • The bad wolf is trying to protect us, it is part of our evolutionary programming.
  • What is positive psychology?
  • How both positive and negative emotions are useful.
  • The role of positive psychology in handling depression and anxiety.
  • Depression masquerading as loneliness.
  • Why there are not more depression support groups.
  • Depression as learned helplessness.
  • The criticality of exercise in handling depression (Want to be depressed? Don't exercise!)
  • The BDNF and Serotonin loop.
  • Taking micro-steps to build new habits.
  • The biological wiring of social comparison.
  • The role of gratitude in feeling better.
  • How gratitude shifts the brain into a more expansive state.
  • The small tweak that makes gratitude much more powerful.
  • How negative emotion and problem solving are not connected, they can be pulled apart.
  • That negative emotions make problem solving worse and narrows our ability to see options.
  • How positive emotions help us move into broaden and build mode.
  • That pain as a motivator falls prey to the law of diminishing returns.
  • Eustress-the role of useful stress.
  • The difference between useful and destructive stress.
  • Thinking about being happier but not taking any action is worse than not thinking about it all.
  • The fixed vs growth mindset.
  • How you can't enjoy the journey when stuck in the fixed mindset and the growth mindset creates the conditions to enjoy the journey.

 

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya Links

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya Homepage

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya Facebook

Emiliya Zhivotovskaya Twitter

Certificate in Positive Psychology created by Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

 

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New Tree- The One You Feed

 

This week Eric responds to a follow on Twitter.

I posted a tweet the other day that said:

"The best way out of depression is to hate it and not let yourself get used to it"

I got this response from a follower:

"NOT TRUE - you cannot will yourself out of incorrect wiring in the brain. Watch the platitudes!"

In this episode I discuss the role of anger, will and resolve in dealing with depression.

 

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Jonathan Rottenberg- The One You Feed-

 

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This week we talk to Jonathan Rottenberg

Jonathan Rottenberg is a leading researcher in the area of emotion and psychopathology, where he has focused on major depression. He is author of the  book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic. The book is a new look at depression. Depression is discussed as an evolutionary adaptation that has gone wrong in our current culture. Depression is not thought of as a deficiency, or a lack of something. Instead he looks at depression through the lens of mood.

He edited Emotion and Psychopathology: Bridging Affective and Clinical Science, published by the American Psychological Association. Since receiving his PhD degree from Stanford University, he has been at the University of South Florida, where he is an Associate Professor of Psychology and Director of the Mood and Emotion Laboratory. His work has been generously funded by the National Institutes of Mental Health and he has authored over 35 scientific publications, including many in the top journals in psychology and psychiatry. His work has received national and international media coverage, reported in outlets such as Science News, Scientific American, and the The New York Times.

 In This Interview Jonathan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Depression as an evolutionary adaptation.
  • Mood theory versus the defect theory of depression.
  • That in our society incidence of depression is growing.
  • The evidence for an evolutionary view of depression.
  • How the purpose of depression is to help us disengage from activities that are not fruitful.
  • How the defect theory of depression has no way to account for the growth of depression.
  • How key human tendencies such as language and goal setting can exacerbate depression.
  • The human tendency to make meaning out of everything and the role this can play in depression.
  • The role of rumination in depression.
  • Persistence of low mood is a key indicator in long term depression.
  • His personal battle with depression.
  • The three things that seed low mood: Events, Temperaments and Routines.
  • The emotional set point theory.
  • How living in a culture so obsessed with happiness is partially responsible for the epidemic of depression.
  • Social media and the role it plays in depression.
  • The inability to tolerate a little bit of depression can create a crisis where someone comes to question the whole path of their life.
  • The goal of evolution is survival, not happinesss.
  • Using medicine for depression as a step on the path.
  • Having higher standards for depression sufferers.
  • Using depression as a bridge to a better life.
  • Three useful approaches to depression: meditation, cognitive therapy and acceptance.
  • How these approaches all turn down the volume on the meaning making machine.
  • Emotional context insensitivity.
  • Depressed people react less to negative stimulus than non-depressed people.
  • Anger can be a useful tool in getting out of depression.
  • Depression can be caused by over attachment to goals, not under attachment.

Jonathan Rottenberg Links

Jonathan Rottenberg Home Page

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Came Out of the Dark Campaign

Jonathan Rotttenberg on Twitter

Jonathan Rottenberg on Facebook

  

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The Indie Spiritualist- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Chris Grosso

Chris Grosso is an author, independent culturist, spiritual aspirant, recovering addict, speaker, and professor with en*theos Academy. He writes for Origin magazine, Mantra Yoga + Health magazine and created the popular hub for all things alternative, independent, and spiritual with TheIndieSpiritualist.com. Chris continues the exploration with his debut book titled The Indie Spiritualist

 In This Interview Chris and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How asking is the best way to get a yes.
  • Having Danny Trejo pointing a steak knife at him. 
  • What the word spiritual means.
  • Don't believe things on faith, try them out for yourself.
  • Eddie Van Halen solo and Chris's mystical experience.
  • How spiritual experience can happen anywhere, it does not have to be a "sacred" place.
  • Chris Forbes and his love of Air Supply.
  • No mud, no lotus.
  • Becoming great because of our pain.
  • Hiding from pain with drugs and alcohol.
  • How his parents were his first teacher of compassion.
  • Johnny Cash, punk rock, and hard-core music.

Chris Grosso Links

The Indie Spiritualist

Chris Grosso on Twitter

Chris Grosso on Facebook

Buy The Indie Spiritualist Book

 

 

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Blue Tree- The One You Feed

 

 This week Eric discusses positive concentration techniques to counteract rumination.

 

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Mishka Shubaly- The One You Feed [powerpress]  subscribe in itunes  This week we talk to Mishka Shubaly  After receiving an MFA from Columbia University, Mishka promptly quit writing to play music. He lived out of a Toyota minivan for a year, touring nonstop, and has shared the stage with artists like The Strokes, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs and The Decemberists.  His Kindle Singles for Amazon have all been bestsellers. He writes true stories about drink, drugs, disasters, desire, deception and their aftermath. The Long Run is Mishka’s mini-memoir and details his transformation from alcoholic drug abuser to sober ultrarunner. His latest Kindle single is called Of Mice and Me and details him finding an orphaned baby mouse and the life lessons it brought to him.  Also at the end of the interview we have a pre-release of a song from Mishka’s forthcoming record.   In This Interview Mishka and I Discuss...  The One You Feed parable. Watching the wolves battle since he was a kid. Nihilism and self defeating behaviors. How he celebrated his 5 years of sobriety. The ebb and flow of life. Remembering and forgetting our life lessons. How running is his meditation and prayer Doing the hard thing and embracing the challenges remind him that he wants to be alive.  How its harder to train for six weeks than to run 10 miles at once.  That smaller changes can be more difficult to maintain. Changing the default posture of our mind. How his mantra went from Fuck It to Try Every Day. Success being built on a series of failures. Learning to recover from our mistakes Extending the benefit of doubt to ourselves. The negative voice of the bad wolf. How we won't recover from addiction unless it is the most important thing in the world. His fear of AA. How there are no magic bullets. His public promise to attend an AA meeting. How it's worth trying anything once, expect maybe crystal meth. Our communal desire for having a lot of pain over a long period of time versus a brief intense pain. How following our dreams is not always the right approach. Playing music for the love of it. How the only thing that makes us happy is happiness. How getting everything we want doesn't always make us happy. Posting a picture of the The Strokes guitar player's ass all across Manhattan. Mishka Shubaly Links  Mishka Shubaly Homepage   Misha Shubaly Amazon Author page  Mishka Shubaly on Twitter  Of Mice and Me  The Long Run  Beat The Devil     subscribe in itunes  Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:  Kino MacGregor  Strand of Oaks  Mike Scott of the Waterboys  Todd Henry- author of Die Empty  Randy Scott Hyde

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This week we talk to Chris Guillebeau

Chris Guillebeau is a New York Times bestselling author and modern-day explorer.

During a lifetime of self-employment that included a four-year commitment as a volunteer executive in West Africa, he visited every country in the world (193 in total) before his 35th birthday. Since then he has modeled the proven definition of an entrepreneur: “Someone who will work 24 hours a day for themselves to avoid working one hour a day for someone else.”

Chris’s first book, The Art of Non-Conformity, was translated into more than twenty languages. His second book, The $100 Startup, was a New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller, selling more than 300,000 copies worldwide. His latest book, The Happiness of Pursuit, was just released today.

Every summer in Portland, Oregon, Chris hosts the World Domination Summit, a gathering of creative, remarkable people with thousands in attendance. Chris is also the founder of Pioneer Nation, Unconventional Guides, the Travel Hacking Cartel, and numerous other projects.

 In This Interview Chris and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What is a quest?
  • Finding adventure and purpose.
  • How a quest add meaning to our lives.
  • How effort can be it's own reward.
  • How an emotional awareness of our mortality can be motivating.
  • Developing a sense of urgency and opportunity.
  • How misadventure builds confidence.
  •  The difference between a hobby, a passion and a quest.
  •  How depressed people tend to have more generalized goals.
  • How quests don't always wrap up cleanly.
  • Creating meaning in our lives.
  • Eric's free ticket to World Domination Summit.

Chris Guillebeau Links

Chris Guillebeau Homepage

World Domination Summit

Chris Guillebeau on Twitter

Chris Guillebeau Amazon Author Page

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Charlie Rumination The One You Feed

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 Eric explores rumination and how damaging it can be to our mental health.

  • What is it?
  • What's the difference between rumination and self reflection?
  • Hebb's Law and the role it plays in rumination.
  • How to escape rumination.

Rough Transcript:

 

A few weeks ago I was at one of the local meditation centers and people were doing walking meditation. There was a guy walking incredibly slow and everyone was backing up behind him because no one but a disabled snail can move at that pace. So people weren’t doing walking meditation they were standing and looking at this guy with a grouchy look on their faces.

So I decided to stop him and explain that no one else could enjoy the meditation experience and it would be helpful if he could go just a bit faster.

A few minutes later we sat back down for sitting meditation and my mind began racing. Should I not have said anything? Was I rude? Was this guy angry? So I decided that when we got up I would go over to him and explain myself and make sure we were good. Problem solved….except not for my mind. On and on it went re-playing the scene and thinking about the upcoming conversation.

This is commonly know as rumination or brooding.

Rumination is the compulsively focused attention on the symptoms of one's distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its solutions. Rumination is generally considered differently than self-reflection. Self-reflelction tends to offer new insights wheras rumination is just playing the same negative thoughts and feelings over and over.

You will never plow a field by turning it over in your mind-

Irish Proverb

The challenge with rumination (or brooding) is that it feels like we are doing something about the issue or problem by continuing to think about it and ponder it. However rumination is extremely destructive and has been strongly linked to deep depression and anxiety. In fact a The UK's biggest ever online test into stress, undertaken by the BBC's Lab UK and the University of Liverpool, has revealed that rumination is the biggest predictor of the most common mental health problems in the country.

The tricky thing is that worry and rumination can seem essential part of coping effectively. The idea of letting go of rumination and worry can be frightening. The ironic thing is that rumination tends to increase anxiety and effectiveness in problem solving goes down as anxiety increases.

In addition a mind that ruminates becomes more likely to continue to do it. We have talked on the show about how we create pathways in our brain that become every easier to fall into the more reengage them. This is not a fanciful idea or silly positive thinking. Neurosccience has something called Hebbs Law. The phrase, “neurons that fire together wire together”  The meaning of Hebb’s axiom is that each experience we encounter, including our feelings, thoughts, sensations, and muscle actions becomes embedded in the network of brain cells, that produce that experience. Each time you repeat a particular thought or action, you strengthen the connection between a set of brain cells or neurons.

Think of it like taking a walk in the woods. Your thoughts are like hikers. The first hiker has to blaze her own trail. But over subsequent trips a trail gets worn in to the ground and more and more hikers will take that trail. The more hikers that take the trail the clearer it becomes and the more likely that future hikers will take it. It takes much more energy to go off the trail. Our brains work the same way, there is a need to conserve energy. Our brains use about 25% of the body’s total energy so the brain is going to default to the neural circuits that take less energy.

So it’s important to determine whether we are ruminating or problem solving.  If the thinking does not lead to a course of action within a reasonable period it is probably rumination.

Back to my story above, the first few minutes while I thought about the situation and came up with a plan of action was useful self- reflection and problem solving. Everything after that was useless rumination.

in our interview with Dan Harris he talks about the difference between useless rumination and what he calls constructive anguish . The question he asks himself is “Is this useful?”  If it doesn’t lead to meaningful effective action then it is useless rumination.

If we are ruminating the most important thing is to come to a hard stop. As soon as the ruminative thought begins – that one that doesn’t lead to new insights but is the same path – you immediately have to distract yourself with something that requires concentration. The key at this point is to stop the cycle. We have to stop the brain cold, we need to stay off the path. So anything that distracts us and requires concentration will work. Play a game, solve a puzzle, anything is better than the rumination.

So a quick summary, brooding is the process of playing negative thoughts and emotions over and over. It is also extremely destructive. It is a key indicator of depression, anxiety, high blood pressure and heat disease. We need to interrupt the brooding as soon as it begins. The best way to do this is to immediately switch the brain to something that requires concentration.

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Mishka Shubaly- The One You Feed

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This week we talk to Mishka Shubaly

Our guest today is author Mishka Shubalay. After receiving an MFA from Columbia University, Mishka promptly quit writing to play music. He lived out of a Toyota minivan for a year, touring nonstop, and has shared the stage with artists like The Strokes, The Yeah Yeah Yeahs and The Decemberists.

His Kindle Singles for Amazon have all been bestsellers. He writes true stories about drink, drugs, disasters, desire, deception and their aftermath. The Long Run is Mishka’s mini-memoir and details his transformation from alcoholic drug abuser to sober ultrarunner. His latest Kindle single is called Of Mice and Me and details him finding an orphaned baby mouse and the life lessons it brought to him.

Also at the end of the interview we have a pre-release of a song from Mishka’s forthcoming record.

 In This Interview Mishka and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Watching the wolves battle since he was a kid.
  • Nihilism and self defeating behaviors.
  • How he celebrated his 5 years of sobriety.
  • The ebb and flow of life.
  • Remembering and forgetting our life lessons.
  • How running is his meditation and prayer
  • Doing the hard thing and embracing the challenges remind him that he wants to be alive.
  •  How its harder to train for six weeks than to run 10 miles at once.
  •  That smaller changes can be more difficult to maintain.
  • Changing the default posture of our mind.
  • How his mantra went from Fuck It to Try Every Day.
  • Success being built on a series of failures.
  • Learning to recover from our mistakes
  • Extending the benefit of doubt to ourselves.
  • The negative voice of the bad wolf.
  • How we won't recover from addiction unless it is the most important thing in the world.
  • His fear of AA.
  • How there are no magic bullets.
  • His public promise to attend an AA meeting.
  • How it's worth trying anything once, expect maybe crystal meth.
  • Our communal desire for having a lot of pain over a long period of time versus a brief intense pain.
  • How following our dreams is not always the right approach.
  • Playing music for the love of it.
  • How the only thing that makes us happy is happiness.
  • How getting everything we want doesn't always make us happy.
  • Posting a picture of the The Strokes guitar player's ass all across Manhattan.

Mishka Shubaly Links

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The One You Feed Tree

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Eric starts to respond to a negative review and uses as it a way to explore the negativity bias and steps to work with it.

 

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Jonathan Fields- The One You Feed

 

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Jonathan Fields describes himself as a father, a husband, a maker and a man who cares deeply about, loves and admires those closest to him and is humbled and grateful for the opportunity to create, to connect and to serve.

He is the creator of The Good Life Project which is an audio and video podcast that was one of the inspirations for our show. He is also the author of Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance and Career Renegade.

He is also the creator of the upcoming Good Life Project Summer Camp which I will be attending.

 In This Interview Jonathan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Zooming out to get the meta view.
  • How a good life isn't a place at which you arrive but a lens that you see through.
  • The danger of "just a little bit more".
  • Contentment versus striving.
  • Appreciating what we have while taking action to achieve more.
  • The difference between aspire and desire.
  •  Destroying possibility by clinging to certainty.
  •  Spending more time thinking about today than our legacy.
  • "The path to becoming is littered with the remains of those who missed the grace of being".
  • Missing the present by being too focused on the future.
  • Missing the little moments while hoping for the bigger moments.
  • How we are not good at understanding what will make us happy.
  • The importance of being around people you love.
  • What a Good Life means to Jonathan-contribution, connection, vitality.
  • Comparing our insides with other peoples outsides.
  • The difference between meaning and happiness.
  • Creating more meaning in our lives.
  • How most of us don't know what we want to do with our lives and figure it out along the way.
  • The paralyzing nature of heavy questions.
  • How the person we are looking for is the person we are.
  • Chipping away all the gunk that covers up who we are.
  • Feeling like we have to have all the answers.

Jonathan Fields Links

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Jonathan Fields Homepage

Jonathan Fields Ted Talk

Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance

Career Renegade

The Good Life Project Creed

 

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Timber Hawkeye- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Timber Hawkeye

Timber Hawkeye is the author of the very popular book Buddhist Boot Camp. He offers a non-sectarian approach to being at peace with the world. 

His book was created from a series of blog posts and emails that friends encouraged him to publish. The book is a straightforward, plain spoken discussion of ways to live a better life.

 In This Interview Timber and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How feeding one wolf makes it stronger and more likely to show up again.
  • The process of creating his book.
  • Fight Club and the Parable of the Two Wolves.
  • Leaving  his corporate job to live in Hawaii and live a simple life.
  • "It's not the table, it's who is with you at dinner."
  • That happiness is not waiting for us in the distance but is available to us now.
  • How exhausting the pursuit of happiness can be.
  • The difference between feelings and emotions.
  • Making our own choices, paying our own prices.
  • We are the victims of our own choices.
  • The suffering we create for ourselves.
  • That pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.
  • Feeling are not facts.
  • Naming our demons and feeding our faith.
  • Going beyond setting intention to setting actions.
  • Explaining our anger instead of expressing it.
  • How quickly we cross the line from discussion to argument.
  • How vulnerability helps us to connect,
  • That your mind is like a spoiled rich kid.
  • How what you will allow will continue.

Timber Hawkeye Links

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Watsky: In celebration of Watsky's new album and our 300,000 listen we decided to re-release our very first episode. It remains our most downloaded episode and one of my favorites. Enjoy.

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Julien Smith- The One You Feed

 

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This week we talk to Julien Smith.

Julien Smith is the CEO of Breather, an on-demand space company, as well as the New York Times bestselling author of three books. Two of these, Trust Agents and The Impact Equation, were written with Chris Brogan (a previous guest). The third, The Flinch, has consistently remained one of the top read Kindle books since it was published in 2011.

Julien has been an author, a CEO, a professional voice actor, a radio broadcaster, and a consultant and speaker at some of the largest corporations in the world, including Google, Microsoft, American Express, Heineken International, and more. His work has also appeared in Cosmopolitan, GQ, CNN, and a host of other publications. His online work has been read by millions, literally.

 

 In This Interview Julien and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Building the habits to become the person you want to be.
  • The difference between his life as an author and his life as a CEO of a start-up company.
  • How hard it is to focus on personal development in the midst of a very busy, hectic life.
  • His new company, Breather.
  • The value in changing everything about yourself once in awhile.
  • The Flinch.
  • How often we talk about doing things but never do them.
  • The hidden, unknown thing that stops us from doing things.
  • We learn lessons the best when we are burned by them.
  • Experiencing something is very different than hearing about it.
  • How what we do now reinforces what we will do next time.
  • New ideas come from looking at new things in new ways.
  • Everything we do right now makes us into the person we are.
  • Learning to recognize the flight or flight response as it happens.
  • The power of tiny habits.
  • Breaking things down into the smallest possible chunks.
  • Using the principle of momentum.
  • How we want the glory without the suffering.
  • How there is no courage without fear.
  • Eliminating the pointless, cowardly and habitual in favor of the useful.
  • Making the choice to train ourselves.
  • Remembering that we are making choices every day.

Julien Smith Links

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Breather 

Buy Julien's books

Julien on Twitter

 

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Srini Pillay The One You Feed
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Srini Pillay M.D. Founder and CEO of NeuroBusiness Group

Srini Pillay, M.D. is Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Invited Faculty at Harvard Business School. He is also the Founder and CEO of NeuroBusiness Group. He graduated with the highest number of awards during his residency training at Harvard. He is also a Certified Master Coach. His specific expertise is on helping companies reach their goals by coaching strategy acceleration, change management, innovation, sales optimization, stress management and many other corporate goals. He has 17 years of experience in brain imaging and has an international reputation as a human behavior expert with special emphasis on stress and anxiety. His latest book is: Life Unlocked: 7 Revolutionary Lessons to Overcome Fear.

 

 In This Interview Srini and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The power of possibility.
  • The difference between conscious fear and unconscious fear.
  • What brain science tells us about unconscious fear.
  • How unconscious fear is a major factor in our lives.
  • The CIRCA method to manage unconscious fear.
  • Chunking your issues into smaller, more manageable pieces.
  • Ignoring the mind's chatter.
  • Giving your self a reality check.
  • Remembering that "this too shall pass"
  • Keeping our thoughts on what we can control.
  • Focusing our attention on positive things for some amount of time.
  • "Yoga Rage"
  • Turning on the default node network.
  • Dealing with "bottom up anxiety".
  • How to handle emotional flooding.
  • Being willing to make mistakes and be wrong.
  • How simple action can be the highest form of intelligence.
  • Taking small risks by tinkering.
  • Using preemptive perception to make better decisions.
  • Embracing the complexity of who we are.
  • How we are wired to manage disappointment versus achieving fulfillment.
  • Probability vs possibility thinking.
  • Mimicking the exceptions rather than the rules.

Srini Pillay Links

NeuroBusiness Group

Srini Pillay on Twitter

Srini articles in the Harvard Business Review

Life Unlocked: 7 Revolutionary Lessons to Overcome Fear

Your Brain and Business: The Neuroscience of Great Leaders

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Paul Gilmartin, host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour.

Paul is a funny guy who hosts one of the most best podcasts on the market today. We have a great chat with Paul and we play a game at the end; borrowed from his show where he, Chris and I take turns exchanging things we are afraid of and things we love. It is certainly the most we have ever gotten from Chris on the air.

The Mental Illness Happy Hour is an interview show known for it's candor, depth and intensity. In addition to the interviews Paul reads surveys about their lives filled out by his listeners that are in turn enlightening, horrifying and heartrending. However, the show is ultimately very hopeful. The combination of Paul's' humor, and the hope that is generated when people know they are not alone, gives the show an optimism that transcends the difficult subject matter.

From 1995 to 2011 Paul Gilmartin co-hosted TBS’ Dinner and a Movie, and has been a stand-up comedian since 1987. His credits include Comedy Central Presents: Paul Gilmartin, numerous Bob and Tom albums, comedy festivals and the Late Show with Craig Ferguson. He is also a frequent guest on the Adam Carolla podcast, performing political satire as right-wing Congressman Richard Martin.

 

 In This Interview Paul and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Forgiving ourselves for past misdeeds.
  • The healing power of humor when used correctly.
  • Not using humor to avoid feelings or intimacy.
  • How we all have the lightest light and the darkest dark within.
  • The cinematography of The Godfather.
  • His battles with depression both present and past.
  • Not being an expert.
  • That there are no easy answers.
  • That there are no fast fixes.
  • When does positive thinking become denial.
  • Accepting ourselves as we are, and working to change ourselves at the same time.
  • Letting the mistakes of the past inform our decisions for the future.
  • Apologizing without expecting something in return.
  • How we think the way we feel now is the way we will feel forever.
  • How evolution has made us fear based.
  • Avoiding useless rumination.
  • An unshakeable peace....sometimes.
  • Treating depression like the emotional flu.
  • We take Paul's show staple of Love Off and Fear Off and all three of us do it.

Paul Gilmartin Links

Mental Illness Happy Hour homepage

Paul Gilmartin homepage

Paul Gilmartin on Twitter

 

 

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Krista Tippett- The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Krista Tippett from On Being.

 

 In This Interview Krista and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How modern news feeds our bad wolf.
  • How science and religion ask different questions.
  • How modern society looks for the most polarizing and strident views.
  • Listening as a spiritual virtue.
  • Being open to be surprised and amazed.
  • Not needing to have the answers.
  • Loving the questions themselves.
  • Paradox and ambiguity.
  • A reverence for mystery.
  • Arriving at some of the best places in our lives through mistakes.
  • Depression as a black pandoras box.
  • The things that go wrong for us become part of our gifts to the world.
  • We become great not in spite of the hardships but because of them.
  • The path to spiritual genius is through being fully human.
  • Krista's definition of spirituality- the inner work that accompanies our outer lives.
  • Humor as a virtue.
  • How she has never met a wise person who does not laugh often.

Krista Tippett Links

On Being homepage

On Being on Twitter

Read Krista's books

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Timothy Showalter from Strand of Oaks.

Strand of Oaks aka Timothy Showalter just released one of the years best records. Heal has been celebrated by NPR, Pitchfork, Mojo and Uncut among many others. It's one of our favorite records of the year. The story behind Heal:

"From the first bars of HEAL, the exhilarating melodic stomp of 'Goshen '97' puts you right into Tim Showalter's fervent teenage mindset. We find him in his family's basement den in Goshen, IN, feeling alienated but even at 15 years old, believing in the alchemy and power of music to heal your troubles. "The record is called HEAL, but it's not a soft, gentle healing, it's like scream therapy, a command, because I ripped out my subconscious, looked through it, and saw the worst parts. And that's how I got better." HEAL embodies that feeling of catharsis and rebirth, desperation and euphoria, confusion and clarity. It is deeply personal and unwittingly anthemic.
Showalter was on tour, walking home on a mild autumn night in Malmo, Sweden, when he first felt the weight of the personal crisis that would ignite him to write HEAL. "It was a culmination of pressure," Showalter recalls. "My marriage was suffering, I'd released a record I was disappointed in, I didn't like how I looked or acted...so I'd gone on tour, I was gone about two years! I didn't take time to think about failure, but I knew I was going deeper and deeper...I was thinking, I have this life, but it's not my life, I haven't done it right..."When Showalter returned, he wrote 30 songs in three weeks, a process that proved difficult, but cathartic and at times invigorating. Previous Strand Of Oaks records were more skeletal, raw examples of folk-rooted Americana with occasional rock and electronic currents, that have now come to the fore. HEAL is a bold new beginning, with a thrilling full-tilt sound that draws on Showalter's love of '70s, '80s and '90s rock and pop, with the singer and guitarist playing the intense valedictory confessor.

In This Interview Tim and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The great success of his new record.
  • The saddest line on his new record.
  • The importance of feeling all of our emotions, not just the good ones.
  • How hard it is to write uplifting music that isn't cheesy.
  • Disliking ironic music.
  • The redemptive power of rock and roll.
  • How we care less about what people think as we age.
  • The power of being our authentic selves.
  • Becoming who we are.
  • Avoiding the victim/villain mindset.
  • Jason Molina of Songs:Ohia.
  • Fighting the dark times.

Strand of Oaks Links

Strand of Oaks homepage

Buy Heal on Amazon

Strand of Oaks on Twitter

Strand of Oaks on Facebook

Strand of Oaks playlist on YouTube

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Kino MacGregor.

We interviewed Kino after one of her weekend yoga retreats that she held in Columbus. We talked upstairs in a loft above the meeting space. She was warm, engaging and wise.

She is an international yoga teacher, author of two books, producer of six Ashtanga Yoga DVDs, writer, vlogger, world traveler, co-founder of Miami Life Center (www.miamilifecenter.com) and founder of Miami Yoga Magazine (www.miamiyogamagazine.com). Her YouTube channel reached more than 2 million views within the last year(www.youtube.com/kinoyoga). She is one of a select group of people to receive the Certification to teach Ashtanga Yoga by its founder Sri K. Pattabhi Jois in Mysore, India and practices through the Fourth Series of Ashtanga Yoga.

Without any background in movement training Kino tried her first yoga class when she was nineteen. Three years later, she joined Govinda Kai’s Mysore-style classes in New York City and became a dedicated Ashtanga yoga practitioner. After seven months of traditional Ashtanga practice Kino traveled to Mysore, India to meet her true teacher, Sri K. Pattabhi Jois (“Guruji”). Upon her return she began real self-practice by practicing alone and devoting herself entirely to the study and teaching of Ashtanga yoga. After seven years of consistent trips to Mysore, at the age of 29, she received from Guruji the Certification to teach Ashtanga yoga and has since worked to pass on the inspiration to practice to countless others.

In This Interview Kino and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Keeping your peace of mind regardless of the circumstances.
  • How hard yoga can be.
  • How yoga intentionally challenges your nervous system.
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  • Retraining the habit pattern of your nervous system.
  • Walking the middle path.
  • Not craving pleasure and pushing away pain.
  • Taking what you learn during yoga out into the world.
  • The value of surrendering to a method.
  • Finding a genuine teacher.
  • Yoga as a spiritual practice.
  • Yoga and meditation in a secular setting.
  • Using physical limits as a mirror for the inner journey.
  • Her story of becoming a yoga teacher.
  • Her depression, searching and questioning.
  • Learning to not force everything.
  • Meeting her teacher.
  • The definition of truth as "what works".
  • How what works one day may not work the next day.
  • The multiple versions of the truth.
  • The paradox of ambition versus acceptance.
  • Balancing efforts between striving and not attachment to results.
  • How depression can be the ultimate quitting.
  • That love doesn’t make the pain go away but love is still bigger.

Kino MacGregor Links

Kino MacGregor homepage

Yoga for Beginners with Kino

Ashtanga Yoga:Primary Series with Kino MacGregor

Ashtanga Yoga: Intermediate Series with Kino MacGregor

The Power of Ashtanga Yoga: Developing a Practice That Will Bring You Strength, Flexibility, and Inner Peace

Sacred Fire: My Journey Into Ashtanga Yoga

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This week on The One You Feed we have Dan Harris.

Dan is best known for his work on ABC News, Nightline and Good Morning America, but we invited him on the show because of his latest book: 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works--A True Story.

I was fascinated by this book. Dan was driven to meditation and self help out of a self imposed crisis after he had a panic attack on national TV. His journey through that landscape mirrored my own to some degree. He had a degree of skepticism from the beginning that he retains today. He also was perplexed by the paradox that most fascinates me: What is the degree that serenity can erode our ambition?

Going from the esoteric teachings of Eckhart Tolle to the down to earth practical modern buddhism of Mark Epstein (author of the classics Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart and Thoughts without a Thinker) he was able to find an approach that worked for him. The book is insightful, hilarious and very instructive.

In This Interview Dan and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • That the mind can be trained for compassion and happiness.
  • Exercising the brain just like the body.
  • The science of meditation.
  • The message for people who are skeptical of meditation.
  • The voice in my head is an asshole.
  • 10% happier not unicorns and rainbows.
  • What meditation isn't.
  • Reading Eckhart Tolle.
  • Our tendency to focus on the bad things and ignore the good.
  • The difference between constructive anguish and useless rumination.
  • The difference between pain and suffering.
  • "the craving to be elsewhere, to be otherwise, permeated my life"
  • The tendency to project into the future.
  • "The background static of perpetual discontent".
  • How we are like colicky babies who are never quite satisfied.
  • His conflicted view on the tendency to never be satisfied.
  • How dissatisfaction can drive us forward.
  • When it is useful to keep pushing and when is it better to back down?
  • The happiness set point theory.
  • Raising our emotional set point.
  • Ambition versus satisfaction.
  • Motivation coming from happiness versus pain.
  • Not being attached to the results.
  • Romanticizing melancholy.
  • How a certain amount of stress is necessary.
  • Being happy does not work at cross purposes to being successful.
  • Dealing with failure.
  • How when our minds wander we are less happy.
  • Meditation in less than 140 characters.
  • Remembering to feed the good wolf.
  • How one of the meanings of mindfulness is remembering.
  • Training to be less of an asshole.

Dan Harris Links

Dan Harris page on ABC News

Purchase 10% Happier

Dan Harris on Twitter

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Lewis Howes.

I first talked with Lewis when he reached out to us shortly after our launch of the show to introduce himself. He noticed we were from Columbus, Ohio where he used to live. It was a truly kind gesture and it was awesome for us to talk with someone so successful in the podcasting world. He invited us to join his excellent podcasting network, The Integrity Network.

We were lucky enough to make this another in person interview. We visited Lewis in his West Hollywood apartment. Lewis is one of those people who seem to have it all together and have the perfect life. But it wasn't always that way for him. He grew up feeling alone and like he didn't belong. He suffered awful childhood sexual abuse. He had a great deal of trouble learning to read, he thought he was stupid.  An injury ended his athletic career at.

Like all people, he has faced adversity. In our conversation he discusses how he has overcome that adversity. He also names the ability to overcome adversity as the trait that most stands out from all the amazing people he has talked with on his podcast, School of Greatness.

We had a lot of great discussion before and after the podcast. Lewis pressed me on some decisions I make in my life and gave me a lot to think about. He was generous, kind and extremely helpful and suppotive.

In This Interview Lewis and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The importance of the environments we place ourselves in.
  • Feeding the bad wolf.
  • Learning to come from a place of kindness versus defensiveness.
  • Growth mindset vs the fixed mindset.
  • The importance of perspective.
  • Avoiding the victim mindset.
  • Using inner and outer feedback.
  • How to be a better communicator.
  • Not taking things personally.
  • His definition of greatness.
  • The poison of comparison.
  • Growing more resilient and courageous.
  • Turning things into a game.
  • The goal of life.
  • Falling in love with pain.
  • Using pain to get stronger.
  • Not resisting.
  • His adventure with the US National Handball team.
  • His upcoming book.
  • His dream of being an Olympian.
  • The key to success=consistency.
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This week on The One You Feed we have Lama Kathy Wesley.

Wow...episode #30. Thanks to all of you listening out there.

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This interview was the 2nd interview we ever conducted and our longest episode we have ever aired. We conducted the interview at Lama Kathy's meditation center. It is a beautiful facility and a great room to record in.

Early on we thought it would be a good idea to talk as long as we could and then edit it down to our usual ~30 minute time frame. We learned the hard way that editing that much material is very time consuming and painful. It's painful because there are so many great insights that it hurts to limit it. I think we talked with Lama Kathy for over 90 minutes. We were simply unable to get much below an hour for the total because it was such a great interview.

We conducted it at the Columbus meditation center where Lama Kathy is the resident teacher. It is called Karma Thegsum Choling (KTC) and is a Tibetan meditation center. It is part of the Kagyu lineage which stretches back in an unbroken line of teachers to the 10th century.

Lama Kathy is the resident teacher at KTC and is in frequent demand, teaching at centers throughout the US. She has been a student of Khenpo Karthar Rinpoche since 1977. She participated in the first three-year retreat led by Khenpo Rinpoche at Karme Ling Retreat Center in upstate New York, and thus earned the title of “retreat lama.” She is a graduate of Ohio State University with a bachelor's degree in journalism and lives in Newark, Ohio with her husband, Michael.

In This Interview Lama Kathy and I Discuss...

  • Her spiritual path.
  • How she became a Buddhist lama.
  • The one teaching that is most important.
  • How her life no longer belongs to her, but to everyone.
  • The reason to pursue spiritual teachings.
  • How spirituality is evolutionary.
  • That people come to spiritual path out of pain or confusion.
  • The importance of a spiritual method or technique.
  • How our stories in our mind change as we quiet the mind.
  • How some relief from our own pain and suffering makes it easier to help others.
  • Approaching the spiritual path.
  • The value of a good teacher.
  • The different approaches to meditation.
  • The one you feed parable.
  • How happiness and suffering arrive from the inside.
  • The universality of truth.
  • The importance of picking a path and sticking to it.
  • How egotism can co-opt anything.
  • Spiritual materialism.
  • The obstacles we face on the path of spirituality.
  • Doubt.
  • The beer commercial approach to spirituality.
  • The danger of expectations.
  • The difference between effort and struggle.
  • How love and compassion are always the answer.
  • Relative vs universal compassion.

Lama Kathy Links

Lama Kathy Homepage

Columbus Karma Thegsum Choling

The Karma Kagyu Lineage

Dharma Paths book recommended by Kathy

Lama Kathy on Twitter

The 17th Karmapa on Twitter

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This week on The One You Feed we have Jon Wurster.

Jon Wurster is an American musician and humorist best known as the drummer for indie rockers Superchunk, The Mountain Goats and Bob Mould as well for his comedic work with radio host Tom Scharpling on the The Best Show on WFMU.

Wurster has recorded and/or performed live with artists such as Bob Mould, Jay Farrar, Ben Gibbard, Robert Pollard, Katy Perry, The New Pornographers, Rocket from the Crypt, Ryan Adams, R.E.M., Guided by Voices, Marah, Alejandro Escovedo,A.C. Newman, Chris Stamey and Peter Holsapple, Inspiral Carpets, The Minus 5, and Charlie Daniels.

Wurster is one half of the radio comedy team Scharpling and Wurster. Tom Scharpling is the longtime host of The Best Show on WFMU radio program. The duo have been releasing CDs on their Stereolaffs label since 1999. Their most recent album is 2007's The Art of The Slap. Scharpling and Wurster have collaborated in music videos written and directed by Tom Scharpling and starring Wurster. The videos were created for The New Pornographers, Aimee Mann, and The Postal Service.

Wurster has written for television shows such as Your Pretty Face is Going to Hell, Monk, Squidbillies, Tim and Eric Awesome Show and Tom Goes to the Mayor.

In This Interview Jon and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The importance of acknowledging the bad wolf.
  • Some of his favorite personal development books.
  • Learning to take what you like from books and leaving the rest.
  • His early depression.
  • WordHate™
  • His dislike of the ukulele music trend.
  • Not trusting people from different social circles.
  • His comedy with Tom Scharpling on The Best Show on WFMU.
  • His favorite character from The Best Show.
  • His touring schedule.
  • His decision to stop drinking.
  • The negative downward cycle of drinking.
  • The enjoyment of playing sober.
  • The music he turns to for inspiration.
  • Getting started in music.
  • Playing rock music with Stephen Dubner.
  • Remembering that we are all "works in progress".
  • The importance of self-awareness.
  • Learning to guide our behavior by how it makes us feel.

 

Jon Wurster Links

Jon Wurster on Twitter

Sterolaffs-The home of Wurster and Schaprling

The Best Show on WFMU Archives

Best Show Gems- Almost exclusively Jon's phone calls.

Superchunk Homepage

The Mountain Goats homepage

Bob Mould homepage

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Anna David.

I met Anna at her studio in Los Angeles where she records the AfterParty Pod. If I didn't insist on trying to keep the conversation close to 30 minutes we might still be talking.

Anna David is the New York Times-bestselling author of the novels Party Girl and Bought, the non-fiction books Reality MattersFalling for MeBy Some Miracle I Made It Out of There  and True Tales of Lust and Love and the Kindle Singles Animal Attraction and They Like Me, They Really Like Me.

She was the sex and relationship expert on G4’s Attack of the Show for over three years and is a regular guest on The Today Show, Fox News’ Hannity and Red EyeThe CBS Morning Show, Dr. DrewThe Talk, Jane Velez-Mitchell, Inside Edition and various other programs on Fox News, NBC, MSNBC, CTV, MTV News, VH1 and E. Her Sirius radio show was the network’s number-one specialty show and she’s written for The New York TimesThe LA TimesDetailsPlayboyPeopleCosmoUs WeeklyRedbookMaximMovielineWomen’s HealthVice, The Daily Beast, The Huffington Post,Buzzfeed, xojane and Salon, among many others. She has been an editor at the websites Styleclick, Dipdive and The Fix, an assistant editor at Parenting and a staff writer for Premiere. In 2011, she created the storytelling show True Tales of Lust and Love (now a web series for Ish Entertainment and soon to be a comedy pilot), which she hosted until it closed in 2014.

In 2013, Anna created TheAfterPartyGroup, which is made up of articles and a podcast focused on de-stigmatizing addiction. She sold the company in 2014 but continues to run the site and podcast. She speaks on television and at colleges across the country on addiction and is on the board of The Peggy Albrecht Friendly House, the oldest women’s recovery house in the US.

In This Interview Anna and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Not knowing that we have a choice in how we feel and think.
  • Understanding that we have some control in our happiness.
  • How self obsession was making her so unhappy.
  • The difference between sadness and self-pity.
  • When to accept feelings and when to change them.
  • How hard it is to tell what we can change and what we need to accept.
  • How our default position tends to be negative.
  • Feeling bad about feeling bad.
  • The emptiness of acquisition.
  • The different paths to addiction.
  • Feeling that we need to take care of others emotions.
  • Not settling.
  • Always thinking that life is somewhere else in the future.
  • Fear of looking vulnerable.
  • Fostering cooperation instead of competition.
  • Despair and Compare.
  • Deciding to embrace the life we have.
  • Comparing our insides to other people's outsides.
  • How no one's life is perfect.

 

Anna David Links

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Anna's Podcast- AfterParty Pod

AfterParty Chat

Anna David Author page on Amazon

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Noah Levine.

We were lucky enough to sit down with Noah in the Against the Stream headquarters in Los Angeles. Noah's teachings are core to everything that I have come to believe over the years. I'm really excited to present this interview.

Noah Levine (born 1971) is an American Buddhist teacher and the author of the books Dharma Punx: A Memoir Against the Stream,  and The Heart of The Revolution. As a counselor known for his philosophical alignment with Buddhism and punk ideology, he founded Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society

As a youth, Levine was incarcerated several times. His first book, Dharma Punx, details teenage years filled with drugs, violence, and multiple suicide attempts—choices fuelled by disillusionment with American mainstream culture. His substance abuse started early in life—at age six he began smoking marijuana—and finally ended in a padded detoxification cell in juvenile prison 11 years later. It was in this cell where he hit "an emotional rock bottom" and began his Buddhist practice "out of a place of extreme drug addiction and violence".

He recently started Refuge Recovery which is a community of people who are using the practices of mindfulness, compassion, forgiveness and generosity to heal the pain and suffering that addiction has caused. His new book is titled Refuge Recovery: A Buddhist Path to Recovery from Addiction.

In This Interview Noah and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How he found Buddhism through his life failures.
  • What "going against the stream" means.
  • That the bad wolf has a stronger tendency in us and wins by default.
  • How our capacity for kindness, generosity, and love have to be cultivated.
  • Why the path of the Buddha is revolutionary.
  • Going against the status quo.
  • How to be in the world but not of it.
  • The distinction between suffering and pain.
  • The difference between craving and desire.
  • Why suffering is not your fault.
  • How the 1st Noble Truth normalizes the experience of suffering.
  • The impermanent nature of all things.
  • How we can never satisfy happiness through sense pleasure.
  • How we layer suffering on top of our pain.
  • Not asking "why" but instead asking "how do I respond"
  • Meeting pain with compassion and kindness.
  • Learning to include ourselves in our circle of compassion.
  • The crippling power of doubt in our growth.
  • The gradual nature of spiritual growth.
  • How sometimes the first things we find in our spiritual practice is the bad stuff.
  • His new program, Refuge Recovery.

 

Noah Levine Links

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Against the Stream audio archives

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Noah Levine Amazon Author Page

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Rosalind Wiseman.

Rosalind Wiseman is a teacher, thought leader, author, and media spokesperson on bullying, ethical leadership, the use of social media, and media literacy, she is in constant dialogue and collaboration with educators, parents, children, and teens.

She is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl Worldthe groundbreaking, best-selling book that was the basis for the movie Mean Girls. Her latest books, Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World was published in September 2013.  In addition, she wrote a free companion e-book for high school boys, entitled The Guide: Managing Douchebags, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You Want.

In This Interview Rosalind and I Discuss...

    • The One You Feed parable.
    • Handling negativity in a positive way.
    • The importance of the people and the things that choose to be surrounded by.
    • How we all need a language which to communicate our emotional experience.
    • The different expectations for boys and girls.
    • The unwritten rules that try to force us into a box.
    • How social status is often determined by how well we fit into these unwritten rules.
    • How men battle body image issues and conditioning as well as girls.
    • The Act Like a Man Box.
    • How we are taught to dehumanize each other.
    • The power of cultural conditioning messages.
    • How we can never really overcome them, just learned to be more mindful of them.
    • The shame of feeling like we don’t fit into the box.
    • The link between being able ask for help and emotional well-being.
    • Have dignity is nonnegotiable but respect must be earned.
    • Listening is being willing to be changed by what you hear.
    • Asking ourselves what our intention is in a conversation and making sure it isn’t just to win the argument.
    • How being in connection to other humans is fundamental to our nature.
    • The positive and negative power of groups.
    • Trivializing others experiences because we don’t think they know as much as us.

 

Rosalind Wiseman Links

Rosalind Wiseman Homepage 

Rosalind Wiseman Amazon Author Page

Rosalind Wiseman on Twitter

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This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon.

Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology.

Solomon’s newest book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identitypublished on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn't be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity."

Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages.  The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”

In addition he recently conducted an exclusive interview with Peter Lanza, father of Adam Lanza, perpetrator of the Sandy Hook School shooting. It was published in The New Yorker and received an enermous amount of media coverage.

 In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Using work to make the world a better place.
  • The urgent business of living a moral life.
  • How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.
  • How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.
  • The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.
  • The perfectionism of privilege.
  • The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.
  • How we can grow through difficult circumstances.
  • The poison of comparison.
  • The idea of the "psychological supermodel".
  • Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.
  • Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.
  • A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.
  • How critical humor is in dealing with depression
  • New approaches to treating depression.
  • His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.
  • The shame of mental illness.
  • If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.
  • A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.
  • How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.
  • The choices we face.
  • How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.

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Andrew Solomon Amazon Author Page

Andrew Solomon on Twitter

Andrew Solomon on Facebook

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Matthew Quick- The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Matthew Quick.

Matthew Quick (aka Q) is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook, which was made into an Oscar-winning film; The Good Luck of Right Now; and three young adult novels: Sorta Like a Rockstar ; BOY21; and Forgive me, Leonard Peacock  His work has been translated into thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. Love May Fail will be published in 2015. All of his books have been optioned for film.

In This Interview Matthew and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The importance of the stories we tell ourselves and the stories we believe.
  • Surrounding himself with people who help feed his good wolf.
  • Growing up in a world where everyone told him he could never be a fiction writer.
  • The Good Luck of Right Now.
  • Working with the negative voices in our head.
  • Synchronicity.
  • Fiction writing as therapy.
  • The line between positive thinking and delusion.
  • Where the idea for the Silver Linings Playbook came from.
  • Believing wildly in yourself
  • The role of humor.
  • His struggles with depression and anxiety.
  • How hiding mental health conditions makes it worse.
  • Polishing the bars of our prison.

Matthew Quick Links

Matthew Quick Homepage

Matthew Quick Amazon Author Page

Matthew Quick on Twitter

Matthew Quick on Facebook

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This week on The One You Feed we have Joe Oestreich.

He is the author of the memoir, Hitless Wonder: A Life in Minor League Rock and Roll, which documents the twenty-five years he toured the country in a beat up Econoline as the bass player and co-singer for Columbus Ohio’s Watershed.

His writing has appeared in EsquireSports IllustratedNinth LetterFourth Genre, and many other magazines. He's been awarded a fellowship from the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts, honored by The Atlantic Monthly, and shortlisted in The Best American Nonrequired Reading 2007The Best American Essays 2008 and 2009, and The Pushcart Prize: Best of the Small Presses 2010 and 2014. He is now teach creative writing at Coastal Carolina University in Conway, SC, where he is the nonfiction editor of Waccamaw.

In This Interview Joe and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Getting the work done.
  • Making time for your art.
  • Taking selfishness too far.
  • Working hard.
  • How working hard is sometimes you the only thing you can change.
  • Not being attached to external success.
  • The work has to be it's own reward.
  • The frustration of not seeing the success you want.
  • That there has never been a better time to get your work in front of people.
  • The support from his father.
  • Watershed's legendary manager Biggie.
  • Optimism versus fear.
  • Opening for the Insane Clown Posse.
  • His upcoming book.

Joe Oestreich Links

Joe Oestreich homepage

Watershed homepage

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Frank Turner The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Frank Turner.

This is a big episode for me. When I came up with the concept of the show, Frank Turner was the first person I thought of that I wanted to have as a guest. His music is hugely important to me. He feeds my good wolf on a regular basis.

Frank was a singer in a hardcore band, Million Dead. When they broke up he started out on his own with an acoustic guitar. He has released  five solo albums, two rarities compilation albums, one split album and five EPs. His fifth studio album, Tape Deck Heart was released just over a year ago.

In This Interview Frank and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The feeling that there is never enough time.
  • The importance of friendship in feeding your good wolf.
  • His role as a CALM Ambassador.
  • Building a community around music.
  • What punk rock meant to him as a kid.
  • Staying connected to his values of openness and community as he gets more famous
  • Music as a refuge for those that don't fit in.
  • Music that he turns to to feed his good wolf.
  • Writing the press release for John K Samson's latest record.
  • The challenges of alcohol and drugs.
  • Getting older and the changes in identity that come with that.
  • His love of dogs and his amazing "dog policy" at shows
  • His forthcoming record.

Frank Turner Links

Frank Turner Homepage

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Frank Turner on Twitter

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The One You Feed Tree

"Positive thinking can look an awful lot like old-fashioned denial"

Jessica Lamb-Shapiro

 

In this mini-episode I'm discussing my ambivalence on positive thinking. I cover:

Our Jessica Lamb-Shapiro interview

- One of my Favorite quotes

- The Stockdale Paradox

- My former boss

-Striking a balance

 

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Jessica Lamb-Shapiro.

Jessica Lamb-Shapiro is the author of the book Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help Culture. Jessica Lamb-Shapiro has published fiction and nonfiction in The Believer, McSweeney's, Open City, and Index magazine, among others. She has been a fellow at the MacDowell Colony and the New York Foundation for the Arts, and is a graduate of Brown (BA) and Columbia (MFA).

We loved the great writing, the honest look at self-help, and the insights that she delivers. This was a really fun conversation that left us with a lot to think about.

In This Interview Jessica and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How positive thinking can become denial.
  • The history of self-help stretching back to ancient Egypt.
  • Using self-help terminology to avoid emotional intimacy.
  • Challenges with the Law of Attraction.
  • The paradox of self improvement: When should you accept yourself and when should you try to change.
  • When is acceptance the right course and when is it settling?
  • How cliches can become meaningless but yet still contain so much truth.
  • Finally being able to talk about her mothers suicide.
  • Growing up with a self-help author as a father.

Jessica Lamb-Shapiro Links

Jessica Lamb-Shapiro Homepage

Buy Promise Land: My Journey through America's Self-Help Culture

Jessica on Twitter

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This week on The One You Feed we have Brenden Dilley.

Brenden Dilley is the author of the book Still Breathin': The Wisdom Teachings of a Perfectly Flawed Man.

We were taken by the intensity, directness and self-deprecating humor throughout the book. Brenden is not one to sugar coat things, he doesn't even dust a little Sweet'N Low on them.

He was introduced to the world of “self-help” at the age of eleven by his mother, Lisa Kitter. At the age of thirteen, he was doing book reports on titles such as “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Upon graduating from high school, Brenden went on to become a highly successful personal trainer, receiving his certification through the National Academy of Sports Medicine.

Brenden is also a single parent to his three children: Sophia Rose, Jasmine Nai’a and Phoenix Alexander. Much of what Brenden writes, speaks about, teaches and trains on revolves around parenting, dating, relationships, self-empowerment, fitness and authenticity.

Currently, Brenden resides in Phoenix, Arizona, and works in the world of commercial real estate development.

Warning: This interview has some slightly ribald humor in parts. 

In This Interview Brenden and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How acknowledging all aspects of ourselves is important.
  • Why we need to be less judgmental of ourselves as we try to grow and change.
  • In order to move forward forgiving yourself is paramount.
  • Comfort versus happiness.
  • How we can't judge choices until we see the results.
  • Making sure that your daily actions align to your dreams.
  • Getting honest about achieving our goals.
  • What working as a waiter in a nudist resort taught him about humility.
  • How to not project your own bull*shit onto your kids.
  • How to handle negative energy from other people.
  • Avoiding the guru complex in the self-help world.
  • Staying authentic.

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Dave Davies The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Dave Davies of the legendary band The Kinks.

As lead guitarist and founder of The Kinks, Dave Davies is one of the most unpredictable and original forces in rock, without whom guitar-rock styles including heavy metal and punk would have been inconceivable. A member of the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame, Dave's massive guitar sounds have inspired bands from Van Halen to Green Day. In addition to his dozens of albums with The Kinks, Dave has released three official solo albums.

In 2003, Davies was ranked 88th in Rolling Stone magazine's list of the "100 Greatest Guitarists of All Time"

He has released six official studio albums, the latest being 2013's I Will Be Me.  He is also the author of a new book called Heal: A Guide to Meditation.

In This Interview Dave and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How early in life he heard the pull of the two wolves.
  • How we need both wolves.
  • His new book Heal: A Guide to Meditation.
  • The value of meditation.
  • How breathing affects the mind and body.
  • How meditation helped him to recover from his massive stroke.
  • Star Trek and Star Wars.
  • How we need our pain.
  • The power of intention.
  • Some of his favorite solo records.
  • The karma of his relationship with his brother, Ray.
  • The value of happy accidents.
  • Some of his favorite guitar riffs.
  • The origins of his beautiful song Flowers in the Rain.
  • Thoughts on a Kinks reunion.
  • What he has planned for the future.

Dave Davies Links

Dave Davies Hompage

Heal: A Guide to Meditation

Dave's excellent new record I Will Be Me

Dave Davies on Twitter

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Rich Roll.

Rich Roll  is a 47-year old, accomplished vegan ultra-endurance athlete and former entertainment attorney turned full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, motivational speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living.

In 2012, Rich became a #1 bestselling author with the publication of his inspirational memoir Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself.  Taking up where the book leaves off, in 2013 Rich launched the wildly popular Rich Roll Podcast, which persistently sits atop the iTunes top-10 lists.

In May 2010, Rich and his ultra-colleague Jason Lester accomplished an unprecedented feat of staggering endurance many said was not possible. Something they call the EPIC5 CHALLENGE – a odyssey that entailed completing 5 ironman-distance triathlons on 5 islands of Hawaii in under a week. Commencing on Kauai, they travelled to Oahu, Molokai and Maui before finishing on the Big Island, following the course of the Ironman World Championships on the Kona coast.

 In This Interview Rich and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • His experience feeding the bad wolf.
  • His battle with alcoholism.
  • How his sobriety wasn't all he needed for happiness.
  • His moment of clarity at 40 that made him change his life again.
  • The value of a plant based diet.
  • How important it is to be ourselves and be vulnerable in telling our story.
  • How nervous he was about sharing his innermost thoughts in his book.
  • How he followed his heart and it led to a new life for him
  • Why you should stop lifehacking and invest in the journey.
  • How to push through discomfort.
  • The difference between the thinking mind and your higher consciousness.
  • Eric taking on a 30 day plant power challenge.

Rich Roll Links

Rich Roll homepage

The Rich Roll podcast

Rich Roll on Medium

Why You Should Stop Lifehacking and Invest in the Journey

@RichRoll on Twitter

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Eric goes solo for mini-episode two.

Hi Everyone....I'm doing another 5 minute mini-episode. This one I talk about why we started the podcast and some thoughts on the Two Wolves parable. The audio quality is not up to our normal standards but I'm doing the recording outside of our studios.

As always feedback is very welcome and appreciated.

We will release a normal episode on Tuesday as always.

 

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Brian Koppelman.

Brian Koppelman is an American screenwriter, novelist, director, and producer. Best known as the co-writer of Ocean's Thirteen and Rounders, Koppelman has also produced films such as The Illusionist and The Lucky Ones as well as directed films such as Solitary Man.

He was an A&R representative from 1988-1997 for such companies as Elektra Records, Giant Records, SBK Records and EMI Records, during which time he discovered singer songwriter Tracy Chapman and executive-produced her first album.

He is also the creator of the excellent video series called The Six Second Screenwriter and the host of the new podcast, The Moment with Brian Koppelman.

Brian is also one of the kindest guys out there. He is genuinely curious about life and people. We really enjoyed our conversation.

 In This Interview Brian and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable, although a bit later than usual.
  • How he got his start as a screenwriter and writing his first script, Rounders.
  • Why working everyday is so important.
  • The power of momentum.
  • Specific practices he does to feed his good wolf.
  • How our intentions tell us a lot about which wolf we are feeding.
  • The importance of art in a good life.
  • A great fiction recommendation from Brian.
  • How denying your creative side can turn you toxic
  • His new podcast, The Moment with Brian Koppelman.
  • Some of his pivotal moments in life.
  • How stand-up comedy helped him face his fears and finish the script he was stuck on.
  • WTF and Marc Maron.
  • Curiosity.
  • Music we love.

Brian Koppelman Links

Brian Koppelman homepage

The Six Second Screenwriting Lessons

The Moment with Brian Koppelman podcast

Brian Koppelman IMDb profile

Brian's article about WTF and Jim Breuer

Twitter- @briankoppelman

City of Thieves, Brian's book  recommendation

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This week on The One You Feed we have Chris Brogan.

Chris Brogan is a best selling author, the publisher of the new online business magazine Owner, and the president of Human Business Works. He leads online classes on improving your business and yourself. He has a popular podcast and is one of the good guys in online marketing.

Chris puts out a weekly newsletter that you can sign up for here. It is one of those rare emails that I read each week.

We had a chance to go beyond (actually skipped entirely) online marketing and instead focused on being a better human.

 In This Interview Chris and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The bad wolf's smelly poop.
  • The power of confidence.
  • Building confidence by taking small risks.
  • How limiting chasing comfort can be.
  • Feedback and reward systems.
  • The value of accountability.
  • How mind reading others lands us in trouble.
  • Permission.
  • Starting where you are.
  • How Seth Godin got Chris to read Pema Chodron.
  • Chris' conversion to Buddhism.
  • Dealing with setbacks.
  • Than danger of the all or nothing mentality.

Chris Brogan Links

Owner Magazine

Chris Brogan Homepage

Human Business Works

Pre-Order Chris' latest book: The Freaks Shall Inherit the Earth: Entrepreneurship for Weirdos, Misfits, and World Dominators

Twitter- @chrisbrogan

 

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Hi Everyone...trying something new. Eric goes solo for a quick talk on getting moving when you feel stuck. 

We will be back with a normal episode on our usual release day, Tuesday.

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Shozan Jack Haubner.

Shozan Jack Haubner is the author of the wonderful memoir Zen Confidential: Confessions of A Wayward Monk. We loved this book. It was poignant, insightful and absolutely hilarious. With a foreword written by, Leonard Cohen (The Guest We Want The Most), we should have known it would be great.

Jack has also won a Pushcart Prize and been featured in the Best Buddhist Writing Series. His humorous essays have appeared in Tricycle, Utne Reader, BuddhaDharma, Huffington Post, Shambhala Sun, Spirituality & Health, and the Sun. A former screenwriter and standup comic, he moved to a Zen Buddhist monastery in the early aughts. He was drawn to the rigors of Zen practice, the deep insight of the tradition, and the fact that Zen monks do not have to refrain from cursing or drinking alcohol. A year into his life as a full-time Zen monk he discovered that Buddhism is fundamentally about "no self." He is still wondering if an exception can be made in his case.

 In This Interview Jack and I Discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • His interpretation of The Middle Way in Buddhism.
  • Our shadow side.
  • How the problem and the solution are one.
  • How the people in our lives are not a hindrance to awakening, they are our teachers.
  • The role of humor in living a good life.
  • How we turn ourselves into constant self improvement projects and the problems with that.
  • How meditation helps us to know ourselves better.
  • The life lessons of working in a monastery kitchen.

Shozan Jack Haubner Links

Zen Confidential: Confessions of a Wayward Monk

Shozan Jack Haubner Twitter 

Shozan Jack Haubner Shambala page

 

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Tony Dekker- The One You Fee

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This week on The One You Feed we have Tony Dekker.

Tony Dekker is the founding member, lead singer and the lead songwriter of the band Great Lake Swimmers. He has also recently released an excellent solo album, Prayer for The Woods.

The Great Lake Swimmers, were founded in 2003, and have released five studio albums since. Their 2009 record, Lost Channels, was shortlisted for the prestigious Polaris Prize, and their followup, New Wild Everywhere, was released in 2012. The band is working on a new album currently.

 In This Interview Tony and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How important the natural world is in feeding our good wolf.
  • His life growing up on the farm.
  • The various places that he has recorded over time and the value of "place".
  • The value of considering our own death.
  • Our shared love of Leonard Cohen.
  • The next Great Lake Swimmers record.
  • His trip to Antarctica.
  • Prayer of the Woods poem and song.

Tony Dekker Links

Great Lake Swimmers homepage

Tony Dekker homepage

Great Lake Swimmers Amazon Page

 

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Mike Scott-The One You Feed

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This week on The One You Feed we have Mike Scott.

Mike Scott is the founding member, lead singer and the lead songwriter of rock band The Waterboys. He has also produced two solo albums, Bring 'em All In and Still Burning.  Scott is also a published writer, having released his autobiography, Adventures of a Waterboy, in 2012.

We have been big fans of Mike Scott and The Waterboys since 1985 so this was an exciting interview for us. It's a great way to mark our 10th episode. Hope you like it!

 In This Interview Mike and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How our choices create who are.
  • What he learned at the spiritual community Findhorn.
  • How to go back and forth from an interior world of peace to the outer world of show business.
  • Sustaining yourself during storms.
  • The critical role of stillness in finding peace of mind.
  • Ellie Goulding's version of How Long Will I Love You.
  • Inner balance.
  • Details about the new Waterboys record.
  • What music he is listening to these days.
  • What Arthur's Day is and why he wrote a satire about it.
  • How we are the authors of our own lives.
  • What the word spiritual means.

Mike Scott Links

Mike Scott/ Waterboys homepage

Mike Scott Tumblr

Mike Scott Amazon Page

The Waterboys Amazon Page

 

 

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Langhorne Slim.

Langhorne Slim is a singer/songwriter who is originally from Pennsylvania. He has been celebrated by numerous press outlets. Rolling Stone praised his latest record "The Way We Move" as "damn near perfect," while The Guardian proclaimed the band as "one of the greatest live acts." Additionally, Entertainment Weekly called Langhorne Slim "your next obsession," and The New Yorker described him as having "Leadbelly's gift for storytelling and Dylan's ability to captivate crowds."

We caught Langhorne as he was moving from one town to the other and preparing for his next appearance on the Conan O'Brien show.

In This Interview Langhorne and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How two old Jewish men fed his good wolf.
  • How important music is.
  • How you can't serve two gods at once.
  • His new-found sobriety.
  • How alcohol can keep us from being real and raw.
  • Facing life without a protective barrier.
  • His moms favorite song.
  • How to get the best stuff out of us and into the world.
  • What the first song he learned to play on guitar was.
  • How he got on the Conan O'Brien show

Langhorne Slim Links

Langhorne Slim homepage

Langhorne Slim Facebook page

Langhorne Slim Amazon Page

Langhorne Slim You Tube Mix

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This week on The One You Feed we have Randy Scott Hyde.

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We fell in love with Randy's blog, Filling My Soul Hole, The Ongoing Battle to Stick it To Depression. It is a truly compelling read. It is funny, erudite and poignant and has a lot to teach us about Feeding Our Good Wolf. It is based on Shawn Achor's TED talk about 5 simple steps to being happier.

Randy Scott Hyde is a writer who grew up in a small refinery town in SE Texas. He got the heck out of there and received his MFA in Creative Writing from Antioch University and a Bachelors of Music from the University of Texas. Randy is also a professional fundraiser for San Francisco non-profits.

In This Interview Randy and I discuss...

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  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What his 30 Day Challenge is and why he did it.
  • How clear action and direction can help fight depression.
  • The role accountability plays in making personal changes.
  • What are the 5 happiness tasks recommended by Shawn Achor.
  • Whether they worked for Randy.
  • How rigidity is the enemy in making changes.
  • The critical role of momentum.
  • How a random act of kindness turned into a spiritual experience.
  • What happened when the 30 days were up.
  • What Randy is doing now.

Randy Scott Hyde Links

Randy Scott Hyde homepage

The 30 Day Experiment

Shawn Achor Ted Talk

Shawn Achor Homepage

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Kevin Griffin.

Kevin Griffin is a Buddhist author, teacher, and innovator in the field of  addiction treatment. The insight and intimacy of his teaching have made him a leader in the mindful recovery movement.

He is the author of the classic, One Breath at a Time, which is one of the first books about blending mindfulness and 12 step recovery. He recently released a workbook based on those teachings . His most recent book, A Burning Desire: Dharma God and The Path of Recovery, deals with the concept of a higher power through a Buddhist lens.

In This Interview Kevin and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How what we think about becomes who we are.
  • If you want to be loving think loving thoughts.
  • How the Buddha applied a penetrating intellect.
  • What  the 5 Precepts are and how they apply in our lives.
  • Why spirituality is not anti-intellectual.
  • How recovery is a behavioral approach and meditation is a more cognitive approach.
  • A passable definition of spirituality
  • How we all know that happiness doesn't come from things
  • How we don't live according to our beliefs.
  • What the root of mindfulness is.
  • Limiting beliefs.
  • Cause and Effect.

Kevin Griffin Links

Kevin Griffin Homepage

One Breath at a Time

Buddhism and the Twelve Steps: A Recovery Workbook for Individuals and Groups

A Burning Desire: Dharma God and the Path of Recovery

Kevin's musical album: Laughing Buddha

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Todd Henry-The One You Feed

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Todd Henry. Todd describes himself as "an arms dealer for the creative revolution"

Todd is the founder of Accidental Creative, a company that helps creative people and teams generate brilliant ideas.  He regularly speaks and consults with companies, both large and small, about how to develop practices and systems that lead to everyday brilliance. Todd’s work has been featured by Fast CompanyFortuneForbes,HBR.orgUS News & World Report, and many other major media outlets.

His latest book, Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Every Day, unlocks the forces that cause even the brightest, most skilled people to become stagnant in their life and career, and introduces practices that help them build a body of work they can be proud of.

It’s been called “A simple, elegant and masterful manual for leading a fulfilled life” by David Allen, author of Getting Things Done, and Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art says “If you can read this book and not be inspired, you need a 100% full-body-and-soul transplant.”

In This Interview Todd and I discuss...Edit Post ‹ The One You Feed — WordPress

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • What mediocrity means.
  • The Seven Deadly Sins of Mediocrity.
  • How little choices become a big choice.
  • How to pick your battles
  • Why the phrase "no one on their deathbed ever wished for another day at the office" is wrong.
  • What the west coast should have to match the Statue of Liberty.
  • How no one loves every part of their job and that's ok.
  • That a little of something is better than a lot nothing.
  • What are Mapping, Making and Meshing?
  • The difference between Drivers, Drifters and Developers.
  • What is the Project Plateau?
  • What is the core practice to transform your work?
  • Common Sense is not Common Practice
  • What is the Bliss Station?
  • Where is the most valuable land in the world?
  • Not abdicating your contribution.

Todd Henry Links

Todd Henry homepage

Todd's latest book: Die Empty

The Accidental Creative homepage

Todd Henry author page on Amazon

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Dan Millman. Dan is a former world champion athlete, university coach, martial arts instructor, and college professor as well as a best selling author.

After an intensive, twenty-year spiritual quest, Dan's teaching found its form as the Peaceful Warrior's Way, expressed fully in his books and lectures. His work continues to evolve over time, to meet the needs of a changing world.

Dan's thirteen books, including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, have inspired and informed millions of readers in 29 languages worldwide. The feature film, "Peaceful Warrior," starring Nick Nolte, was adapted from Dan's first book, based upon incidents from his life.

In This Interview Dan and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • The choice we face every day.
  • What does window cleaning have to do with spirituality?
  • How to get moving in the right direction.
  • How life always comes down to whether or not you take the action.
  • Starting small and connecting the dots.
  • That a little of something is better than nothing.
  • The danger of the all or nothing mentality.
  • That knowledge alone is not enough.
  • Life purpose.
  • A definition of wisdom.
  • Skillful versus unskillful action.
  • The Four Purposes of Life.
  • How life is a perfect school and the lessons get harder if we don't learn.
  • The conventional realm and the transcendental realm.
  • The process of writing a book with his daughter.

 

Dan Millman Links

Dan Millman homepage

Dan Millman author page on Amazon

Dan's latest  book with his daughter Sierra: The Creative Compass

 

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This week on The One You Feed we have Lodro Rinzler. He is a teacher in the Shambhala Buddhist lineage and the author of the books "The Buddha Walks into a Bar" and "Walk Like a Buddha". Over the last decade he has taught numerous workshops at meditation centers and college campuses throughout North America. Lodro’s columns appear regularly on the Huffington Post and Marie Claire online and he is frequently featured in Reality Sandwich, the Interdependence Project, Shambhala Sun, Buddhadharma, and Good Men Project. He is the founder of the Institute for Compassionate Leadership, an authentic leadership training and job placement organization, and lives in Brooklyn with his dog Tillie and his cat Justin Bieber.

In This Interview Lodro and I discuss...

  • The One You Feed parable.
  • How you can be sort of a mess and still ok.
  • Basic Goodness versus Original Sin
  • Do psychopaths have basic goodness
  • How the death of one of Lodro's close friends led him to spend time in Columbus, OH- our hometown.
  • How to build a committed group of people in a community.
  • Alcohol
  • How alcohol is like a chainsaw.
  • How fixed expectations cause us trouble.
  • Lodro's relationship advice.

Lodro Rinzler Links

Lodro Rinzler homepage

Lodro's YouTube page

Lodro Rinzler author page on Amazon

Institute for Compassionate Leadership

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This week on The One You Feed our guest is Oliver Burkeman. Oliver is a journalist for the Guardian and the author of a wonderful book called The Antotdote: Happiness for People who Hate Positive Thinking. 

 In This Interview Oliver Burkeman and I discuss...

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  • The One You Feed parable.
  • Why you should ask yourself:  "What is the worst thing that could happen".
  • Do you have a problem right now?.
  • What musterbation is and why you should avoid it.
  • Why positive thinking isn't all it's cracked up to be.
  • Why focusing too much on your goals can be counterproductive.
  • How many wars were started in world history because somebody forgot their coffee in the AM.
  • What pop songs can Oliver not get out of his head.
  • Why positive thinking abhors a mystery.
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